Thursday, April 18, 2019

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-18-2019

Friday, April 18, 2019
Today's Gift

The joy of life consists in the exercise of one's energies, continual growth, constant change, the enjoyment of every new experience. To stop means simply to die. The eternal mistake of mankind is to set up an attainable ideal. --Aleister Crowley

One of the prohibitions many of us learned in childhood is the unspoken rule — don't have fun and enjoy life. This rule creates martyrs — people who will not let themselves embrace the pleasures of day-to-day living.

Many of us associated suffering with some sort of sainthood. . Now, we associate it with codependency. We can go through the day making ourselves feel anxious, guilty, miserable, and deprived. Or we can allow ourselves to go through that same day feeling good. In recovery, we eventually learn the choice is ours.

There is much to be enjoyed each day, and it is okay to feel good. We can let ourselves enjoy our tasks. We can learn to relax without guilt. We can even learn to have fun.

Work at learning to have fun. Apply yourself with dedication to learning enjoyment. Work as hard at learning to have fun as you did at feeling miserable.

Our work will pay off. Fun will become fun. Life will become worth living. And each day, well find many pleasures to be enjoyed.

Today, I will let myself enjoy life as I go through my day.


From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©

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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

No labor, however humble, is dishonoring.---The Talmud

Work is good for the heart. Work is good for our minds. It can give us something to focus on besides ourselves. Labor doesn't just mean having a job. It may mean planting a garden or helping a friend. It certainly means working our program. Hopefully, it's a labor of love. We can get into trouble if we have to much time on our hands. We can turn it into mischief or self-pity. We can get bored. Being bored is a matter of choice. We'll never be bored if we ask ourselves, "How can I make this world a better place?" We can turn our answers into action.

Prayer for the Day:
Higher Power, teach me to use my time wisely. Help me be well-balanced between labor and fun. I need both.

Action for the Day: I'll list five ways that labor and fun can help me get closer to my Higher Power. And I'll look for people and things to fill my time in positive ways.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Enjoyment
But we aren’t a glum lot. If newcomers could see no joy or fun in our existence,.
they wouldn’t want it. We absolutely insist on enjoying life.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 132

Thought to Ponder . . .
Laughter is the sound of recovery.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
B E S T = B
een Enjoying Sobriety Today

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Envision the goodness
by Ralph Marston

You are here, now, ready to live this fresh new moment. And that’s a great thing.

Whether you’re immersed in pleasure or being obstructed by challenge, you have value and richness to be lived. Move forward with thankfulness for your opportunity to do so.

Let go of any judgment or resentment or conceit surrounding how you got here. Open yourself to the best possibilities for making good use of what you now have.

Consider the new richness that can result from your actions. Envision the goodness you can give to this day, to this place, and put your best efforts into the service of that vision.

Forgive yourself and others quickly if you find you’ve gone astray. Then get right back to making the most of where you are.

Whatever this day looks like, however this moment has unfolded, it is an irreplaceable opportunity. Live it, with your best attitude, with your highest expectations, for all the beauty and progress it can bring.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, April 17, 2019

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-17-2019

Wednesday, April 17, 2019
Today's Gift

Our deeds will travel with us from afar, and what we have been makes us what we are. ~George Eliot

We grow within, the way a tree does. We've all seen the rings representing the years of a tree's life. We carry our histories with us, too. Our actions, our attitudes, our goals, and our dreams all gather together inside us to make us what we are today. We're probably ashamed of some of our past, but our behavior each day adds to our history, and we control it.

We can't escape our mistakes, but we don't have to repeat them; and every day that is lived well gives us a history to be proud of.

How can I add goodness to my past—and my future—by my actions today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Walk in Dry Places

Living here and now.
Despite all evidence that we must live for today, some of us persist in trying to recapture the past. We may be holding a few good memories that we would like to bring alive today. More likely, we may also be re-fighting old battles in the hope that this time we'll come out winners.

But since change is taking place everywhere at every moment, we can never return to any previous place or time. Time does march on, and we are part of the parade. Whether we were winners or losers in the past, we can live only in the here and now.

The good news is that we can retain any lessons from the past and put them to use today. If we have scalding memories of twisted relationships, we can remind ourselves that growth and understanding now place us out of harm’s way. And if we remember the things that did turn our right even in the confused past, we can reflect that even greater good is possible today.

Our home is never in the past. It is in the time and place where we are today. As we make the best of it, all of our future homes in place and time will improve, for “in our Higher Power’s house are many mansions.”

Action for the Day: Accepting the value of all of its lessons, I will close the door firmly on the past, knowing that I must devote all of my interest and energies to the present moment.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Thy Will Be Done
We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show,
humbly saying to ourselves many times each day "Thy will be done."
We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry,
self-pity, or foolish decisions. We become much more efficient.
We do not tire so easily, for we are not burning up energy foolishly
as we did when we were trying to arrange life to suit ourselves. 
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (Into Action) pp. 87 - 88

Thought to Ponder
I can't do His will my way.

AA-related 'Alconym'
A B C = Acceptance, Belief, Change

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Pleasant thought
by Ralph Marston

You don’t have to let your thoughts continue to resist your life and your efforts. Whenever you choose, you can think a pleasant thought.

Think a pleasant thought, and push your awareness in a positive direction. Think a pleasant thought, and raise your energy to a higher level.

There are all too many incidents that can trigger a cascade of distressing feelings. They can trap you in a vicious negative thought pattern and immobilize your efforts.

When you realize that’s happening, break the pattern with a pleasant thought. Think of a good memory, a dear friend, a favorite place, or a satisfying activity.

A pleasant thought is not naive, wishful thinking. It is a strategy that enables you to regain control and to boost your effectiveness.

When life knocks you down is precisely the time you can benefit most from a positive perspective. Think a pleasant thought, and get yourself back to being your best.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/

Tuesday, April 16, 2019

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-16-2019

Tuesday, April 16, 2019
Today's Gift

In the face of an obstacle, which is impossible to overcome, stubbornness is stupid. —Simone de Beauvoir

Sudden obstacles, barriers in the way of our progress, doors that unexpectedly close, may confuse, frustrate, and even depress us. The knowledge that we seldom understand just what is best for us comes slowly. And we generally fight it, even after we've begun to understand. Fortunately, the better path will keep drawing us to it.

We may wonder why a door seems to have closed. Our paths are confounded only when our steps have gone astray. Doors do not close unless a new direction is called for. We must learn to trust that no obstacle is without its purpose, however baffling it may seem.

Life lessons can help us understand the unexpected. We may need to accept our powerlessness, believe there is a higher power in control, and look to it for guidance. We may also need to remind ourselves that fighting an obstacle, pushing against a closed door, will only heighten our frustration. Acceptance of what is will open our minds and our hearts to the better road to travel at this time.

The obstacles confronting me invite me to grow, to move beyond my present self. They offer me chances to be the woman I always dreamed of being. I will be courageous. I am not alone.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Letting Things Happen

We do not have to work so hard at gaining our insights. Yes, were learning that painful and disappointing things happen, often for a reason and a higher purpose. Yes, these things often work out for good. But we don't have to spend so much time and energy figuring out the purpose and plan for each detail of our life. That's hypervigilence!

Sometimes, the car doesn't start. Sometimes, the dishwasher breaks. Sometimes, we catch a cold. Sometimes, we run out of hot water. Sometimes, we have a bad day. While it helps to achieve acceptance and gratitude for these irritating annoyances, we don't have to process everything and figure out if its in the scheme of things.

Solve the problem. Get the car repaired. Fix the dishwasher. Nurse yourself through the cold. Wait to take the shower until there's hot water. Nurture yourself through your bad day. Tend to your responsibilities, and don't take everything so personally!

If we need to recognize a particular insight or awareness, we will be guided in that direction. Certainly, we want to watch for patterns. But often, the big insights and the significant processing happen naturally.

We don't have to question every occurrence to see how it fits into the Plan. The Plan - the awareness, the insight, and the potential for personal growth - will reveal itself to us. Perhaps the lesson is to learn to solve our problems without always knowing their significance. Perhaps the lesson is to trust ourselves to live, and experience, life.

Action for the Day: Today, I will let things happen without worrying about the significance of each event. I will trust that this will bring about my growth faster than running around with a microscope. I will trust my lessons to reveal themselves in their own time.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2


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One Day At A Time

A Square Look
But when we have taken a square look at some of these defects,
have discussed them with another, and have become willing to have
them removed, our thinking about humility commences to have a
wider meaning. By this time in all probability we have gained some
measure of release from our more devastating handicaps. We enjoy
moments in which there is something like real peace of mind.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, (Step Seven) p. 74

Thought to Ponder
I never imagined that the greatest achievement of my life would be peace of mind.

AA-related 'Alconym'
A G O = A
nother Growth Opportunity


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Whatever is at hand
by Ralph Marston

What is it about whatever just happened, that you can make good use of? What constitutes this moment, this situation, that can be of benefit to yourself and others?

Being positive is not a matter of wishing or pretending for life to be good. Rather, it is digging the best outcomes out of even the worst circumstances.

It’s easy to pick the low-hanging fruit, but that usually gets taken very quickly. Sustainable success means extracting value that’s not immediately obvious.

There’s something about this day, this place, this environment, that you can transform into richness. Look at the small details, at the big picture, in context, out of context, and find the potential value that’s surely there.

The treasure with which you fill life is not pre-defined. You can make as much of it as you choose, in any flavors you wish, out of whatever is at hand.

Surprise and delight yourself with your own resourcefulness. Discover again and again how good it feels to find meaning and beauty where no one ever saw it before.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, April 15, 2019

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-15-2018

Monday, April 15, 2019
Today's Gift

You have to treat yourself. Life is too short to deprive yourself of things. --Nathalie Emmanuel

Give Ourselves What We Deserve

Often, our instinctive reaction to something we want or need, "No! I can't afford it!"

The question we can learn to ask ourselves is, "But, can I?"

Many of us have learned to habitually deprive ourselves of anything we might want, and often things we need.

Sometimes, we can misuse the concept of gratitude to keep ourselves unnecessarily deprived.

Gratitude for what we have is an important concept. So is believing we deserve the best and making an effort to stop depriving ourselves and start treating ourselves well.

There is nothing wrong with buying ourselves what we want when we can afford to do that. Learn to trust and listen to yourself about what you want. There's nothing wrong with buying yourself a treat, buying yourself something new.

There are times when it is good to wait. There are times when we legitimately cannot afford a luxury. But there are many times when we can.

Today, I will combine the principles of gratitude for what I have with the belief that I deserve the best. If there is no good reason to deprive myself, I won't.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

It seems to me that I have always been waiting for something better - sometimes to see the best I had snatched from me. --Dorothy Reed Mendenhall

Gratitude for what is prepares us for the blessings just around the corner. What is so necessary to understand is that our wait for what's around the corner closes our eyes to the joys of the present moment. We have only the 24 hours ahead of us. In fact, all we can be certain of having is the moment we are presently experiencing. And it is a gift to be enjoyed. There is no better gift just right for us than this moment, at this time.

We can, each of us, look back on former days, realizing that we learned too late the value of a friend or an experience. Both are now gone. With practice and a commitment to ourselves, we can learn to reap the benefits of today, hour by hour. When we detach from the present and wait for tomorrow, or next week, or look to next year, we are stunting our spiritual growth. Life can only bless us now, one breath at a time.

Action for the Day: I can live in the present if I choose to. Gentle reminders are often necessary, however. I will step into my life, today. It can become a habit, one I will never want to break.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Honesty
Somehow, being alone with our Higher Power doesn't seem as embarrassing
as facing up to another person. Until we actually sit down and talk
aloud about what we have so long hidden, our willingness to clean house
is still largely theoretical. When we are honest with another person,
it confirms that we have been honest with ourselves and with our Higher Power. 
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, (Step Five) p. 60

Thought to Ponder
Honesty is the absence of the intent to deceive.

AA-related 'Alconym'
C H A N G E D = Choosing Honesty Allows New Growth Each Day

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Be good to yourself
by Ralph Marston

Do something nice for yourself today. Take time to give yourself a special treat.

In order to contribute to life and provide value to others, you must first connect to the value that is within you. To connect with and appreciate that unique inner value, be good to yourself.

Think of the things that feel good, and right, and fulfilling to you. Look past all the superficial things undertaken or acquired only to impress others, and focus on what is sincerely you.

Give yourself the gift of being totally and joyfully you. Let go of your concerns, your worries, your pretenses and anxieties, and truly enjoy the moment you’re in.

By being good to yourself, you’ll be much better equipped to deal with whatever difficult situations the world sends your way. By being good to yourself, you vastly increase the value you can provide to others.

On a regular basis, take the opportunity to be good to yourself. And it will spur you on to become the best that you can be.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/