When the Time is Right
There are times when we simply do not know what to do, or where to go, next. Sometimes these periods are brief, sometimes lingering.
We can get through these times. We can rely on our program and the disciplines of recovery. We can cope by using our faith, other people, and our resources.
Accept uncertainty. We do not always have to know what to do or where to go next. We do not always have clear direction. Refusing to accept the inaction and limbo makes things worse.
It is okay to temporarily be without direction. Say, "I don't know," and be comfortable with that. We do not have to try to force wisdom, knowledge, or clarity when there is none.
While waiting for direction, we do not have to put our life on hold. Let go of anxiety and enjoy life. Relax. Do something fun. Enjoy the love and beauty in your life. Accomplish small tasks. They may have nothing to do with solving the problem, or finding direction, but this is what we can do in the interim.
Clarity will come. The next step will present itself. Indecision, inactivity, and lack of direction will not last forever.
Today, I will accept my circumstances even if I lack direction and insight. I will remember to do things that make myself and others feel good during those times. I will trust that clarity will come of its own accord.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990
We are here to add what we can to, not to get what we can get from, Life. Sir William Osler
How many of us would presume to declare, "Well, I'm sober and I'm happy.
What more can I want, or do? I'm fine the way I am."
We know that the price of such self-satisfaction
Is an inevitable backslide punctuated at some point by a very rude awakening.
- As Bill Sees It, p. 25
Thought to Ponder . . .
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Always Aware.
A MEMBER SHARES:
Hi, I'm Scott, and I'm an alcoholic. Everyone knows that old AA saying about your disease doing pushups in the parking lot. Well for me, that helps to keep things in perspective because I am really very lazy, particularly when it comes to sobriety. I don't know if that's a fair assessment, but I definitely could tighten things up a bit. I've been sober for a while now, and thankfully - thankfully -- I haven't had a relapse yet. But I can see very clearly that it would be a very easy thing to happen in my case. Because, while over the years I've been able to build up somewhat of a defense against my disease and my "toolbox" has gotten bigger and bigger, I am without a doubt powerless against that first drink. There's still a lot of the old me lingering around inside. At the drop of a hat, my mood can change 180 degrees, and I can go from feeling confident and secure to overwhelmed, exasperated, and very insecure. So I have to come here and stay close to God and to others in this program. Every day is but a reprieve I've been given as a gift, and it's up to me to treat it as such. Good to be here again -- thanks for letting me share.