Monday, July 1, 2019
Today's Gift
We are prepared for insults, but compliments leave us baffled. Mason Cooley
Here is an exercise.
Today let someone give to you. Let someone do something nice for you. Let someone give you a compliment or tell you something good about yourself. Let someone help you.
Then, stand there and take it. Take it in. Feel it. Know that you are worthy and deserving. Do not apologize. Do not say, "You shouldn't have." Do you feel guilty, afraid, ashamed, and panicky? Do not immediately try to give something back.
Just say, "Thank you."
Today, I will let myself receive one thing from someone else, and I will let myself be comfortable with that.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
Many of us have confused notions about what it means to be loved and cared about.
Many of us were loved and cared for by people who had discrepancies between what they said and did.
We may have had a mother or father who said, "I love you" to us, and then abandoned or neglected us, giving us confused ideas about love. Thus that pattern feels like love—the only love we knew.
Some of us may have been cared for by people who provided for our needs and said they loved us, but simultaneously abused or mistreated us. That, then, becomes our idea of love.
Some of us many have lived in emotionally sterile environments, where people said they loved us, but no feelings or nurturing were available. That may have become our idea of love.
We may learn to love others or ourselves the way we have been loved, or we may let others love us the way we have been loved, whether or not that feels good. It's time to let our needs be met in ways that actually work. Unhealthy love may meet some surface needs, but not our need to be loved.
We can come to expect congruency in behavior from others. We can diminish the impact of words alone and insist that behavior and words match.
We can find the courage, when appropriate, to confront discrepancies in words and actions—not to shame, blame, or find fault, but to help us stay in touch with reality and with our needs.
We can give and receive love where behavior matches one's words. We deserve to receive and give the best that love has to offer.
Action for the Day: Today, I will be open to giving and receiving the healthiest love possible. I will watch for discrepancies between words and behaviors that confuse me and make me feel crazy. When that happens, I will understand that I am not crazy; I am in the midst of a discrepancy.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
True Kinship
But we soon discovered that while we weren't alone any more in
a social sense, we still suffered many of the old pangs of anxious
apartness. Until we had talked with complete candor of our conflicts,
and had listened to someone else do the same thing, we still didn't
belong. Step Five was the answer.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, (Step Five) p. 57
Thought to Ponder
Sobriety is not a destination, but an everlasting journey.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A A W O L = A A Way Of Life
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
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Daily Motivation
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
Find something to enjoy and to sincerely value about whatever you are doing. And you will add power and effectiveness to your efforts.
Realize that anything is enjoyable to you solely because you have decided for it to be enjoyable. It’s a decision that can create much value.
Instead of fighting against your own actions, give energy to them. Instead of making yourself miserable, allow yourself to enjoy.
It’s great when you can make positive plans and enjoy following through on them. Yet even when things don’t turn out as planned, you can find something to value and enjoy.
Learn to find enjoyment in life’s surprises, and those surprises can yield great treasure. Choose to enjoy those times when you get knocked off track, and you’ll discover the quickest way to get back on track.
You are at your best when truly enjoying life. So allow enjoyment to bring out your best in every situation.
Find something to enjoy and to sincerely value about whatever you are doing. And you will add power and effectiveness to your efforts.
Realize that anything is enjoyable to you solely because you have decided for it to be enjoyable. It’s a decision that can create much value.
Instead of fighting against your own actions, give energy to them. Instead of making yourself miserable, allow yourself to enjoy.
It’s great when you can make positive plans and enjoy following through on them. Yet even when things don’t turn out as planned, you can find something to value and enjoy.
Learn to find enjoyment in life’s surprises, and those surprises can yield great treasure. Choose to enjoy those times when you get knocked off track, and you’ll discover the quickest way to get back on track.
You are at your best when truly enjoying life. So allow enjoyment to bring out your best in every situation.
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