Wednesday, September 12, 2018
Today's Gift
Sometimes we just want to yell. Maybe a family member or a friend messed
up, and we want to “set them straight.” Start counting. Maybe we got chewed
out at work and we want “to get even.”
Start counting.
We get drunk on anger. We may feel powerful when we “set someone straight.”
But like an alcohol high, an anger high last only a short time and can hurt others.
We must control our anger. This is why we count.
Cool down. Think out what you need or want to say. Use words that you’ll not be
ashamed of later. Learning how to respect others when we’re angry is a sign of recovery.
Prayer for the Day : Higher Power, teach me to respect others when I’m angry.
Action for the Day: Today, when I feel angry I’ll count. I’ll work at not controlling other with my anger.
Disturbances
Anger, that occasional luxury of more balanced people, could keep
us on an emotional jag indefinitely. These emotional “dry benders”
often led straight to the bottle. Other kinds of disturbances—jealousy,
envy, self-pity, or hurt pride—did the same thing.
A spot-check inventory taken in the midst of such disturbances
can be of very great help in quieting stormy emotions.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 90
Thought to Ponder
Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me—today?
AA-related 'Alconym'
A N G E R = Any New Grudge Endangers Recovery
Disagreements
by Ralph Marston
No one sees the world exactly the same way you see it. You have your own unique perspective, and so does every other person.
Don’t let your disagreements with others become an excuse for hatred or disrespect. Instead, sincerely seek to learn from and to understand those perspectives that differ with your own.
You can respect and understand the opinions of others without agreeing or giving in or allowing them to take advantage of you. Often you can learn much more from someone who disagrees with you than you can from those with whom you agree.
When you refuse to even listen to a differing opinion, that’s a sure sign of weakness and insecurity. By contrast, when you can respect and welcome the opinions of others, it will strengthen your confidence in your own opinions.
How dreary and stagnant life would be if we were all the same. Some of our greatest treasures come from the rich diversity of our opinions and perspectives. We all live best when we can live together, agreeing to disagree, with respect, understanding and cooperation.
Not all fights are bad; in fact they are preferable to disciplined serenity. —William Atwood
A good relationship includes some disagreement. Anger and disagreement, when we express them respectfully, are important ways of renewing communication and breaking through the walls that sometimes built up. No relationship can tolerate constant fighting. But, when we don't agree with someone, we owe it to that person to speak up and follow through to resolution. We can promise ourselves and the other person that we will stay in the relationship through the disagreement. It is because we care that we fight.
In any relationship we care about, there will be differences. When we avoid all confrontations, our relationships go stale because all emotional issues are avoided. Carefulness and over control undermine love because they don't give it room to breathe, but disagreement and anger expressed in honest and respectful ways will help love grow.
Today, I pray for the courage to acknowledge my disagreements and angry feelings with others and to deal with their feelings toward me.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
When angry, count to ten before you speak: if very angry, a hundred. --Thomas Jefferson
When angry, count to ten before you speak: if very angry, a hundred. --Thomas Jefferson
Sometimes we just want to yell. Maybe a family member or a friend messed
up, and we want to “set them straight.” Start counting. Maybe we got chewed
out at work and we want “to get even.”
Start counting.
We get drunk on anger. We may feel powerful when we “set someone straight.”
But like an alcohol high, an anger high last only a short time and can hurt others.
We must control our anger. This is why we count.
Cool down. Think out what you need or want to say. Use words that you’ll not be
ashamed of later. Learning how to respect others when we’re angry is a sign of recovery.
Prayer for the Day : Higher Power, teach me to respect others when I’m angry.
Action for the Day: Today, when I feel angry I’ll count. I’ll work at not controlling other with my anger.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Anger, that occasional luxury of more balanced people, could keep
us on an emotional jag indefinitely. These emotional “dry benders”
often led straight to the bottle. Other kinds of disturbances—jealousy,
envy, self-pity, or hurt pride—did the same thing.
A spot-check inventory taken in the midst of such disturbances
can be of very great help in quieting stormy emotions.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 90
Thought to Ponder
Am I doing to others as I would have them do to me—today?
AA-related 'Alconym'
A N G E R = Any New Grudge Endangers Recovery
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Disagreements
by Ralph Marston
No one sees the world exactly the same way you see it. You have your own unique perspective, and so does every other person.
Don’t let your disagreements with others become an excuse for hatred or disrespect. Instead, sincerely seek to learn from and to understand those perspectives that differ with your own.
You can respect and understand the opinions of others without agreeing or giving in or allowing them to take advantage of you. Often you can learn much more from someone who disagrees with you than you can from those with whom you agree.
When you refuse to even listen to a differing opinion, that’s a sure sign of weakness and insecurity. By contrast, when you can respect and welcome the opinions of others, it will strengthen your confidence in your own opinions.
How dreary and stagnant life would be if we were all the same. Some of our greatest treasures come from the rich diversity of our opinions and perspectives. We all live best when we can live together, agreeing to disagree, with respect, understanding and cooperation.
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