Tuesday, June 4, 2019
Today's Gift
Next time you encounter someone’s bad behavior, consider taking back your power. Decide to take your own power back, and be ready the next time someone seems intent on upsetting you somehow. Turn their negative energy into your positive power. - Beverly D. Flaxington
Owning Our Power
We don't have to give others so much power and ourselves so little. We don't have to give others so much credit and ourselves so little. In recovery from codependency, we learn there's a big difference between humility and discounting ourselves.
When others act irresponsibly and attempt to blame their problems on us, we no longer feel guilty. We let them face their own consequences.
When others talk nonsense, we don't question our own thinking.
When others try to manipulate or exploit us, we know it's okay to feel anger and distrust and to say no to the plan.
When others tell us that we want something that we really don't want, or someone tells us that we don't want something that we really do want, we trust ourselves. When others tell us things we don't believe, we know it's okay to trust our instincts.
We can even change our mind later.
We don't have to give up our personal power to anyone: strangers, friends, spouses, children, authority figures, or those over whom we're in authority. People may have things to teach us. They may have more information than we have, and may appear more confident or forceful than we feel. But we are equals. Our magic is not in them. Our magic, our light, is in us. And it is as bright a light as theirs.
We are not second-class citizens. By owning our power, we don't have to become aggressive or controlling. We don't have to discount others. But we don't discount ourselves either.
Today, I will own my power with people. I will let myself know what I know, feel what I feel, believe what I believe, and see what I see. I will be open to changing and learning from others and experience, but I will trust and validate myself too. I will stand in my own truth.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
Directness
We feel safe around direct, honest people. They speak their minds, and we know where we stand with them.
Indirect people, people who are afraid to say who they are, what they want, and what they're feeling, cannot be trusted. They will somehow act out their truth even though they do not speak it. And it may catch everyone by surprise.
Directness saves time and energy. It removes us as victims. It dispenses with martyrdom and games. It helps us own our power. It creates respectful relationships.
It feels safe to be around direct, honest people. Be one.
Action for the Day: Today, I will own my power to be direct. I do not have to be passive, nor do I need to be aggressive. I will become comfortable with my own truth, so those around me can become comfortable with me.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Resentments
Though we did not like their symptoms and the way these disturbed us,
they, like ourselves, were sick too. We asked our Higher Power to help us show them
the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a
sick friend. When a person offended we said to ourselves,"This is a sick person.
How can I be helpful to the? Higher Power save me from being angry. Thy will be done."
- Alcoholics Anonymous, (How It Works) p. 67
Thought to Ponder
What if I were caring rather than judgmental?
AA-related 'Alconym'
P U T = Practice Using Tolerance
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Daily Motivation
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
You have the power
by Ralph Marston
You have power over your thoughts. You have power over your actions. You have power over the way you spend your time. You have power over your attitude. You have the power to decide what you find enjoyable, the power to set goals and to achieve them. These powers are very real, quite substantial and immediately accessible.
Rather than seeking some elusive power over others, it is far more effective to make full use of the power you already have over your own affairs. The most potent power is not the power you seize, but rather the power you exercise.
Those who crave more power usually do so because they’re unable to make positive and effective use of the power they already have. The only meaningful power is the power you use, not the power you attempt to take.
You have an abundance of power. The better use you make of it, the more of it you’ll have. The strongest, most influential leaders lead not with borrowed or assumed power, but with a power that is truly their own. Exercise the power you already have and it will grow even stronger.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/
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