Friday, September 7, 2018
Today's Gift
Friendship and community are, first of all, inner qualities. —Henri J. M. Nouwen
Many of us mistakenly search outside ourselves for answers. We feel small inside and not very powerful. Many of us have tried to change our lives by affecting the people around us. Naturally, when we think of making friends, we assume we would start by getting a friend. But such beginnings often don't lead very far.
Friendship begins as an inward attitude or feeling before it is expressed outwardly. Perhaps we could first notice whom we feel friendly toward. Whom do we admire? Whom do we feel an affinity with? Let that friendliness exist within, and it will begin to express itself. Are we grasping for acceptance or response? Let us remain with our own goodwill and not return to old attempts to get someone else to change. Friendship exists as a feeling of admiration, of love, of fellowship, without demand. And when we are another person's friends, let us accept their friendship and enjoy it without trying to change it or him.
Today, I will simply notice my friendly feelings toward others.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
We hate being told what to think. We like to make up our own minds.
It helps to talk things out with another person who, listens to us.
Someone who care what we think.
We can give this respect to others. We can listen their point of view.
We can try to understand them and care about what they think.
When we do this, others start to care what we think too. We share ideas.
The ideas get a little more clear. They change a little. We get a little
closer to agreement. We both feel good.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me know when to listen and
when to talk today. Work for me and though me. Thanks.
Action for the Day: Today, I’ll look for chances to listen to others
when I really want to talk. I’ll say, “Tell me more about that.” And I’ll listen.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Consequences
But even in this type of beginning we are obliged to admit that our
justification for a spree was insanely insufficient in the light of what
always happened. We now see that when we began to drink deliberately,
instead of casually, there was little serious or effective thought during
the period of premeditation of what the terrific consequences might be.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 37
Thought to Ponder
When I choose the behavior, I choose the consequences.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A A = Answer Available
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Daily Motivation
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Treat people like people
by Ralph Marston
Empathy makes you a better communicator. Empathy makes you a better person.
Your perspective has value, but it is not the only perspective. Always take the other person’s point of view into consideration.
Don’t assume just because you know it, think it, feel it, that everyone else does too. Nothing ever entitles you to be rude, arrogant, or inconsiderate.
Empathy helps you understand, understanding helps you relate, and positive relationships facilitate real progress. It’s always better to work with others than to work against them.
Empathize, understand, find common ground and common objectives. Remind yourself that the way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.
Whether you’re dealing with a customer, customer service rep, family member or stranger, empathy works wonders. Treat people like people, the way you want to be treated, and they’ll almost always return the favor.
Empathy makes you a better communicator. Empathy makes you a better person.
Your perspective has value, but it is not the only perspective. Always take the other person’s point of view into consideration.
Don’t assume just because you know it, think it, feel it, that everyone else does too. Nothing ever entitles you to be rude, arrogant, or inconsiderate.
Empathy helps you understand, understanding helps you relate, and positive relationships facilitate real progress. It’s always better to work with others than to work against them.
Empathize, understand, find common ground and common objectives. Remind yourself that the way to get what you want is to help others get what they want.
Whether you’re dealing with a customer, customer service rep, family member or stranger, empathy works wonders. Treat people like people, the way you want to be treated, and they’ll almost always return the favor.
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