Wednesday, July 7, 2021
Today's Gift
We have fallen into many difficulties because of poorly defined personal boundaries. Some of us never learned to say no to our mothers and felt invaded or ruled by them. Or we never truly said no to our fathers - never went through a teenage rebellion to establish ourselves as adults. Others have gotten stuck saying no and have never learned to yield and say yes.
Boundary problems have been part of the difficulty in many areas of our lives. We've told ourselves we have no right to our yes or no, or we've said we're strong enough to sacrifice for someone else, or we've welcomed the escape from ourselves in discarding our choice. Not saying no when we needed to or not saying yes when we wanted to has led many of us into doctors' offices, lost jobs, ruined friendships, divorces, and bad marriages. Now the inner voice of our Higher Power is showing us our limits and encouraging us to stand up for them.
I am learning to know myself by defining my boundaries and choosing when and when not to cross them.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Walk In Dry Places
What should I have said or done?
Second thoughts
After an intense discussion, we might rehash what we said and wish we'd said something else. Perhaps some brilliant remark occurs to us long after the conversation has ended.
We can say only what comes to us at the time of the discussion. Our best preparation for any such discussion.... however important.... is to place the matter in our Higher Power's hands, seeking the highest good for everyone involved.
It may be that the brilliant thoughts coming to us later would have actually been inappropriate. After all, important discussions also involve exchanges of strong feelings that influence the meeting. If our feelings are in line with the high principles of the program, the discussion should go well. In such cases, we will probably say what we're supposed to say.
Today's Action: I'll do my best today without trying to second-guess every word or action.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how
our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and
self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain
interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude
and outlook upon life will change.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (Into Action) p. 84
Thought to Ponder
Life will take on new meaning.
AA-related 'Alconym'
B E S T = Been Enjoying Sobriety Today
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
Calm strength***************************Daily MotivationExcerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
Speak your mind. Pursue your cause. Stand your ground. Make things happen -- with calm strength. When you get tense, excited and angry, when you scream, shout and flail around you tend to make a lot of mistakes. You tend to look foolish. You live to regret your actions.
Instead, be truly strong. Nervous excitability burns out quickly and can do much damage in the process. Calm and determined strength keeps on making a positive, persistent difference until the victory is won.
It’s easy to get agitated. It’s easy to get angry and excited. It is more effective, though, to take a studied, thoughtful and persistent approach. Take a deep breath. Take another. You can make things happen. Rather than putting on a show, put your energy into making a difference. Calm down, be strong, and become a real and undeniable winner.
Speak your mind. Pursue your cause. Stand your ground. Make things happen -- with calm strength. When you get tense, excited and angry, when you scream, shout and flail around you tend to make a lot of mistakes. You tend to look foolish. You live to regret your actions.
Instead, be truly strong. Nervous excitability burns out quickly and can do much damage in the process. Calm and determined strength keeps on making a positive, persistent difference until the victory is won.
It’s easy to get agitated. It’s easy to get angry and excited. It is more effective, though, to take a studied, thoughtful and persistent approach. Take a deep breath. Take another. You can make things happen. Rather than putting on a show, put your energy into making a difference. Calm down, be strong, and become a real and undeniable winner.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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