Tuesday, August 23, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-23-2016

Tuesday, August 23, 2016
Today's Gift

It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more "adulthood" to abide by thought-out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind. --Alex Karras

In our culture, being a strong often means being tough and not showing feelings. When we realize that those are silly and immature myths, even though we see them repeatedly on TV, on billboards, and in newspapers.

When we are told these things repeatedly, it makes an impact on us. So we need to hear from each other that this is not the way we wish to live. We don't admire these attitudes, and we don't believe the stories. Truly courageous men know themselves. They have been around enough to have depth to their souls, to let themselves love, and to feel the pain of life.

Today, I am grateful to know and share my feelings and to have genuine relationships with those I love.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Just because a man lacks the use of his eyes doesn't mean he lacks vision. --Stevie Wonder

It has been easy for many of us to meet our limitations with self-pity. Maybe we think being real means always being strong, capable, and in charge. If we have a handicap, like blindness or a learning disability, we may have thought we were less masculine or less worthy.

All of us have handicaps. Some are greater than others, and some are more visible than others. These handicaps confront us with our powerlessness. We do not find our finest human qualities until we have met our limitations and accepted them. A new side of our strength develops when we accept our powerlessness and yield to it rather than trying to take charge of it. We develop greater vision when we stop feeling sorry for ourselves about our handicap and surrender to its truth. We then see our kinship with all men and women who struggle with their limitations.

Action for the Day: Today, I will set aside self-pity and remember to be grateful for the lessons my limitations have taught me.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

A Lesson
I spent most of my life worrying about myself, thinking that I was unwanted, that I was unloved.
I’ve learned since that the more I worry about me loving you,
and the less I worry about you loving me, the happier I will be.
- Experience, Strength and Hope, p. 218

Thought to Ponder . . .
Happiness and peace of mind are always here, open and free to anyone.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H J F =
Happy, Joyous, Free

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Examine your weaknesses
by Ralph Marston

Don’t be afraid to examine your weaknesses. In them you’ll find some of your greatest potential.

Certainly you can always make improvements to what you already do well. Yet at best, those will be incremental improvements.

Consider, though, what happens when you work on overcoming your weaknesses. The results in your life can be revolutionary.

In fact, transforming a weakness into a strength can make all your other strengths more effective. When the weakness is no longer holding you back, every part of your life will see the benefits.

Be thankful for your strengths. And be honest about your weaknesses.

For when you are clear about what you cannot yet do well, that’s the first step to improvement. Any weakness can be transformed into strength when you simply have the courage to grow.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Monday, August 22, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-22-2016

Monday, August 22, 2016
Today's Gift

We're only as sick as the secrets we keep. —Sue Atchley Ebaugh

Harboring parts of our inner selves, fearing what others would think if they knew, creates the barriers that keep us separate, feeling different, certain of our inadequacies.

Secrets are burdens, and they weigh heavily on us, so heavily. Carrying secrets makes impossible the attainment of serenity - that which we strive for daily. Abstinence alone is not enough. It must come first, but it's not enough by itself. It can't guarantee that we'll find the serenity we seek.

Many steps can be taken to acquire self-assurance, happiness, spiritual well-being, but there's work to be done. And one of these is total self-disclosure. It's risky, it's humbling, and it's necessary.

When we tell others who we really are, it opens the door for them to share likewise. And when they do, we become bonded. We accept their imperfections and love them for them. And they love us for ours. Our struggles to be perfect, our self-denigration because we aren't, only exaggerates even more the secrets that keep us sick.

Our tarnished selves are lovable; secrets are great equalizers when shared. We need to feel our oneness, our sameness with other women.

Opportunities to share my secrets will present themselves today. I will be courageous.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Every human being is a problem in search of a solution. --Ashley Montagu

Each of us is a strong and fragile creature. We're always subject to forces outside our control, and we're learning steps for living that helps us cope and rise above these problems. Our particular situation might seem special to us but in another sense, everyone's situation is a unique problem. Spiritual growth is the result of coming face to face with our own situation, feeling the brunt of our own puzzlement, recognizing no recipe will apply completely, and then trusting our Higher Power as we make unsure responses.

No school or parent can ever teach us enough to smooth our search for solutions. We become complete human beings by living through the muddle, by truly trusting our connections with our Higher Power and other people to carry us along until we find clarity again. We progress into adulthood when we meet our own particular life crises. We learn to see we have this process in common with every human being. Rather than resist our problems, we band together with others and pool our strength to find solutions.

Action for the Day: I will see my problems today as opportunities for spiritual growth.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Guilt
Don’t, please, thrash around too long in guilt.
Learn what you can from past negative experiences, and move on.
Guilt is insidious and counterproductive.
You are a perfect child of God. It shines through in your sobriety.
I see it, and so do others. Make yourself see it.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 1], p. 86

Thought to Ponder . . .
Guilt is in the past; worry is the future. Both are manifestations of ego.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G U I L T =
God Understands I Lack Trust

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Resent, or resolve?
by Ralph Marston

Resentment will only make a bad situation worse. Resentment mainly serves to prolong and empower whatever it is you resent, and that’s certainly not what you want.

So rather than being held down by resentment, use the same energy in a much more positive way. Simply decide to turn your resentment into resolve.

Instead of staying focused on what’s wrong and who’s to blame, put that same energy into changing it for the better. The more difficult and painful the situation, the more reason you have to move beyond it, and the more resolve you can develop for doing so.

The same factors which lead to resentment can just as easily and just as powerfully lead to resolve. Any time and every time you have the urge to tie yourself down with resentment, you also have the choice to move your world forward with resolve. When given such a choice, choose resolve. It will take you to much better places than you ever could hope to reach with resentment.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/




Friday, August 19, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-19-2016

Friday, August 19, 2016
Today's Gift

The most exhausting thing in life is being insincere. —Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Many of us grew up in situations that required us to be constantly on our guard. We became so keenly attuned to the people around us and how to please them or avoid their anger that we lost contact with our inner messages. Rather than developing skills for drawing upon our inner resources, we developed skills for looking outward and reacting to whatever confronted us. This method of survival may have been necessary in the past while we were under stress, but it doesn't allow us any rest or the possibility of simply following what we know and feel is right.

We must learn to know what we think and feel and to express it, even if it isn't always what others want to hear. We can be spontaneous now because we have room for mistakes in our lives. Our relationships are more reliable, and we have more energy from sincerity than from always striving to make a good appearance.

Today, it is more important for me to be sincere than to be on my guard.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

...to have a crisis and act upon it is one thing. To dwell in perpetual crisis is another. --Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

Exaggerating the negative element in our lives is familiar behavior for all too many of us. But this obsession is our choice. We can stop at any moment. We can decide to let go of a situation that we can't control, turn it over to the Universe, and be free to look ahead at the possibilities for happiness.

Perhaps we can learn to accept a serious situation in our lives as a special opportunity for growth first of all, but even more as an opportunity to let our Higher Power work in our lives. We learn to trust by giving over our dilemmas to our Higher Power for solutions. With patience, we will see the right outcomes, and we will more easily turn to our Higher Power the next time.

Crises will lessen in number and in gravity in direct proportion to the partnership we develop with our higher power. The stronger our dependence on that power, for all answers and all directions, the greater will our comfort be in all situations.

Serenity is the gift promised when we let our Higher Power handle our lives. No crisis need worry us. The solution is only a prayer away.

Action for the Day: I will take action against every crisis confronting me--I will turn to my Higher Power. Each crisis is an invitation to serenity.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Daily Reprieve
It is easy to let up on the spiritual program of action and rest on our laurels.
We are headed for trouble if we do, for our dysfunctions are a subtle foe.
What we really have is a daily reprieve contingent on the maintenance of our spiritual condition.
Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of of our Higher Power’s will into all of our activities.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 85

Thought to Ponder . . .
Talking about the spiritual part of the program is like talking about the wet part of the ocean.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
K I S S =
Keeping It Simple, Spiritually

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation



Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

In the midst of it all
by Ralph Marston

Every moment, new flowers bloom. Fresh saplings rise from moist ground, destined to be towering oaks one day.

Around the world, new love takes hold. Through joy and despair, success and setback, love grows stronger.

People you’ll never know work to advance your life in ways you can’t possibly realize. Life continues to gain new knowledge, and even a little wisdom.

On the outside, everyone seems drawn to all things flimsy and superficial. Deep inside grows a longing for meaning, for substance, for making a difference.

Stars, planets, moons, galaxies drift silently, endlessly. Space, time, energy and possibilities have no discernible limit, and then they expand even more.

Here you are in the midst of it all, able to choose what to do. Pause, consider, and make each choice worthy of all that makes it possible.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Thursday, August 18, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-18-2016

Thursday, August 18, 2016
Today's Gift

Large streams from little fountains flow. —David Everett

Somewhere nearby, no matter where we are, runs a creek. We've seen plenty of them, narrow and rocky. In summer it's hardly a creek at all, but in the spring, it feeds a mighty river.

Each of us is like that creek, a trickle contributing to some greater plan. Sometimes we feel dried up, contributing nothing. Often we feel small, rocky, not up to the task - when we can understand what the task is.

Sometimes the task seems too simple - get up each morning, love and work and live the day as honestly as we can. What kind of contribution is that? Sometimes it seems too complicated. How much more we could contribute if we could see the whole river - where it begins and ends - if we knew what would happen tomorrow.

So we ebb and flow. And in our moments of contentment, we know we are doing the best we can each day.

What contribution, however small, can I offer the world today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Today was like a shadow. It lurked behind me. It's now gone forever. Why is it that time is such a difficult thing to befriend? --Mary Casey

Each passing minute is all that we are certain of having. The choice is ever present to relish the moment, reaping fully whatever its benefits, knowing that we are being given just what we need each day of our lives. We must not pass up what is offered today.

Time accompanies us like a friend, though often a friend denied or ignored. We can't recapture what was offered yesterday. It's gone. All that stands before us is here, now.
We can nurture the moment and know that the pain and pleasures offered us with each moment are our friends, the teachers our inner selves await. And we can be mindful that this time, this combination of events and people, won't come again. They are the gift of the present. We can be grateful.

We miss the opportunities the day offers because we don't recognize the experiences as the lesson designed for the next stage of our development. The moment's offerings are just, necessary, and friendly to our spiritual growth.

Action for the Day: I will take today in my arms and love it. I will love all it offers; it is a friend bearing gifts galore.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Something
In my view, some of the evidences of a spiritual awakening are:
maturity; an end to habitual hatred; the ability to love and to be loved in return;
the ability to believe, even without understanding,
that Something lets the sun rise in the morning and set at night,
makes the leaves come out in the spring and drop off in the fall, and gives the birds song.
Why not let this Something be your Higher Power?
- Came To Believe . . ., p. 48

Thought to Ponder . . .
A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H E L P =
Higher Power's Ever-Loving Presence.

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation


Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Every small detail
by Ralph Marston

The possibilities that become reality are the ones to which you give meaning and focus. The goals you fully achieve are the ones you truly desire.

The world where you live is the world you choose with your thoughts, your actions, your attention and your commitment. What you experience depends on what you set as priorities.

You cannot fill your thoughts with negativity and expect to achieve positive results. Who you truly are on the inside drives your experience of the world on the outside.

Integrity is more than just a platitude. It is an indisputable and inescapable fact of existence.

Every small detail of your life makes up the whole of your life. Each moment is an opportunity to align those details with what’s most important to you.

Choose in every situation and in every detail to support and reinforce the best of who you know you can be. Act as though everything you do creates the life you live, because it does.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Wednesday, August 17, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-17-2016

Wednesday, August 17, 2016
Today's Gift

Life is change ... Growth is optional... Choose wisely... —Karen Kaiser Clark

We can certainly count on change. We become fathers, our children become more independent, we make new friends, and other friends move away. When a person clings too tightly to the status quo or tries to control the direction of change, they are bound to be disappointed. We are like skiers on a mountain. We must continue down the slope. We can vary our speed somewhat, but if we stop for too long we will get cold or hungry; if we ski too fast, we may have a serious fall. Part of the pleasure is in not being able to control or predict every circumstance we will meet.

We don't control which loved ones come into our lives and which ones go or whether we become ill or stay healthy. We don't control life's opportunities. We can control how we choose to respond to these transitions. Whatever happens can be used for growth and we can commit ourselves to use all experiences that way.

Today, I will not try to control change but will choose to use whatever happens for growth.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy. --Jennie Jerome Churchill

We are generally so certain that we know what's best for ourselves. And we are just as often certain that what we think is best will guarantee happiness. Perhaps we should reflect on all the times in the past when our wishes didn't come true--fortunately.

Did any one of us expect to be doing today, what we each are doing? We may have expected children, a particular kind of home, a certain career, but did we really anticipate all that life has wrought? Addiction, and then recovery from it, was probably not in our pictures. But it does fit into the big picture. The happiness we experience today probably doesn't visit us in the way we anticipated a few years back. But it is measured out according to our needs. The choice to be happy with what is, is ours to make, every moment.

Action for the day: I can take life as it is, and trust that it is just right, just what it needs to be. The big picture guarantees me lasting happiness. Today's experiences will move me a step closer.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Carrying the Message
We know we can seldom keep the precious gift of sobriety unless we give it away. . .
For us, if we neglect those who are still sick, there is unremitting danger to our own lives and sanity. . .
. . . our Society has concluded that it has but one high mission —
to carry the AA message to those who don’t know there’s a way out.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 151

Thought to Ponder . . .
Only in giving do we receive in full measure.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T L C =
Tears, Laughter, Caring

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation


Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Fresh breeze
by Ralph Marston

The day is still, hot, sweltering, and suddenly a fresh breeze appears. Think of how the experience can lift your spirit.

So many in this world so often feel despair. Think of how you can be a fresh breeze in the lives of others to ease that despair.

Be the fresh breeze that brings positive energy to a dismal situation. Be the fresh breeze that brings real hope and a change in perspective.

Surprise life with new goodness. Surprise yourself with how good it feels to do so.

Though the temperature is still just as hot, a fresh breeze makes it feel much more tolerable. Though a positive perspective does not change the situation, it improves where the situation leads.

In an instant a fresh breeze brings relief, a fresh perspective brings hope. Be that fresh breeze, for yourself and for others.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Tuesday, August 16, 2016

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-16-2016

Tuesday, August 16, 2016
Today's Gift

I'll be the sun upon your head,
The wind about your face,
My love upon the path you tread,
And upon your wanderings, peace.
—Gordon Bok

Today I will feel. I will feel wind and water, earth and sun. I will feel rain, the taste of it, and the soft sting of its coolness. I will feel the familiar touch of my shirt against my skin, my hair across my face in the wind.

Today I will feel love like a candle on a birthday cake that never goes out - no matter how much you blow on it. I will feel compassion like a toothache, a dull pain that lets me go about my business but never goes away. I will feel joy and sorrow, pain, and pleasure. Today I will feel. I will feel like a human being, unique as a snowflake, common as grass.

How many different ways do I feel today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©


From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The strongest rebellion may be expressed in quiet, undramatic behavior.---Benjamin Spock

In recovery, we each rebel against our disease. Each day we fight for the freedom to stay close to our Higher Power, friends and family.
It's mainly a quiet battle. It's fought daily. We fight and win by acting in a spiritual way. We fight and win every time we help a friend, go to meetings, or read about how to improve our lives
We move slowly but always forward. Rushing will only tire us out. Our battle will go on for life.
We are quiet fighters, but we're strong, for we do not fight alone. And we know what waits for us if we lose.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me stay free. When I want to give up, help me realize this is normal. Help me to keep fighting at these times.

Action for the Day: Today, I'll be a rebel. I will go to an extra meeting, or I'll talk with my sponsor. I'll find a way to help someone without the person knowing.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
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One Day At A Time


Persistence
If you persist, remarkable things will happen. When we look back, we realize
that the things which came to us when we put ourselves in our Higher Power’s hands
were better than anything we could have planned.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 100

Thought to Ponder . . .
The Three P's -- Patience, Persistence, Peace.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
B E S T = B
een Enjoying Sobriety Today?


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation



Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Everything to be
by Ralph Marston

You have nothing to prove and everything to be. What matters is the truth of who you are, not the way you appear to others.

In that pure, uncorrupted truth is an endless reservoir of real value. In that truth is beauty, goodness, love and fulfillment beyond everything you have ever thought to seek.

Give the honest truth of yourself, and you have no reason to strive or worry about making a good impression. Give the authentic truth of yourself, for it is the most loving, compassionate, uplifting and enabling thing you can do.

You do not have to strive against your own thoughts of limitation. Allow your unique beauty to continually unfold, and experience the power of how good and right it feels.

You do not have to be held captive by the thoughts or actions of others, or even by your perceptions of those thoughts and actions. You can allow yourself to be, positive and whole and fulfilled, now and always.

You have everything to be. Feel the miracle of your existence, and fill the world with joy.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/