Thursday, February 19, 2009

Taking a Gratitude Minute

"In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy." -- Albert Clarke, photographer

This past Monday I had an appointment to see my therapist. Yup, that’s right I said therapist. I can’t figure some things out on my own either and I have no shame in that. Neither should you. As I was saying, I arrived early. Since his office is literally right off the lake I took a walk to the lake. As I stood there I watch a man playing catch with his dog. I saw flock of sea gulls (no not the band or the hair) flying by. There was a family of ducks in the water. As I looked out at the lake I heard the calmness of the waves. Just in that moment a sudden rush of gratitude came over me.

I started thinking just how lucky I am for my life and everything about it. Throughout my life I have been given so many blessings. I have a loving family who accepts me for the man that I am, gay and all. I have been blessed with a wonderful man in my life. My partner Patrick is the yen to my yang. I love him for loving me for me. I’m sorry to break it to you put I have the best friend, partner, and soul mate in the world. I have two truly wonderful friends Mike Matt and Greg Harris. I talk to Mike about everything. Mike knows stuff about me that I probably don’t even know about myself, which he always calls me on, especially when he sees me acting out of shadow. Shadow is the part of ourselves that we hide, suppress, and deny. Greg is my mentor, my dearest friend. He’s another one who won’t cosign my bullshit. Just like Mike, Greg is always there when I need someone to talk to. I can talk to both of them without fear of any judgments. They are my support, my life lines, if you will. Both Greg and Mike are my brothers from another mother. I love them dearly and will do anything for them.

“No one who achieves success does so without the help of others. The wise and confident acknowledge this help with gratitude.”Alfred North Whitehead

I work at a wonder place, Chicago House & Social Service Agency. From the CEO, and friend, Stan Sloan, or who I like to call Stana Claus, to the maintenance crew everyone gets along well and really supports each other. Judy Perloff, Program Director, and Kiki Dorn, Finance Director, are the glue that holds us together. I am grateful that I can work at a place where I can share my strengths to benefit the clients. Believe it or not, I am also grateful for the US Department of Housing and Urban Development, better know as HUD, for awarding Chicago House the funds to be able to run my program, Gaining Ground. This brings me to all of you. I grateful to all the tax payers because if it where not for you HUD and many other government funded program that help people in need would not exist.

Practicing Gratitude Can Increase Happiness by 25%

Psychological research finds that people's happiness levels are remarkably stable over the long-term. In his book '
thanks!', Dr. Robert A. Emmons describes research he carried out with three experimental groups over 10 weeks (Emmons & McCullough, 2003). For the full article go to PsyhBlog

Ok, I’ll get off my soapbox of gratitude now so you can give gratitude for the things in your life. Make this an important part of your work-in.

What Am I Grateful for Today?

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” Author Unknown

P.S. A big Thanks Jim Pickett the Director of Advocacy at the
AIDS Foundation of Chicago and found of for getting to do this blog.

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