Thursday, October 18, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-18-2018

Thursday, October 18, 2018
Today's Gift


don't go by the rule book... I lead from the heart, not the head. Princess Diana

Throwing Out the Rule Book

Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.

We don't trust life or ourselves.

We don't trust the Plan.

We want to be in control.

"I've made terrible mistakes about my choices, mistakes that nearly destroyed me. Life has really shocked me. How can I trust myself? How can I trust life, and my instincts, after where I've been?" asked one person.

It is understandable that we fear being crushed again. We don't have to be fearful. We can trust our self, our path, and our instincts.

Yes, we want to avoid making the same mistakes again. We are not the same people we were yesterday or last year. We've learned, grown, changed. We did what we needed to do then. If we made a mistake, we cannot let that stop us from living and fully experiencing today.

We have arrived at the understanding that we needed our experiences - even our mistakes - to get to where we are today. Do we know that we needed our life to unfold exactly as it did to find ourselves, our Higher Power, and this new way of life? Or is part of us still calling our past a mistake?

We can let go of our past and trust ourselves now. We do not have to punish ourselves with our past. We don't need a rulebook, a microscope, a warranty. All we really need is a mirror. We can look into the mirror and say, "I trust you. No matter what happens, you can take care of yourself. And what happens will continue to be good, better than you think."

Today, I will stop clinging to the painful lessons of the past. I will open myself to the positive lessons today and tomorrow hold for me. I trust that I can and will take care of myself now. I trust that the Plan is good, even when I don't know what it is.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Time is a circle. The end is the beginning.

Day by day, a year comes and goes. Today's end is the beginning of the rest of our lives. We take with us what we have learned today. We are the same and not the same.

As long as we are alive, we will continue to wrestle with questions, seek answers, and solve problems. Let's be gentle with ourselves and others, choosing to respond with non-judging love and acceptance instead of unrealistic demands of perfection.

We have found a blueprint for recovery. Our preoccupation with not enough and too much has led us to a spiritual solution. Each day brings us new opportunities to express our development - a more patient response to a traffic jam, the ability to empathize with a child's embarrassment, the acceptance of a disappointment. Today is another day to learn how to be serene, to nurture body and spirit so that we may function as an integrated totality. We will continue to learn and grow toward recovery.

Action for the Day: I will begin and end today by listening to my inner voice.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

It Matters
We could cheerfully perform humble labor without worrying
about tomorrow. If our circumstances happened to be good,
we no longer dreaded a change for the worse, for we had
learned that these troubles could be turned into great values.
It did not matter too much what our material condition was,
but it did matter what our spiritual condition was.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pp. 121 - 122

Thought to Ponder
Spirituality is not based on logic, it is faith-driven.

AA-related 'Alconym'
S O B E R = S
piritually On Beam; Everything's Right


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Enjoy the unenjoyable
by Ralph Marston

Getting out of a warm bed into the cold morning will be uncomfortable. Yet you’ll quickly adjust, and will in fact be thankful and satisfied about getting an early start on the day.

Introducing yourself to that new person will be a little awkward. However, you’ll soon have a new acquaintance whom you’ll enjoy knowing.

Whatever you know you must do, go ahead and do it. Stop wasting your time and energy putting it off or overthinking it.

You may not get it perfect, yet you can get it done. It may not be the most pleasant experience you’ve ever had, but you’ll certainly survive.

And in fact, the more unpleasant it is, the better you’ll feel when you get it over with. So go ahead, do yourself a great big favor, and get it done.

Jump out of that bed, make that dentist appointment, write that report, hop on that exercise bike, and get it all behind you. Enjoy getting the unenjoyable stuff done, and discover there’s nothing that can stop you.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, October 17, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-17-2018

Wednesday, October 17, 2018
Today's Gift

Fear makes strangers of people who should be friends. —Shirley MacLaine

No one is brave every moment; each of us feels awkward, shy, perhaps even ugly or dumb part of the time. If we could understand that about each other, it would make it easier for us to be friendly and willing to talk to someone new. Instead, we often sit back, waiting to be noticed; waiting for someone to invite us to join in an activity.

We are all so much alike, yet we are so certain we're different. Being self-conscious is normal. Even those who are the most popular suffer the same fears as the rest of us. The better we understand the ways we are the same, the easier it will be to make friends with someone new. And it's through friends that we grow and are strengthened for whatever lies ahead.

What new person can I offer friendship to today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Every child is an artist. The problem is remain an artist once your grow up.---Pablo Picasso

We each have colorful ideas waiting to be shared. We’re alive inside. But do we let this side of us show? Our disease stole much of the child like openness. Many of us were taught that growing up meant denying the child within us. Many of us grew up in homes where it wasn’t safe to act alive and creative. Whatever the reason, it’s time to claim the child, the artist, in each of us. Each of our programs is different, and each has its artistic touch. When we tell our stories, we share our life. And our lives are unique and alive. The more alive we become, the more color we bring to others and ourselves. Let’s not be afraid to add color to our lives.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me claim the child inside of me. Joy is choice. Help me choose it.

Action for the Day: Today, I’ll work at not hiding myself from others. I’ll be alive, and I’ll greet everyone I meet with the openness of a child.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Step Five
“Admitted to our Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another human being
the exact nature of our wrongs.”

ALL OF A.A.'s Twelve Steps ask us to go contrary to our natural desires . . .
they all deflate our egos. When it comes to ego deflation, few Steps are
harder to take than Five. But scarcely any Step is more necessary to
longtime sobriety and peace of mind than this one.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 55

Thought to Ponder
Guilt is in the past; worry is the future. Both are manifestations of ego.

AA-related 'Alconym'
P R I D E = P
ersonal Recovery Involves Deflating Ego


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

The changes come
by Ralph Marston

Opportunities arise, equipment wears out, people change jobs, new products are introduced. You can be certain that in ways large and small, on a personal level and on a global scale, things change.

Tomorrow, next month, next year, will all be different than today. And being dismayed, resentful, or angry about the changes won’t make them go away.

A much more effective strategy is to pay attention, to accept that the world will change, to adjust and adapt and make positive use of changing conditions. You cannot stop life from changing, yet you can work within those changes to make them for the better.

Not every change is positive, yet you can always find a positive response to whatever the change may be. Most of the world’s changes are beyond your direct control, yet you do have much control over the way your own life changes.

Change is going to happen. So make the commitment in every moment to find new ways that you can do the very best with all those changes.

You can’t stop change but you can work to make it good, and thrive on it, and help others to do the same. Every day the changes come, and every day is your chance to give life even more meaning and value.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, October 16, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-16-2018

Tuesday, October 16, 2018
Today's Gift

Be honest with yourself. The world is not honest with you. The world loves hypocrisy. When you are honest with yourself you find the road to inner peace. -Paramahansa Yogananda

Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.

When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.

When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.

When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.

When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.

When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.

When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.

When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.

When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.

When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.

Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day









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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple


Self-pity is one of the most dangerous forms of self-centeredness. It fogs our vision. ---Kathy S.

Sometimes we get stuck in our own way of seeing things. We may feel as if everything that happens, happens to us or for us. If it rains, we may think about our ruined picnic and not about the dry fields that need the rain. We need to focus on the big picture. This keeps us from becoming self-centered. If it rains, we’ll gather indoors and be glad for the farmers. When we do our part, things go well. When we don’t we feel it. Every else feels it too. Self pity keeps us from doing our part.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me see myself as a big part of the picture. My job is just is to do my part.

Action for the Day: Today, I’ll think about how I fit in with my Higher Power, my family, the place I work, my community. Do I do my part?

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Children of Chaos
Over the years, every conceivable deviation from our Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions has been tried.
That was sure to be, since we are so largely a band of ego-driven individuals.
Children of chaos, we have defiantly played with every brand of fire,
only to emerge unharmed and, we think, wiser.
These very deviations created a vast process of trial and error,
which under the grace of our Higher Power, has brought us to where we stand today.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 146

Thought to Ponder
By seeking and blundering we learn.

AA-related 'Alconym'
C H A O S = C
reating Havoc Around Our Selves

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Trust yourself
by Ralph Marston

Trust yourself to love what you truly love. Have plenty of confidence to say what you really want to say.

Life is too precious to always be asking permission. Go ahead and live your authentic purpose in every thing, in every moment.

Have faith in what impassions you. Go with what you know is good and right, energizing and empowering.

Anyone else’s mere opinion about you is that person’s concern, not yours. Trust in your unique worth and beauty, for they are absolutely there.

Be endlessly curious and joyously delighted about whatever you care about. Let yourself be fascinated by the special, sparkling gems of life that catch your eye.

You already know how to live richly. Trust yourself, and do it.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, October 15, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-15-2018

Monday, October 15, 2018
Today's Gift

Life is full of surprises: new opportunities come up; that's part of the fun - the adventure of life. The thing is, chaos doesn't allow us to enjoy the adventure. Patrick Lencioni

Letting Go of Chaos

No good work comes from unrest.

Unrest, fear, anger, or sadness may motivate us. These feelings are sometimes intended to compel action. But our best work emerges after these feelings have been replaced by peace.

We will not accomplish our task any sooner, or any better, by performing it out of a sense of urgency, fear, anger, or sadness.

Let go of unrest. Let peace fill the void. We do not have to forfeit our power, our God given personal power - or our peace - to do the work as we are called upon to do today. We will be given all the power we need to do what we are meant to do, when it is time.

Let peace come first. Then proceed. The task will get done, naturally and on time.

Today, I will get peaceful first, and let my work and life emerge from that base.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Controlling Versus Trust

There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control. --Anonymous

Controlling is a direct response to our fear, panic, and sense of helplessness. It is a direct response to feeling overwhelmed, and to distrust.

We may not trust ourselves, our Higher Power, the Plan, the Universe, or the process of life. Instead of trusting, we revert to control.

We can approach this need to control by dealing with our fear. We deal with fear by trusting - ourselves, our Higher Power, the love and support of the Universe, the Plan, and this process we call life and recovery.

We can trust that when things don't work out the way we want, our Higher Power has something better planned.

We can trust ourselves to get where we need to go, say what we need to say, do what we need to do, know what we need to know, be who we need to be, and become all we can become, when we are intended to do that, when we are ready, and when the time is right.

We can trust our Higher Power and the Universe to give us all the direction we need.
We can trust ourselves to listen, and respond, accordingly.

We can trust that all we need on this journey shall come to us. We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today's supplies today, and tomorrow's supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.

Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.

The way will become clear and the supplies will be amply and clearly provided, one day at a time.

Trust, my friend, in today.

Action for the Day: Today, I will trust that I will receive all I need to get me through today. I will trust that the same shall happen tomorrow.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Affirmative Action
Like all the remaining Steps, Step Three calls for affirmative action,
for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will which has
always blocked the entry of a Higher Power—into
our lives. Faith, to be sure, is necessary, but faith alone can avail nothing.
We can have faith, yet keep our Higher Power out of our lives.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 34
Thought to Ponder
Willpower ... our will-ingness to use a Higher Power.

AA-related 'Alconym'
B I G B O O K = B
elieving In God Beats Our Old Knowledge

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Play an active role
by Ralph Marston

When you come upon an opportunity, take it. When you discover a problem, solve it.

Play an active role in life each day. Get up, get out there, get busy, and get things done.

Make use of your energy and you’ll have much more of it. Put forth a little enthusiasm, and you will quickly feel that enthusiasm began to grow.

Join in without waiting to be invited or persuaded. Offer your action, your advice, your understanding, your kindness.

Keep yourself interested, informed, involved, and positive about making a difference. Always there is something good and worthwhile that you can do.

Life moves fast and is filled with richness. Move along with it, and add your own unique efforts and expressions to the richness.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Friday, October 12, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-12-2018

Friday, October 12, 2018
Today's Gift

I'm learning that for a variety of reasons, I've spent much of my life focusing on form rather than substance. My focus has been on having my hair done perfectly, wearing the right clothes, having my makeup applied perfectly, living in the right place, furnishing it with the right furniture, working at the right job, and having the right man. Form, rather than substance, has controlled my behavior in many areas of my life. Now, I'm finally getting to the truth. It's substance that counts. --Anonymous

Substance over Form

There is nothing wrong in wanting to look our best. Whether we are striving to create a self, a relationship, or a life, we need to have some solid ideas about what we want that to look like.

Form gives us a place to begin. But for many of us, form has been a substitute for substance. We may have focused on form to compensate for feeling afraid or feeling inferior. We may have focused on form because we didn't know how to focus on substance.

Form is the outline; substance is what fills it in. We fill in the outline of ourselves by being authentic; we fill in the outline of our life by showing up for life and participating to the best of our ability.

We're must learn to pay attention to how things work and feel, not just to what they look like.

Today, I will focus on substance in my life. I will fill in the lines of myself with a real person - me. I will concentrate on the substance of my relationships, rather than what they look like. I will focus on the real working of my life, instead of the trappings.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

No person is more cheated than the selfish one. --Henry Ward Beecher

When we're selfish, we close off the channels of exchange with others. Not only are we grabbing and holding all the goods or attention we can get, but we are denying others the possibility of sharing with us in the benefits. We may be selfish in material goods, but there are many other ways too. Some of us expect our spouses to meet our needs while we make little effort to meet theirs. Some of us discover our selfishness as we drive, refusing to yield a position to another car or getting furious if we lose a place in heavy traffic.

By contrast, our generosity and welcoming responses nourish the spirit within us and create a good environment for our growth. Sometimes giving does not come easily. We have a more generous spirit when we are in touch with our ultimate vulnerability. All of life is fragile, and we need each other to have a good life. We can truly hold onto nothing but ourselves. Giving what we can of our time, our energy, and our goods, helps create the kind of world we want to live in.

Action for the Day: Today, I will look for ways to be generous with those I share this world with.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Step Eleven
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with our Higher Power as we understood Them, praying only
for knowledge of Their will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 59

Thought to Ponder
Prayer asks the question. Meditation listens for the answer.

AA-related 'Alconym'
A S A P = A
lways Say A Prayer


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Seek harmony
by Ralph Marston

Conflict leads to despair and destruction. Harmony supports, encourages, creates value, trust, and positive energy.

Focus your awareness not on what you oppose or wish to avoid. Instead, keep your thoughts and actions centered on all you love and support and wish to experience more of in life.

Those who have opinions and perspectives that are different from yours are not your enemies. Indeed, they can be your greatest teachers.

Seek to get beyond the urge to fight, beyond the need to prove yourself. Live on a level at which respect, understanding, and cooperation guide your interactions.

Discover how much more can be achieved through agreement and finding common ground than through argument and opposition. Use your energy along with others to build together rather than wasting it in tearing each other down.

Let go of your ego’s combative urges, and let the power of harmony into your world. The less you fight, the less you oppose, the more there is for everyone to create and enjoy.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, October 11, 2018

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-11-2018

Thursday, October 11, 2018
Today's Gift

A musician must make music; an artist must paint, a poet must write, if they are to be at peace with themselves. What a person can be, they must be. —Abraham Maslow

The same is true of a seamstress, carpenter, homemaker, lawyer, or mechanic. The question is, who and what am I? What must I do to be at peace with myself? What can I be, for that is what I must be?

A lucky few of us find the answers to these questions fairly early in life, and we work to develop into the people we can be and must be. We do that by looking at our deepest desires, and ask what would bring fulfillment for us. We ask what we would enjoy doing most, what we believe we have the ability to be really good at. What is it that sometimes burns within us to be expressed or done? The answers to what we can be, what we must be, come from within, through asking ourselves these questions.

What kind of a person am I capable of being?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

May you live all the days of your life. ---Jonathan Swift

The truth is, life hard. Accepting this fact will make it easier. Remember
how well it worked in Step One? Once we admitted and that we were
powerless over alcohol and other drugs, we were given the power to recover.

It works the same with life’s problems.

We can spend a lot of energy trying to avoid life’s hardships. But our program
teaches us to use the same energy to solve our problems. Problems are chances
to better ourselves and become more spiritual. We have a choice: we can either
use our energy to avoid problems, or we can face them. When we stop wasting
energy, we start to feel more sure of ourselves.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, life is to be lived, both the easy and the hard
parts. Help me face and learn from it all.

Action for the Day: I’ll work at not complaining about how hard life is. I’ll take
the same energy and us it to solve problems I may face.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Vital Faith
But they will be curious to learn why their own convictions have not worked
and why yours seem to work so well. They may be an example of the truth
that faith alone is insufficient. To be vital, faith must be accompanied
by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 93

Thought to Ponder
If faith without works is dead; then willingness without action is fantasy.

AA-related 'Alconym'
H O W = H
onest, Open-minded, Willing


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Realistically hopeful
by Ralph Marston

What has happened, has happened. What you think about it, what you feel about it, what you do about it, that’s all up to you.

There may be ample reasons to feel despair. Even so, you can make the choice instead to be hopeful, and realistically so.

True hope is not an empty fantasy. It is a decision you make about how you intend to move forward.

Being realistically hopeful is being ready and willing to support your hope with your persistent efforts, your attitude, your commitment and priorities. Realistic hope is always possible because the situation will change, and your hope can influence the direction of that change.

Hope is much more powerful than a mere wish for things to get better. Hope energizes you to do the work that will make things better.

The world at times can lay great difficulty upon you. Meet it always with the power of real hope, and let that hope push you to transform each challenge into new achievement.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/