Tuesday, May 23, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-23-2017

Tuesday, May 23, 2017
Today's Gift


Stop seeking out the storms in your life and enjoy more fully the sunlight life produces. ― Gordon B. Hinckley

Life is not to be endured; life is to be enjoyed and embraced.

The belief that we must square our shoulders and get through a meager, deprived existence for far off rewards in Heaven is a codependent belief.

Yes, most of us still have times when life will be stressful and challenge our endurance skills. But in life, we'must learn to live, to enjoy our life, and handle situations as they come.

Our survival skills have served us well. They have gotten us through difficult times - as children and adults. Our ability to freeze feelings, deny problems, deprive ourselves, and cope with stress has helped us get where we are today. But we must believe we're safe now. We're learning to do more than survive. We can let go of unhealthy survival behaviors. We're learning new, better ways to protect and care for ourselves. We're free to feel our feelings, identify and solve problems, and give ourselves the best. We're free to open up and come alive.

Today, I will let go of my unhealthy endurance and survival skills. I will choose a new mode of living, one that allows me to be alive and enjoy the adventure.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The present will not long endure.---Pindar

At certain moments, our best friend is time. Time is a gift given us. Time helps us heal. We need to know that when things are tough, these times will pass, and peace will return. Our Higher Power can be like a parent who comforts a child when there's a storm outside. The parent gently reminds the child the sun will shine again.

Tough times come and go. There will be times when life is ugly and very painful. We can't be happy all the time. Remember, our Higher Power is always there. We must have faith in this. A saying often heard in the program is, "This too shall pass."

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, remind me that things will get better. Even if they get worst for a while, they will get better. Let this be my prayer in hard times.

Action for the Day: Today, I'll list times in my life when I thought I couldn't go on. I'll remember the pain, but I'll also remember how time was my friend.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
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One Day At A Time

A Power
We found that as soon as we were able to lay aside prejudice and
express even a willingness to believe in a Power greater than ourselves,
we commenced to get results, even though it was impossible for any of us to
fully define or comprehend that Power, which is a God, as we understand Them.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 46

Thought to Ponder . . .
Willpower ... our will-ingness to use a Higher Power.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H O W = H
onesty, Open-mindedness, Willingness


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Away from the frenzy
by Ralph Marston

Just because it is possible to live day after day at a blistering pace, doesn’t mean it is preferable. You don’t always have to get more, do more, have more, to live richly.

Fulfillment is about quality and meaning, not simple quantity. Fill your life, but don’t pack it so tightly you can’t breathe.

Effort, industriousness and achievement bring great value to life. Yet quiet, thoughtful times can be just as enriching as busy, productive periods.

There’s no point in having everything if you do not take the time to enjoy anything. Take the time, breathe, savor, give goodness a chance to sink in.

Don’t delay, don’t procrastinate, but don’t make everything into a race. If you miss the green light there will be another, and time before it to catch your breath.

Life is much too magnificent to rush through it. Step away from the frenzy, and truly get ahead.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/




Monday, May 22, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-22-2017

Monday, May 22, 2017
Today's Gift

If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself. —Rollo May

Those of us who go around trying to be right and do everything right are likely to betray ourselves. We stifle our impulses and control our intuition because we can't be certain that we are correct. As a spiritual exercise, we could stop now and listen to our inner selves and state our own ideas. What comes out may break the illusion of perfection and free us to proceed with life.

We all have original ideas if we just notice them. What images come to mind while listening to music? What do our dreams tell us? New insights sometimes come by physical activity. Conversation with a friend can help lead us to our wisdom. Our growing strength as humans requires that we listen to our own messages and then take some risks to express them.

Today, I will take risks by stating my ideas. I will stand up for myself by listening to my intuition.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

If you want to find the trail, if you want to find yourself, you must explore your dreams alone. You must grow at a slow pace in a dark cocoon of loneliness so you can fly like wind, like wings, when you awaken. ― Francesca Lia Block, Dangerous Angels

Times of Reprogramming
Do not ask for love unless you're ready to be healed enough to give and receive love.
Do not ask for joy unless you're ready to feel and release your pain, so you can feel joy.
Do not ask for success unless you're ready to conquer the behaviors that would sabotage success.

Wouldn't it be nice if we could imagine ourselves having or becoming - and then immediately receiving - what we wanted? We can have and be the good things we want. All good things are ours for the asking. But first, groundwork - preparation work - must be done.

A gardener would not plant seeds unless the ground was adequately prepared to nurture and nourish those seeds. The planting would be wasted effort. It would be wasted effort for us to get what we wanted before we were ready.

First, we need to become aware of our need or desire. This may not be easy! Many of us have become accustomed to shutting off the inner voice of our wants, needs, and desires. Sometimes, life has to work hard to get our attention.

Next we let go of the old programming: the behavior and beliefs that interfere with nurturing and nourishing the good. Many of us have strong sabotaging programs, learned from childhood, that need to be released. We may need to act as if for a while until the belief that we deserve the good becomes real.

We combine this process with much letting go, while we are being changed at the core.
There is naturalness to this process, but it can be intense. Things take time.

Good things are ours for the asking, if we are willing to participate in the work of groundbreaking. Work and wait.

Action for the Day: Today I will ask my Higher Power to give me the courage to identify the good I want in my life and to ask for it. To give me also the faith and stamina I need to go through the work that must be accomplished first.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2


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One Day At A Time

Trust and Reliance
Perhaps there is a better way—we think so. For we are now on a different basis;
the basis of trusting and relying upon our Higher Power. We trust our infinite Higher Power rather than our finite selves. We are in the world to play the role They assign. Just to the
extent that we do as we think They would have us, and humbly rely on Them,
do They enable us to match calamity with serenity.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 68

Thought to Ponder . . .

Serenity is not the absence of conflict but the ability to cope with it.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
F R O G = F
ully Rely On God

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Deal with life
by Ralph Marston

You’ll often be tempted to take the easy way out. Do your future self a big favor, and remember that the easy way is almost never the best way.

Even when you feel like quitting, you have the strength to keep going. Even when the work is difficult and demanding, you can get it done.

Cutting corners now creates even bigger problems later. Being less than honest with yourself or others only magnifies the power of a difficult truth that will eventually be unavoidable.

Success, achievement, fulfillment, and satisfaction are never reached by avoiding life’s demands. Instead, call upon yourself to fully deal with life as it unfolds.

Much of the work of living is not fun or glamorous or convenient. Yet what makes life good at its deepest level is when you rise to the challenges as they appear.

Use your strength, deal with life, and add to its rich and magnificent substance. Make yourself always thankful for the way you’ve lived each moment.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Friday, May 19, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-19-2017

Friday, May 19, 2017
Today's Gift

As we learn we always change, and so our perception. This changed perception then becomes a new Teacher inside each of us. —Hyemeyohsts Storm

Hyemeyohsts Storm's book, Seven Arrows, tells the stories of one of the Indian tribes in this country before most of its members were killed. They believed that change was important for growth. Change is sometimes frightening. We usually prefer the familiar, no matter how uncomfortable, over taking a chance on the unknown.

When fear gets in the way of making healthy changes, we talk to fear, inviting it along with us on our course of action. Getting to know fear allows us to ask it for a gift: the courage to walk with fear by our side and learn from it as we go. It allows us to learn which fear is blocking our progress and which fear is healthy - cautioning us against actions that might be harmful.

What fear might I make a friend of today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The art of living is more like wrestling than dancing.---Marcus Aurelius

The struggles of life teach us a lot. They challenge our beliefs. As we struggle, we come to believe that our friends, family, and Higher Power will be there for us in hard times. But we must do our part. We need to call and honestly let people know how we are doing. We need to pray and ask our Higher Power for help. If we do these things, we'll come to respect and learn from hard times.

Prayer for the Day: I pray for the wisdom to see that struggles are part of live. Higher Power, I pray for Your help in not taking struggles too personally.

Action for the Day: I'll list four times I've struggled and what I learned from each stuggle. I'll share this with a friend.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Self-Knowledge
But the actual or potential alcoholic, with hardly an exception,
will be absolutely unable to stop drinking on the basis of self-
knowledge. This is a point we wish to emphasize and re-emphasize,
to smash home upon our alcoholic readers as it has been revealed
to us out of bitter experience.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 39

Thought to Ponder . . .
Faith makes the impossible possible.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
N O W = N
o Other Way

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Stop and consider
by Ralph Marston

When you feel yourself struggling to get what you don’t really want, stop. And consider what an exquisite miracle you already are.

If you catch yourself complaining that things are not going your way, think for a moment. And see that everything that is, can be put to positive purpose.

If you’re consumed with worrying that you might lose it all, gently and lovingly calm your thoughts. Realize that what truly has value can never be taken away.

When you’re tempted to blame others for all of your troubles, take a step back. And understand that the way to control your own destiny is to take full responsibility for your life.

Before you let fear hold you prisoner, remember this. You can learn from the fear, you can use it to more fully prepare, and you can then move confidently ahead.

Before you allow any person, thought, feeling, event or situation to get you down, take a deep breath and consider. This moment is still unfolding, and you can choose right now to make life better than it has ever been.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, May 18, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-18-2017

Thursday, May 18, 2017
Today's Gift

. . . in order to feel anything you need strength . . . —Anna Maria Ortese

Strength for any task, to withstand any pressure, to find the solution to any problem, is always as close as our very breath. We expend all our energy, wearing ourselves down, even getting sick from worry when we fail to turn to the source of strength that is ours for the taking.

We are offered, moment-by-moment, opportunities to experience the rapture of life. We have the chance, with self-discovery, to trust our senses, to turn ourselves over to the moment, knowing we can survive every experience, knowing we are guaranteed new knowledge, a greater awareness of the meaning of our own lives when we're fully attuned to the experiences that are uniquely our own, right here, right now.

Our strength increases as we flex it, not unlike muscles. The more we turn to that greater power, the more available that source of strength becomes. With practice, it becomes habitual to let our Higher Power help us withstand all pressures, solve every problem. In time, the pressures and problems seem to exist no more. We learn to let our higher power circumvent the difficulties in our lives. Free at last, we become free at last to feel the real joys of living.

All the strength I need to face anything that's worrying me is at hand. I will let go and let my Higher Power help me today.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

Don't stop living your life!

So often, when a problem occurs, inside or around us, we revert to thinking that if we put our life on hold we can positively contribute to the solution. If a relationships isn't working, if we face a difficult decision, if were feeling depressed, we may put our life on hold and torment ourselves with obsessive thoughts.

Abandoning our life or routines contributes to the problem and delays us from finding the solution.
Frequently, the solution comes when we let go enough to live our life, return to our routine, and stop obsessing about the problem.

Sometimes, even if we don't feel like we have let go or can let go, we can act as if we have, and that will help bring about the letting go we desire.

You don't have to give up your power to problems. You can take your focus off your problem and direct it to your life, trusting that doing so will bring you closer to a solution.

Action for the Day: Today, I will go on living my life and tending to my routine. I will decide, as often as I need to, to stop obsessing about whatever is bothering me. If I don't feel like letting go of a particular thing, I will act as if I have let go of it until my feelings match my behavior.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

An Understanding
But the ex-problem drinker who has found this solution, who is properly armed
with facts about them self, can generally win the entire confidence of another
alcoholic/addict in a few hours. Until such an understanding is reached, little or
nothing can be accomplished.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 18

Thought to Ponder . . .
Faith is our greatest gift; its sharing with others our greatest responsibility.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
E S H = E
xperience, Strength and Hope

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Peaceful presence
by Ralph Marston

Be a peaceful presence in the world. Be a peaceful presence in your own life.

A peaceful presence gives you power without draining your effectiveness. A peaceful presence is purposeful without being obsessive.

Let go of worry and let in acceptance. Let go of anxiety and let in positive effort.

Peacefully transform frustration into energy and inspiration. If anger gets you going let it be peaceful purpose that keeps you moving.

Be at peace with what has happened before, and you can direct all your resources to what will happen next. Rise above the envy, resentment, retribution that would steal your power.

Frame each response, each action with a peaceful presence. Let peace give maximum power to all you do.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Wednesday, May 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-17-2017

Wednesday, May 17, 2017
Today's Gift

Even if you understand and follow all of the rules for more effectively engaging manipulators, life with them is not likely to be easy. --George K. Simon Jr.

Sometimes they want something. Sometimes they want someone to give them something or to feel a particular way. They want power in some way, shape, or form. Manipulators prey on our weak spots.

Obsession and guilt are weapons. Manipulators get us to use these weapons on ourselves.

Sometimes we can disengage from manipulators - walk away, set a clear limit, be done with them. Other times, it's not that easy. We may be at least temporarily stuck with a boss or authority figure that indulges in heavy manipulation. One of our children may be going through a relentlessly manipulative period. We may have a parent whom we care about deeply who has adapted manipulation as a way of life.

Learn how to effectively deal with manipulators. Not everyone means what they say. . . Learn to recognize when others are telling you what they believe you want to hear. Learn to not react, stay clear, practice nonresistance, and stay true to yourself.

Be gentle with yourself if you have a manipulator in your life. You're not responsible for the other person's attempts at manipulation. You're responsible for staying clear.

Higher Power, help me let go the weak spots in myself that allow me to fall prey to manipulations. Help me stay clear of guilt and obsession so I can decide what's best for me.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

Dreams have always expanded our understanding of reality by challenging our boundaries of the real, of the possible. --Henry Reed

Boundaries
Sometimes, life and people seem to push and push. Because we are so used to pain, we may tell ourselves it doesn't hurt. Because we are so used to people controlling and manipulating us, we may tell ourselves there is something wrong with us.

There's nothing wrong with us. Life is pushing and hurting to get our attention. Sometimes, the pain and pushing are pointing toward a lesson. The lesson may be that we've become too controlling. Or maybe were being pushed to own our power to take care of ourselves. The issue is boundaries.

If something or somebody is pushing us to our limit, that's exactly what's happening: were being pushed to our limits. We can be grateful for the lesson that's here to help us explore and set our boundaries.

Action for the Day: Today, I will give myself permission to set the limits I want and need to set in my life.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Dependence
The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely upon our
assistance rather than upon their Higher Power. They clamor for this or that, claiming they cannot master alcohol until their material needs are cared for. Nonsense. Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth:
Job or no job—spouse or no spouse—we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on our Higher Power.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p 98

Thought to Ponder . . .
In AA we don't carry the alcoholic; we carry the message.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
F R O G = F
ully Rely On God

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Make life the best
by Ralph Marston

Progress doesn’t just happen because you wish for it. Progress comes about when you work to create it.

To improve the output, improve the input. To improve what you get, improve what you do.

Make positive, empowering changes to your environment. Stay away from people who drag you down, and get yourself around those who challenge, inspire, motivate, fascinate you.

Raise your expectations of yourself, and of others, then exceed those expectations. Raise your level of engagement, your discipline, your commitment, focus, awareness.

When effort is called for, make extra effort. When something must be done, or can be done, find a way to get it done, then go beyond it.

The beauty in each moment begs you to create new greatness. Answer the call, and invest yourself fully in making life the best you know it can be.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, May 16, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-16-2017

Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Today's Gift

Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It's about accepting all of yourself. --Tyra Banks

"I woke up this morning and I had a hard time for a while," said one person. "Then I realized it was because I wasn't liking myself very much." People often say: I just don't like myself. When will I start liking myself?

The answer is: start now. We can learn to be gentle, loving, and nurturing with ourselves. Of all the recovery behaviors we're striving to attain, loving ourselves may be the most difficult, and the most important. If we are habitually harsh and critical toward ourselves, learning to be gentle with ourselves may require dedicated effort.

But what a valuable venture!

By not liking ourselves, we may be perpetuating the discounting, neglect, or abuse we received in childhood from the important people in our life. We didn't like what happened then, but find ourselves copying those who mistreated us by treating ourselves poorly.

We can stop the pattern. We can begin giving ourselves the loving, respectful treatment we deserve.

Instead of criticizing ourselves, we can tell ourselves we performed well enough.

We can wake up in the morning and tell ourselves we deserve a good day.

We can make a commitment to take good care of ourselves throughout the day.

We can recognize that were deserving of love. We can do loving things for ourselves.

We can love other people and let them love us.

People, who truly love themselves do not become destructively self-centered. They do not abuse others. They do not stop growing and changing. People who love themselves well, learn to love others well too. They continually grow into healthier people, learning that their love was appropriately placed.

Today, I will love myself. If I get caught in the old pattern of not liking myself, I will find a way to get out.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Difficulties, opposition, criticism--these things are meant to be overcome, and there is a special joy in facing them and in coming out on top. It is only when there is nothing but praise that life loses its charm, and I begin to wonder what I should do about it. --Vijaya Lakshmi Pandit

To be alive means to experience difficulties, conflicts, challenges from many directions. What we do with adverse conditions both determines and is determined by who we are. Resistance, most of us have learned, heightens the adversity. Acceptance of the condition, trusting all the while the lesson it offers us is for our benefit, ensures that we'll "come out on top."

Difficulties are opportunities for advancement, for increased self-awareness, for self-fulfillment. So often we hear and remind one another, that we grow through pain. We can face any situation knowing we have the strength to shore us up. Strangely, we need challenges in order to grow; without growth we wither. Happiness is the bounty for facing the momentarily unhappy conditions.

Action for the Day: Any difficulty I meet today offers me a chance for even greater happiness; it guarantees my growth.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
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One Day At A Time

Readiness
We have emphasized willingness as being indispensable. Are we now ready
to let our Higher Power remove from us all the things which we have admitted are
objectionable? Can He now take them all—every one? If we still cling to
something we will not let go, we ask our Higher Power to help us be willing.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 76

Thought to Ponder . . .
My faults do not make me faulty; they make me human.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A C T I O N = A
ny Change To Improve Our Nature

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Live with confidence
by Ralph Marston

In you, there is goodness. Be confident in that goodness.

In you, there is life. Have confidence in that life.

You have the very real ability to do great things. With your goodness, with your life, through your purpose you can make a difference.

Choose to have the confidence to truly make the world a better place. Choose to express the goodness that’s within you by fulfilling your best possibilities.

Be a leader who leads by positive example. Express your love for life with confidence, grace, humility, gratitude and original creativity.

Life is beautiful and unlimited in its possibilities, and you have life in this very moment. Live with the confidence of knowing how good you have it and how much more beautiful you can make it be.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/