Thursday, April 27, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-27-2017

Thursday, April 27, 2017
Today's Gift

Negativity is cannibalistic. The more you feed it, the bigger and stronger it grows. --Bobby Darnell

Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.

Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if were struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide its okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.

We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.

Today, Higher Power, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity - even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know its okay to take care of myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Walk in Dry Places

Happy People are likable.

Personal relations.

Who are the people we really like, and to be with? Most of the time, they are happy people, people who like themselves and others.

Being happy is almost the entire secret of being likable. Though no person can expect to be liked by everybody, likable people have the inside track most of the time.

How do we become happy and thus likable? We're continuously told that happiness cannot be found in property, power, and prestige. It is rooted instead in self-acceptance. In feeling loved and wanted, and in giving genuine service, maybe just in the form of very useful work.

Twelve Step programs are structured to make us happy if we persevere long enough in working the individual steps. While it may seem contradictory, even people with heavy burdens and personal sorrows can find underlying happiness in the program. A great deal of this also hinges on our belief in a Higher Power and a confidence that we have a place in the universal system.

Action for the Day: I can be happy today in spite of things that others would consider burdensome and depressing. Happiness really comes from my Higher Power and the Universe, and it also serves to attract friends into my life.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Readiness
Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure that we are not delaying
because we are afraid. For the readiness to take the full consequences
of our past acts, and to take responsibility for the well-being of others
at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 87

Thought to Ponder . . .
It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes and to make amends for them.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
F E A R = F
ace Everything And Recover

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Love what happens
by Ralph Marston

Decide to love what happens, before it ever happens. Choose to love this day, before you know what it will bring.

See the futility of fighting against what is. Embrace the power of acceptance.

Don’t waste your time waging a battle that’s already over. Employ your energy, your resources to make good and meaningful use of what is.

Imagine the power of knowing at the start what a great day this will be for you. Think of how effective you can be when whatever way things go, they’re going your way.

Being grateful is one of the most empowering things you can do. It’s in your best interest to be grateful for as much as you can, indeed, for everything.

Love the way life unfolds, in every way it unfolds. In that spirit of gratitude, love, resourcefulness and cheer, you’ll create greatness no matter what.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, April 26, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-26-2017

Wednesday, April 26, 2017
Today's Gift

A weed is but an unloved flower. --Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Through actively loving one another we nurture the richness of everyone's fuller expression. With no more than a nod of attention we can elicit a smile or perhaps a commitment to attempt again a challenge that defeated us earlier. None of us shines as brightly, moves as swiftly, or succeeds as easily as when someone special is rooting in our corner.

We each need someone special, and let's not forget that we are someone special to another who is walking our path. The loneliness of a day is diminished when we feel the love of someone near or far. The dread of any task is lessened when we bask in the knowledge that we are special to someone. Like roses, we bloom while under the gaze of loving eyes.

Let's remember to nurture the rose within the friends and strangers who are walking our way today.

From the book Worthy of Love by Karen Casey. ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

When people talk, listen completely. Most people never listen. --- Ernest Hemingway

It's hard to listen in a complete way. Often we listen, but we're still thinking about ourselves. We wonder, "How do their words relate to me? Do I have anything to add?" Often, fear is behind these questions. We fear saying the wrong thing. We fear looking stupid. Good listeners know how to let go of their fears. To listen completely, we step outside ourselves, and we're totally there for someone else. Sometimes we listen for only a few moments. Sometimes we don't even agree with the people we're listening to. But we let them know that they count. What a gift we give when we listen in a complete way!

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, teach me to listen in a complete way. Teach me to step outside myself and be their for others.

Action for the Day: Today, I'll listen to what the person says.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

True Ambition
True ambition is not what we thought it was. True ambition is the
deep desire to live usefully and walk humbly under the grace of our High Power.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, pp. 124 - 125

Thought to Ponder . . .
The Twelve Steps -- a manuscript for rational living.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
B E S T = B
een Enjoying Sobriety Today?
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

What’s in it for others
by Ralph Marston

What will your success do for others? What positive effect will the success you desire have on the world around you? When your vision of success is all about you, the road is long and lonely, and probably won’t take you anywhere worth reaching. But when you expand your vision of success beyond yourself, then lots of powerful factors line up in your favor.

When the success you seek brings value to others, you’re likely to find plenty of support in reaching it. Instead of fighting to take something just for yourself, you’re working to make a positive difference in your world.

When you seek only to take for yourself, you’re guaranteed to be met with stiff resistance every step of the way. On the other hand, when you sincerely seek to give, and to provide real value to those around you, others will go out of their way to cheer you on and lift you up.

You must really mean it, though. Faking it won’t bring anything of lasting value.

Rather than looking for ways to take advantage, rather than being in it just for yourself, look for ways to give advantage, ways to create real value for others. That’s the very best strategy to ensure your own real and lasting success.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, April 25, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-25-2017

Tuesday, April 25, 2017
Today's Gift

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. --Aristotle

We must each discover our own truth.

It does not help us if those we love find their truth. They cannot give it to us. It does not help if someone we love knows a particular truth in our life. We must discover our truth for ourselves.

We must each discover and stand in our own light.

We often need to struggle, fail, and be confused and frustrated. That's how we break through our struggle; that's how we learn what is true and right for ourselves.

We can share information with others. Others can tell us what may predictably happen if we pursue a particular course. But it will not mean anything until we integrate the message and it becomes our truth, our discovery, and our knowledge.

There is no easy way to break through and find our truth.

But we can and will, if we want to.

We may want to make it easier. We may nervously run to friends, asking them to give us their truth or make our discovery easier. They cannot. Light will shed itself in its own time.

Each of us has our own share of truth, waiting to reveal itself to us. Each of us has our own share of the light, waiting for us to stand in it, to claim it as ours.

Encouragement helps. Support helps. A firm belief that each person has truth available - appropriate to each situation - is what will help.

Each experience, each frustration, each situation, has its own truth waiting to be revealed. Don't give up until you find it - for yourself.

We shall be guided into truth, if we are seeking it. We are not alone.

Today, I will search for my own truth, and I will allow others to do the same. I will place value on my vision and the vision of others. We are each on the journey, making our own discoveries - the ones that are right for us today.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Everything has its wonders, even darkness and silence, and I learn, whatever state I may be in, therein to be content. --Helen Keller

There is wonder in the moment, if we but look for it, let it touch us, believe in it. And with the recognition and celebration of the wonder comes the joy we desire and await.

Being wholly in tune with the present moment is how we'll come to know the spiritual essence that connects all of life. We search for peace, happiness, and contentment outside of ourselves. We need instead to discover it within us, now and always, in whatever we are experiencing.

We can let our experiences wash over us. Longing for a different time, a distant place, a new situation breeds discontent. It prevents us from the thrill, the gifts offered in this present moment. But they are there.

We can practice feeling joyful in the present, be thrilled with the realization that right now, all is well. All is always well. Life is full of mystery and wonder and each moment of our awareness adds to the wonder.

Action for the Day: I am moving forward; we all are. I am on target. I am participating in a glorious, wonderful drama. Let me jump for joy. I have been specially blessed.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
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One Day At A Time

Pause
In thinking about our day we may face indecision. We may not be able to determine
which course to take. Here we ask our Higher Power for inspiration, an intuitive thought or a decision. We relax and take it easy. We don’t struggle.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p 86

Thought to Ponder . . .
The Three "P's" -- Pause, Pray(or Meditate), Proceed.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A S A P = A
lways Say A Prayer


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Let yourself be
by Ralph Marston

Unburden yourself from the limitations you’ve borrowed from others. And let yourself be. Empty your mind of the fears, doubts, worries and distractions that have built upon each other. And let yourself be.

This moment is filled with every possibility. All that you need to live it fully is already yours.

Look past the noise and turmoil of your thoughts. Be at peace with what is now, and see that peace as it spreads far beyond you.

Let any resentment, anger or disappointment from the past dissolve into nothingness, never to return. Let any anxiety or worry about the future melt away.

Now is where you can make a positive difference. Now is when you can let yourself be.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, April 24, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-24-2017

Monday, April 24, 2017
Today's Gift

I'm very glad to have something to be passionate about. I can't imagine a life without passion. Sylvia Kristel

"This week, I went scuba diving," a man told me. "Hadn't done it for years. I forgot how much doing something I love, even for one afternoon, can change my entire outlook on life."

It's easy to tell ourselves we can't have what we want and can't do what we want. And sometimes, we can't. But once in a while, even for an afternoon, it is helpful to treat yourself.

Our passion is our strength.

How long has it been since you did something you loved? Are you willing to be open to what excites and inspires you? If you can't do what you love, can you find passion in what you are doing?

From the book 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The first springs of great events, like those of great rivers, are often mean and little. --Jonathan Swift

Our lives are like streams which flow through time. Looking at the flow of our whole lives, we see the interconnections of many days that seemed minor. Each day contributes to the stream of goals and faith and relationships. As we look at the flow of a whole river, we see at its beginning a little trickle of water here, joining another trickle there, slowly gathering together a stream that develops force and direction.

We may look for intensity in our lives and ignore the quiet. Much of our lives may have been lived on a roller coaster of major crises. As terrible as it seemed, it was not dull. Today may seem rather boring. But in recovery we learn to appreciate the more subtle trickle that a good day can be. Simply continuing with the flow - of our program, of faithfulness to our values, of being emotionally present in our relationships - adds up to a rich life.

Action for the Day: May I see the continuity of my life in the simple moments of this day.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2


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One Day At A Time

Faith in Action
But they will be curious to learn why their own convictions have not worked
and why yours seem to work so well. They may be an example of the truth
that faith alone is insufficient. To be vital, faith must be accompanied
by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 93

Thought to Ponder . . .
If faith without works is dead; then willingness without action is fantasy. Faith is mighty. Action with faith is mightier.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H O W = H
onest, Open-minded, Willing

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation


Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Love is always willing
by Ralph Marston

There’s something in you important enough to get you moving. Something in your life matters so much it will persistently push you into action.

Find that something. Connect yourself to it and stay connected.

It could be another person, a dream you have, something you want to achieve, some particular value you hold dear. It could be a feeling you like to have.

Whatever it is, bring it to the front of your awareness. Keep it there, and tap into its inexhaustible motivating energy.

You have a reason to bear any burden, to work through any challenge, to find your way forward no matter what. Think of what you’re more thankful for than anything else, of what you care about more than life itself.

Whatever you love without condition will push you ahead through any condition. Love is always willing.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Friday, April 21, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-21-2017

Friday, April 21, 2017
Today's Gift

“Patience is power.
Patience is not an absence of action;
rather it is "timing"
it waits on the right time to act,
for the right principles
and in the right way.” 
― Fulton J. Sheen

Wait. If the time is not right, the way is not clear, the answer or decision not consistent, wait.

We may feel a sense of urgency. We may want to resolve the issue by doing something - anything now, but that action is not in our best interest.

Living with confusion or unsolved problems is difficult. It is easier to resolve things. But making a decision too soon, doing something before it's time, means we may have to go back and redo it.

If the time is not right, wait. If the way is not clear, do not plunge forward. If the answer or decision feels muddy, wait.

In this new way of life, there is a Guiding Force. We do not ever have to move too soon or move out of harmony. Waiting is an action - a positive, forceful action.

"Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer." --William S. Burroughs

Often, waiting is a God-guided action, one with as much power as a decision, and more power than an urgent, ill-timed decision.

We do not have to pressure ourselves by insisting that we do or know something before it's time. When it is time, we will know. We will move into that time naturally and harmoniously. We will have peace and consistency. We will feel empowered in a way we do not feel today.

Deal with the panic, the urgency, and the fear; do not let them control or dictate decisions.

Waiting isn't easy. It isn't fun. But waiting is often necessary to get what we want. It is not dead time; it is not downtime. The answer will come. The power will come. The time will come. And it will be right.

Today, I will wait, if waiting is the action I need in order to take care of myself. I will know that I am taking a positive, forceful action by waiting until the time is right. Higher Power, help me let go of my fear, urgency, and panic. Help me learn the art of waiting until the time is right. Help me learn timing.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

To look backward for a while is to refresh the eye, to restore it, and to render it the more fit for its prime function of looking forward. --Margaret Fairless Barber

When we contemplate last month, last year, we can see many changes, good changes, have come our way. But we take the changes for granted sometimes. Or maybe we fail to reflect on them at all. We get caught up in the turmoil of the present, believing it will last forever, forgetting that yesterday's turmoil taught us much that we needed to know.

The past, for most of us, was rife with pain. But now we have hope. We have gained on life. We may be back in the good graces of our family. Perhaps we have patched up some failed relationships. A career has beckoned to us. Good experiences have come to pass. But we aren't free of difficulties. They need not get us down again. Hindsight assures us that this, too, will pass. It also guarantees that we will move forward, just as we have again and again, if we have but faith.

Action for the Day: I will take this moment to look back at last year. I can rest assured that I am moving forward. I will continue to do so.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Willing to Grow
Many of us exclaimed, “What an order! I can’t go through with it."
Do not be discouraged. No one among us has been able to maintain
anything like perfect adherence to these principles. We are not saints.
The point is, that we are willing to grow along spiritual lines.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p.60

Thought to Ponder . . .
Spiritual progress isn't what gets us sober, it's what keeps us sober.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
S O B E R = S
piritually On Beam; Everything's Right

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Patience
by Ralph Marston

A sense of urgency is crucial to success, and yet just as important to success is patience. These may seem at first to be contradictory attributes, but really they are not. For we must learn to act with urgency, and react with patience. Yes, we reap what we sow -- sow with a sense of urgency, and reap with a rational patience.

We must have the patience to let our efforts bear fruit. Nothing worth having can be created immediately. There will be delays, disappointments and setbacks. Patience will help you put it all into perspective, and will give you the perseverence necessary to reach your goals.

Patience will make you confident and decisive. Patience will help you to avoid stress. Patience will give you a rational outlook that eventually leads to success. It will help you to become disciplined, and to avoid poor decisions made in haste.

The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, April 20, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 4-20-2017

Thursday, April 20, 2017
Today's Gift

Hurried and worried until we're buried
And there's no curtain call,
Life's a very funny proposition,
after all. —George M. Cohan

Often, when we involve ourselves in a whirlwind of activities, plans, and expectations, we push ourselves so hard that we don't derive any satisfaction from success. We need to face our limitations. We can't do everything we want. Even when we can do a great deal, if we overextend ourselves, take on too much, we will not enjoy ourselves, and there is no reason not to enjoy our work.

Our activities are part of what we are. If we choose to live in a frantic hurry, worrying about the next moment instead of this one, we'll miss life entirely. Part of self-knowledge is learning to pace ourselves to our own speed, learning to set goals we can attain for each day. When we do this, we can say, "Now that I've completed this, I don't have to do one more thing to feel worthwhile."

Am I trying to do too much too fast?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

I wasn't exactly brought up in one of those Norman Rockwell paintings you used to see on the cover of the Saturday Evening Post. --Reggie Jackson

We have many myths about other people's lives. When we compare ourselves to these stories, we come up short. We have the TV families of Father Knows Best or The Waltons in our minds. We may have stories our father told about his moment of glory and how he met his challenges. Any of these images selects part of the truth and highlights it, creating a myth that might be worthwhile if we don't take it too literally.

Living real life never feels as serene as our fantasies. A myth lifts us up, carries us away to other possibilities, but we should always take it with a grain of salt. A parent's recollections or a Norman Rockwell painting romanticizes a piece of reality by omitting the drudgery and confusion of life. Myths are meant as inspirations, not as measurements of our lives.

Action for the Day: The difficulties and confusion I feel may just be part of real life. Serenity comes when I accept the mixture that real life is.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Hitting Bottom
Why all this insistence that every A.A. must hit bottom first? The answer is that few
people will sincerely try to practice the A.A. program unless they have hit bottom. For
practicing A.A.'s remaining eleven Steps means the adoption of attitudes and actions
that almost no alcoholic who is still drinking can dream of taking.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 24

Thought to Ponder . . .
Sobriety without action is fantasy.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
C H A O S = C
an't Handle Another Overwhelming Situation

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Fill this day with substance
by Ralph Marston

Fill this day with substance. Fill this day with life at its highest level.

Inoculate yourself against trivialities, temptations and distractions by making a firm commitment. Commit yourself to follow specific, meaningful intentions of your choosing.

Be able to remember a week from now what you achieved on this day. Be able to be thankful a year from now for the way you invested your time today.

This day is not a practice run. Life is happening right now and you are here to do something good with it.

Though it is serious business, it never has to be a chore. You can fill this day with substance while also finding great satisfaction and enjoyment.

Achievement is what you are meant to do, so joyfully let yourself do your thing. Fill this day with substance, and make all of life thankful for what you do.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/