Wednesday, January 27, 2021
Today's Gift
Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglect. ~William Shakespeare
We will never achieve a feeling of true safety by seeing our self-image in terms of our character defects. To give our shortcomings such power is to ensure that we will never have enough faith or strength to go forward; we are either condemned to trying to change the past or trying to control the future.
The only safety is in the present, affirming the positive qualities we possess. Even if we’re in deep sorrow this moment, we can feel safe by appreciating that we have the ability to grieve, which takes courage and passion for life. Appreciating our many good points is a way to counteract the fear that eats away at our security.
There are a number of ways we can affirm our worth. We can write affirmations, ask others for positive support, list our good qualities, and include our progress in recovery in our daily inventory. We deserve to have the freedom that comes from feeling safe within ourselves.
What am I saying to myself right now—“I’m a failure” or “I’m wonderful, and I love you”?
Answers in the Heart, Daily Meditations for Men and Women Recovering from Sex Addiction©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Keep It Simple
Being overcritical and irritable has been common to most of us. Some of us go around with controlled smiles while underneath we are grumbling. Others blast everyone around them. Some of us save our most critical reactions for those we love while staying sweet and friendly with the outside world. In any case, we are caught in a blinding trap. We may know we feel trapped but do not see that our problem is mainly with ourselves.
We need to look at our relationships. Have we been falling into a pattern where no one seems to measure up? Are we also being too critical or demanding of ourselves? Perhaps we don't need to lower our standards so much as to hold them less tightly. If we can be friends to ourselves and give ourselves a little more leeway, we can be more easygoing with others.
Action for the Day: I cannot force myself to be less critical, but I can let go of my willfulness so my more easygoing side comes forward. I can be less judgmental of others and myself.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Anger, that occasional luxury of more balanced people, could keep
us on an emotional jag indefinitely. These emotional "dry benders"
often led straight to the bottle. Other kinds of disturbances—jealousy,
envy, self-pity, or hurt pride—did the same thing. A spot-check
inventory taken in the midst of such disturbances can be of very
great help in quieting stormy emotions.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, (Step Ten) p. 90
Thought to Ponder
Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me—today?
AA-related 'Alconym'
A N G E R = Any New Grudge Endangers Recovery
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
Picture yourself***************************Daily MotivationExcerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
Think of yourself not in terms of your problems. Instead, identify yourself with your most promising possibilities.
Think of yourself not in terms of your regrets or disappointments. Instead, consider all the valuable and useful lessons you’ve learned.
The way you picture yourself has a powerful effect on the reality of your life. And you can picture yourself any way you choose.
Picture yourself expressing the best that is within you. Picture yourself living fully, loving sincerely, giving gladly, and bringing unique value to each moment.
Picture yourself as the joyful, creative and effective person you know you can be. Picture yourself dancing swiftly and successfully past each challenge and limitation.
You hold in your mind a mental picture of yourself. The quality and substance of that picture make all the difference in the actions you take and the results you get.
Make that picture brilliantly superb, and your life will follow right along.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
Think of yourself not in terms of your problems. Instead, identify yourself with your most promising possibilities.
Think of yourself not in terms of your regrets or disappointments. Instead, consider all the valuable and useful lessons you’ve learned.
The way you picture yourself has a powerful effect on the reality of your life. And you can picture yourself any way you choose.
Picture yourself expressing the best that is within you. Picture yourself living fully, loving sincerely, giving gladly, and bringing unique value to each moment.
Picture yourself as the joyful, creative and effective person you know you can be. Picture yourself dancing swiftly and successfully past each challenge and limitation.
You hold in your mind a mental picture of yourself. The quality and substance of that picture make all the difference in the actions you take and the results you get.
Make that picture brilliantly superb, and your life will follow right along.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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