Tuesday, April 27, 2021
Today's Gift
The occasions are many when we'd like to share a feeling, an observation, perhaps even a criticism with someone. The risk is great, however. They might be hurt, or they might walk away, leaving us alone.
Many times, we need not share our words directly. Weighing and measuring the probable outcome and asking for some inner guidance will help us decide when to speak up and when to leave things unsaid. But if our thoughts are seriously interfering with our relationships, we can't ignore them for long.
Clearing the air is necessary sometimes, and it freshens all relationships. When to take the risk creates consternation. But within our quiet spaces, we always know when we must speak up. And the direction will come. The right moment will present itself. And within those quiet spaces the right words can be found.
If I am uncomfortable with certain people, and the feelings don't leave, I will consider what might need to be said. I will open myself to the way and ask to be shown the steps to take. Then, I will be patient.
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Once we have embarked upon this program, we find spiritual recovery through relationships more than any other single factor. We find it through relationships with other people, with ourselves, and with our Higher Power. But most people in recovery need to learn how to be in a relationship. We have to give up ideas that a friendship is an intense connection or a conflict-free blending of like minds.
A meaningful friendship is a long-term dialogue. If there is conflict or if we make a mistake or fail to do what our friend wants of us, we don't end the friendship. We simply have the next exchange to resolve the differences. Our dialogue continues over time, and time - along with many amends - builds the bond. With it develops a deepening sense of reliability and trusting one another. When we have lived with our friend through many experiences - or with our Higher Power - we gain a feeling that we really know them in a way we could never have in a brief intense connection.
Action for the Day: Today, I will do what I need to do to be reliable in my friendships.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
When we retire at night, we constructively review our day. Were we
resentful, selfish, dishonest or afraid? Do we owe an apology? Have
we kept something to ourselves which should be discussed with
another person at once? Were we kind and loving toward all? What
could we have done better? . . . After making our review we ask our Higher Power’s
forgiveness and inquire what corrective measures should be taken.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (Into Action) p. 86
Thought to Ponder
I want the gift of an untroubled mind.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A S A P = Always Say A Prayer
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
Beyond conflict***************************Daily MotivationExcerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
If you run from conflict, it eventually finds you. If you give in to conflict, it grows even stronger and more emboldened.
The way to end conflict is to deal with it. And the way to deal with it is to overwhelm it with a positive, determined purpose.
When you’re merely fighting against something, the fighting never ends. To permanently get beyond the conflict, work to replace it with something far more valuable and positively compelling for all concerned.
That is certainly not easy. It requires commitment, persistence, and much effort in the face of difficult challenges.
Yet in the end, it is the far better choice. For rather than perpetuating the conflict, you will have removed any reason for it to ever reoccur.
There is a higher, positive purpose that will replace the destructive purpose of the conflict. Do the work to bring everyone to it.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
If you run from conflict, it eventually finds you. If you give in to conflict, it grows even stronger and more emboldened.
The way to end conflict is to deal with it. And the way to deal with it is to overwhelm it with a positive, determined purpose.
When you’re merely fighting against something, the fighting never ends. To permanently get beyond the conflict, work to replace it with something far more valuable and positively compelling for all concerned.
That is certainly not easy. It requires commitment, persistence, and much effort in the face of difficult challenges.
Yet in the end, it is the far better choice. For rather than perpetuating the conflict, you will have removed any reason for it to ever reoccur.
There is a higher, positive purpose that will replace the destructive purpose of the conflict. Do the work to bring everyone to it.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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