Monday, July 22, 2019
Today's Gift
Always prefer the plain direct word to the long, vague one... C. S. Lewis
Direct people are a joy to be around.
We never have to guess what they’re really thinking or feeling, because they’re honest about their thoughts and openly express their feelings.
We never have to wonder if they’re with us because they want to be, or if they’re there out of guilt and obligation.
When they do something for us, we don’t have to worry whether they’ll end up resenting us because direct people generally do things that please themselves.
We don’t have to fuss about the status of our relationship because if we ask, they’ll tell us.
We don’t have to worry if they’re angry because they deal openly with their anger and resolve it quickly.
We don’t have to ponder whether they are talking about us behind our backs because if they have something to say, it will be said to us directly.
We don’t have to wonder if we can rely on them because direct people are trustworthy.
Wouldn’t it be nice if we were all direct?
Today, I will let go of my notions that it is somehow good or desirable to be indirect. Instead, I will strive for honesty, directness, and clarity in my communication. I will let directness in my relationships begin with me.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
For many of us, the most difficult word to say is one of the shortest and easiest in the vocabulary: No. Go ahead, say it aloud: No.
No—simple to pronounce, hard to say. We’re afraid people won’t like us, or we feel guilty. We may believe that a “good” employee, child, parent, spouse, or Christian never says no.
The problem is, if we don’t learn to say no, we stop liking ourselves and the people we always try to please. We may even punish others out of resentment.
When do we say no? When no is what we really mean.
When we learn to say no, we stop lying. People can trust us, and we can trust ourselves. All sorts of good things happen when we start saying what we mean.
If we’re scared to say no, we can buy some time. We can take a break, rehearse the word, and go back and say no. We don’t have to offer long explanations for our decisions.
When we can say no, we can say yes to the good. Our no’s and our yes’s begin to be taken seriously. We gain control of ourselves. And we learn a secret: “No” isn’t really that hard to say.
Action for the Day: Today, I will say no if that is what I mean.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
We learned that we had to fully concede to our innermost
selves that we were alcoholics. This is the first step in recovery.
The delusion that we are like other people, or presently may be,
has to be smashed. We alcoholics are people who
have lost the ability to control our drinking. We know that no
real alcoholic ever recovers control.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (More About Alcoholism) p. 30
Thought to Ponder
The Three A's .. Awareness, Acceptance, Action.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A B C = Acceptance, Belief, Change
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
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Daily Motivation
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
Be honest about who you are. It’s tiring to pretend you’re someone you’re not.
Be honest about what you desire. It’s a waste of time and energy to strive for what you don’t even want.
Be honest with yourself and with others about the challenges and the possibilities. You can absolutely achieve great things, and the way to do that is by being realistic about what must be done.
Be honest in what you say and in what you do. Put the irrefutable power of truth on your side.
Deception may seem easy and convenient in the moment, yet it is invariably destructive in the long run. Being honest requires strength, discipline and integrity, and those will all serve you well.
Be honest for your own sake, for the sake of others, and for the sake of truth itself. Be honest, and give a continuing, solid boost to your best possibilities.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
Be honest about who you are. It’s tiring to pretend you’re someone you’re not.
Be honest about what you desire. It’s a waste of time and energy to strive for what you don’t even want.
Be honest with yourself and with others about the challenges and the possibilities. You can absolutely achieve great things, and the way to do that is by being realistic about what must be done.
Be honest in what you say and in what you do. Put the irrefutable power of truth on your side.
Deception may seem easy and convenient in the moment, yet it is invariably destructive in the long run. Being honest requires strength, discipline and integrity, and those will all serve you well.
Be honest for your own sake, for the sake of others, and for the sake of truth itself. Be honest, and give a continuing, solid boost to your best possibilities.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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