Thursday, August 15, 2019
Today's Gift
A person's life is what their thoughts make it. —Marcus Aurelius
How do we think about ourselves? Do we feel unattractive? Do we feel we aren't masculine enough? Do we doubt our ability to perform our roles as friends, spouses, or parents? Such thoughts are common among people. There is no problem in having them; they are normal to some extent. But what we do with our thoughts - how we think about what we think - makes a big difference in our lives.
When we think we are odd or different from other people for feeling this way, we become more self-centered. When we don't stand up for our rights to have our doubts and weaknesses, we become even more weak and doubting. When we don't talk about our thoughts and feelings to other people, we become isolated and lonely. We have a right to feel insecure and to know we have weaknesses. We become a stronger person by accepting our doubts. They may still cause some pain but they have lost their power to control us. Just as a repaired seam can be stronger than the original, what was our weakness becomes our strength.
Today, I accept my thoughts of weakness and self-doubt as part of life.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
We need to allow enough room for others and ourselves to have and work through our feelings.
We are people, not robots. An important part of us - who we are, how we grow, how we live - is connected to our emotional center. We have feelings, sometimes - difficult ones, sometimes - disruptive ones, and sometimes - explosive ones that need to be worked through.
By facing and working through these feelings others and we grow. In relationships, whether it is a love relationship, a friendship, a family relationship, or a close business relationship, people need room to have and work through their feelings.
Some call it "going through the process."
It is unreasonable to expect ourselves or others to not need time and room to work through feelings. We will be setting ourselves and our relationships up for failure if we do not allow this time and room in our life.
We need time to work through feelings. We need the space and permission to work through these feelings in the awkward, uncomfortable, sometimes messy way that people work through feelings.
This is life. This is growth. This is okay.
We can allow room for feelings. We can let people have time and permission to go through their feelings. We do not have to keep others or ourselves under such a tight rein. While we work through our feelings we do not have to expend unnecessary energy reacting to each feeling others or we have. We don't have to take all our feelings, and others' feelings, so seriously while others or we are in the process of working through them.
Let the feelings flow and trust where the flow is taking you.
Action for the Day: I can set reasonable boundaries for behavior, and still leave room for a range of emotions.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Accepting my Higher Power did not fully change my attitude of
resistance. It just made yielding to instruction a more rational and
acceptable mode of behavior. For each step, I still had to go through
the process of recognizing that I had no control over my drinking.
I had to understand that the steps of Alcoholics Anonymous had
helped others and could help me. I had to realize that if I did want
sobriety, I had better do the steps whether I liked them or not. Every
time I ran into trouble, I ultimately found that I was resisting change.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (A Late Start) p. 541
Thought to Ponder
Pain is the measure of our resistance to change.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A A = Attitude Adjustment
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Daily Motivation
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
When you can accept and even welcome your feelings, they lose their power over you. Do you feel lousy today? Instead of making that something to fight against, let it be. Accept that you feel lousy, and suddenly it’s not so bad. That negative feeling begins to fall away from you when you loosen your grip on it.
Your feelings help you to perceive, understand and interact with the world. They are yours to experience, to learn from and to enjoy. Accept them all. Welcome them all. Fighting against them or resenting them does not make them go away. In fact it gives them more power.
Welcome your feelings. Experience them and then let them flow on along. Each one is a positive confirmation that you’re fully alive. Each one can help you to understand yourself. Let them fill your life. Don’t let them dominate it.
Each day you’ll move forward past a whole lot of different feelings. See them as milestones along the way, not there to slow you down, but to keep you moving positively ahead.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
When you can accept and even welcome your feelings, they lose their power over you. Do you feel lousy today? Instead of making that something to fight against, let it be. Accept that you feel lousy, and suddenly it’s not so bad. That negative feeling begins to fall away from you when you loosen your grip on it.
Your feelings help you to perceive, understand and interact with the world. They are yours to experience, to learn from and to enjoy. Accept them all. Welcome them all. Fighting against them or resenting them does not make them go away. In fact it gives them more power.
Welcome your feelings. Experience them and then let them flow on along. Each one is a positive confirmation that you’re fully alive. Each one can help you to understand yourself. Let them fill your life. Don’t let them dominate it.
Each day you’ll move forward past a whole lot of different feelings. See them as milestones along the way, not there to slow you down, but to keep you moving positively ahead.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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