Wednesday, May 30, 2018
Today's Gift
Action for the Day: Today, I will affirm that it is my right to grow and change, even though someone I love may not be growing and changing alongside me.
Debris
Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past.
We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our
effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven’t
the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the
beginning we would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 76
Thought to Ponder
Don't mess up an amend with an excuse.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A A = Altered Attitudes
Awareness of the future
In anxiety-provoking situations, many people feel unable to act. They find themselves at a loss to come up with an effective response, or any response at all. —Stanlee Phelps and Nancy Austin
Feeling unable to act is a humiliation, perhaps an embarrassment, and it is habit-forming. Perhaps our inertia is due to our need to act "correctly" and the accompanying fear that we'll err. Unfortunately, our fear of action reinforces itself. The only way to end the vicious cycle is to act - right or wrong. The surprise in store for us is that no action we take will be truly wrong. We will learn not only from the action itself, but also from its ripples.
The response to life we make through action will gratify us; it will nourish us and will make us dread less the next situation that calls for a response.
Opportunities for action are the stepping-stones to emotional maturity. The more we "act," the more able we are to act. And a new habit is formed.
Taking action, even when I fear it's wrong, is growth producing. Without growth there is no life. Today, I will live!
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
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Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
To me, I will be a stronger person if I'm moving forward, doing the work I want, and continue to drive: force the purpose that I want to create versus doing what other people think I should be doing, which is never a way to live. --Payal Kadakia
Moving Forward
Much as we would like, we cannot bring everyone with us on this journey called recovery. We are not being disloyal by allowing ourselves to move forward. We don't have to wait for those we love to decide to change as well.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even though the people we love are not ready to change. We may even need to leave people behind in their dysfunction or suffering because we cannot recover for them. We don't need to suffer with them.
It doesn't help.
It doesn't help for us to stay stuck just because someone we love is stuck. The potential for helping others is far greater when we detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to force others to change with us.
Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves to grow while others seek their own path, is how we have the most beneficial impact on people we love. We're accountable for ourselves. They're accountable for themselves. We let them go, and let ourselves grow.
To me, I will be a stronger person if I'm moving forward, doing the work I want, and continue to drive: force the purpose that I want to create versus doing what other people think I should be doing, which is never a way to live. --Payal Kadakia
Moving Forward
Much as we would like, we cannot bring everyone with us on this journey called recovery. We are not being disloyal by allowing ourselves to move forward. We don't have to wait for those we love to decide to change as well.
Sometimes we need to give ourselves permission to grow, even though the people we love are not ready to change. We may even need to leave people behind in their dysfunction or suffering because we cannot recover for them. We don't need to suffer with them.
It doesn't help.
It doesn't help for us to stay stuck just because someone we love is stuck. The potential for helping others is far greater when we detach, work on ourselves, and stop trying to force others to change with us.
Changing ourselves, allowing ourselves to grow while others seek their own path, is how we have the most beneficial impact on people we love. We're accountable for ourselves. They're accountable for themselves. We let them go, and let ourselves grow.
Action for the Day: Today, I will affirm that it is my right to grow and change, even though someone I love may not be growing and changing alongside me.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
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One Day At A Time
Debris
Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past.
We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our
effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven’t
the will to do this, we ask until it comes. Remember it was agreed at the
beginning we would go to any lengths for victory over alcohol.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 76
Thought to Ponder
Don't mess up an amend with an excuse.
AA-related 'Alconym'
A A = Altered Attitudes
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Awareness of the future
by Ralph Marston
What’s extremely valuable about the future is that you know it is coming. You can prepare yourself, and take actions now that will benefit your future.
You can delay gratification, develop positive relationships by being considerate of others, and work to develop new skills. These strategies, and many others, create large rewards in the future from relatively small efforts in the present.
If you save ten dollars a day, each day, in a few years you’ll be able to pay your future self ten thousand dollars. When you factor the future into your decisions, those decisions create a more desirable future.
Looking toward the future also will improve your discipline, effectiveness and experience of fulfillment today. As you’re building a great future you can live at your best in the present.
Just knowing that the future is coming puts you at a great advantage. Being able to do something positive about it vastly multiplies that advantage.
Claim the full benefit of your good fortune. Make choices that enable you to live well now while also creating your best possible future.
What’s extremely valuable about the future is that you know it is coming. You can prepare yourself, and take actions now that will benefit your future.
You can delay gratification, develop positive relationships by being considerate of others, and work to develop new skills. These strategies, and many others, create large rewards in the future from relatively small efforts in the present.
If you save ten dollars a day, each day, in a few years you’ll be able to pay your future self ten thousand dollars. When you factor the future into your decisions, those decisions create a more desirable future.
Looking toward the future also will improve your discipline, effectiveness and experience of fulfillment today. As you’re building a great future you can live at your best in the present.
Just knowing that the future is coming puts you at a great advantage. Being able to do something positive about it vastly multiplies that advantage.
Claim the full benefit of your good fortune. Make choices that enable you to live well now while also creating your best possible future.
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