Monday, October 23, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-23-2017

Monday, October 23, 2017
Today's Gift

As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live. ― Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Trust yourself. Trust what you know.

Sometimes, it is hard to stand in our own truth and trust what we know, especially when others would try to convince us otherwise.

In these cases, others may be dealing with issues of guilt and shame. They may have their own agenda. They may be immersed in denial. They would like us to believe that we do not know what we know; they would like us not to trust ourselves; they would prefer to engage us in their nonsense.

We don't have to forfeit our truth or our power to others. That is codependency.

Believing lies is dangerous. When we stop trusting our truth, when we repress our instincts, when we tell ourselves there must be something wrong with us for feeling what we feel or believing what we believe, we deal a deadly blow to our self and our health.

When we discount that important part of ourselves that knows what is the truth, we cut ourselves off from our center. We feel crazy. We get into shame, fear, and confusion. We can't get our bearings when we allow someone to pull the rug from under us.

This does not mean that we are never wrong. But we are not always wrong.

Be open. Stand in our truth. Trust what you know. And refuse to buy into denial, nonsense, bullying, or coercion that would like to take you off course.

Ask to be shown the truth, clearly - not by the person trying to manipulate or convince you, but by yourself, your Higher Power, and the Universe.

Today, I will trust my truth, my instincts, and my ability to ground myself in reality. I will not allow myself to be swayed by bullying, manipulating, games, dishonesty, or people with peculiar agendas.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The strength of the drive determines the force required to suppress it. --Mary Jane Sherfey

We are all struggling to succeed. And each day of our lives we'll be confronted with major or minor adversities that might well interfere with our success. Adversities don't have to hinder us, however. They can strengthen us, if we incorporate them as opportunities for growth.

For many of us, the ability to handle adversity is a fairly recent phenomenon. And not always can we do it securely and with ease. But we are coming to believe that a power greater than ourselves is at hand and will guarantee us all the strength we'll ever need. 
Knowing that action is always possible, that passive acceptance of any condition need never be necessary are unconditional gifts of living the Twelve Step program.

Our path forward is as certain as our commitment to it, our belief in the strength of the program, and our faith that all is well even when times are troubled. No one ever promised that our new way of life would be always easy. But we have been promised that we'll arrive at our proper destination if we do the footwork and let our Higher Power do the navigating.

Action for the DaySuccess is at hand. I will apply what I'm learning, and I'll meet it.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Willingness to Believe
Let us make haste to reassure you. We found that as soon as we were able to
lay aside prejudice and express even a willingness to believe in a Power greater
than ourselves, we commenced to get results, even though it was impossible
for any of us to fully define or comprehend that Power, which is our Higher Power.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 46
Thought to Ponder
Our Higher Power seldom becomes a reality until a Higher Power becomes a necessity.

AA-related 'Alconym'
W I L L I N G = W
hen I Live Life, I Need God


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

The journey to this day
by Ralph Marston

You’ve put a lifetime of effort and energy into arriving at this day. Make whatever you do today worthy of all you’ve done to get here.

Respect the value of every experience that has come before by putting that value to good use now. Continue the momentum that is your life, and point it in a positive, fulfilling direction.

You’ve worked your way through sacrifice, challenge and trouble. This is your chance to make all the trouble worth the trouble.

Reward yourself in the best way possible for all the good work you’ve done. Give yourself that reward in the form of a day well lived.

Honor the skills, wisdom and experience you’ve worked so hard to assemble by putting them all to good use. Show gratitude for the good times you’ve enjoyed and the difficulties you’ve endured by filling today with richness and meaning.

You’ve successfully completed the journey to this day. Now, grab the new opportunity you’ve created and build on your good fortune.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Friday, October 20, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-20-2017

Friday, October 20, 2017
Today's Gift

...You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you're going to live. Now. —Joan Baez

How thrilling to contemplate that we can choose every attitude we have and every action we take. We have been gifted with full responsibility for our development. What will we try today? It's our personal choice. How will we decide on a particular issue? Our options are only limited by our vision.

Every situation in life offers us a significant opportunity for making a decision that will, of necessity, influence the remaining situations we encounter. Just as we are interdependent, needing and influencing one another in all instances that bring us together, likewise our decisions are never inviolate. Each is singly important; however, its impact is multiplied by the variety of other decisions triggered.

The choice is ours for living fully today, for taking advantage of all the opportunities that present themselves. Our personal growths, our emotional and spiritual development, are in our hands. The Universe will provide us with the guidance, and the life experiences offers us the tools. The decision to act is ours, alone.

I will exercise my personal power. My choices determine my development.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Life is not a spectacle or a feast; it is a predicament. --George Santayana

We could probably feel more tranquil if the world were a simpler place and always gave us simple answers. But we are faced with many ambiguous and uncertain situations. The changing roles of people can often leave us bewildered. We are engaged in the development of relationships that have lives of their own, and it's not always clear where they are headed. Even within ourselves we have contradictory feelings, and it's difficult to come up with clear answers.

Since we cannot force simplicity upon the world, we must turn to ourselves for a new response. We can become more tolerant of our unsettled predicaments. We can learn to have faith that good comes from change. Things have a way of settling out and clarifying with time. As we develop patience with the questions and the unclear issues in our lives, we gain a deeper serenity.

Action for the Day: Today, I will recall the predicaments in my past life that, in time, became clearer, and I will have patience with what seems unsettled.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Usefulness
Most of us sense that real tolerance of other people’s shortcomings and viewpoints
and a respect for their opinions are attitudes which make us more useful to others.
Our very lives, as people in recovery, depend upon our constant thought of others
and how we may help meet their needs.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, pp. 19 - 20

Thought to Ponder
Love and tolerance of others is our code.

AA-related 'Alconym'
H E A L = H
elping Every Alcoholic/Addicts Live


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Nobody’s perfect
by Ralph Marston

Don’t hide from your mistakes or pretend they didn’t happen. Own them, embrace them, celebrate them, learn from them and get better because of what you take from them.

When you’ve discovered an error, you’ve found a clear and specific path for improvement. Seize it, dive into it, transform it into new strength and effectiveness.

It is a waste of your time, your life, your energy to deny your mistakes. Even worse, it’s wasted opportunity.

If you try to pretend you’re perfect, that you never make mistakes, absolutely no one will believe you. Yet when you eagerly admit your mistakes and deal with them in a positive manner, people gain great respect for you.

The fact is, from time to time you’ll make a mistake. So make the choice to turn that fact of life into a positive force.

Sure, do all you can to avoid mistakes, but once you’ve made one, transform it into something beneficial. Nobody’s perfect, and in that imperfection is a whole world of progress to be made.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, October 19, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-19-2017

Thursday, October 19, 2017
Today's Gift

One of the conclusions I have come to in my old age is the importance of living in the ever-present now. In the past, too often I indulged in the belief that somehow or other tomorrow would be brighter or happier or richer. —Ruth Casey

How easily our minds jump from the present to the foibles of the past or our fears about the future. How seldom are our minds on this moment, and only this moment.

We need to practice, with diligence, returning our minds to whatever the experience at hand. A truly creative response to any situation can only be made when we are giving it our undivided attention. And each creative response initiates an even more exciting follow-up experience.

All we have of life, all that it can offer us is here, now. If we close our mind to the present, this present, we'll only continue to do so when the tomorrow we dream of now becomes the present. There are no tomorrows.

I will let go of the past and the future. My only reality is here, now. The Universe's gifts are here, today, right now.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

A wise person changes their mind, a fool never will.---Seventeenth century proverb

We addicts used to be stubborn. Once we got an idea in our heads, we wouldn’t change it.
We didn’t listen to others ideas. We almost seemed to say, “Don’t tell me the facts. I’ve already made up my mind.”

But lately , some new ideas are making sense to us. We are starting to change our minds. Maybe we are good people, after all. Maybe we do deserve to be happy. Maybe other people can help us. Maybe our Higher Power does know best.

We’re not acting like fools any longer. We’re learning to change our old ideas.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, when I hear a better idea, help me change my mind.

Action for the Day: When I hear or read a new idea today, I’ll really think about it. If it fits, I’ll try it.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

The Key
Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life
seem so worthwhile to us now. Cling to the thought that, in our Higher Power’s hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you have—the key to life and happiness for others.
With it you can avert death and misery for them.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 124

Thought to Ponder
We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it.

AA-related 'Alconym'
A R T = A
lways Remain Teachable

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Ready today
by Ralph Marston

You are ready today to jump into life with more determination than ever before. Seize the opportunity that begins right now.

Don’t dwell too much on how you got to this point. Give your attention now to where you’re headed and what you can do to get there.

Each thought, each action pushes the reality of your life in a specific direction. Make that direction a consistent one that aligns with all you love and value.

Though events will sometimes leave you feeling persecuted and abused, you have much going for you. Shake off the disappointments, and wrap your awareness around the fulfillment of your unique potential.

You’re ready to channel the energy of your joys and frustrations, of your dreams as well as your setbacks, into positive, effective action. You’re ready to gather the wisdom, insight, skills and inspiration gained from every experience and apply it all to move your world forward.

You’re ready today to live with positive purpose and power. Now that you’re ready, get going and make it great.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, October 18, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-18-2017

Wednesday, October 18, 2017
Today's Gift

Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to life life, set her free. She threw away her outdated rule book and finally began to enjoy her life her way. --Queenisms

Throwing Out the Rule Book

Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.

We don't trust life or ourselves.

We don't trust the Plan.

We want to be in control.

"I've made terrible mistakes about my choices, mistakes that nearly destroyed me. Life has really shocked me. How can I trust myself? How can I trust life, and my instincts, after where I've been?" asked one woman.

It is understandable that we fear being crushed again, considering the way many of us were when we bottomed out on our codependency. We don't have to be fearful. We can trust our self, our path, and our instincts.

Yes, we want to avoid making the same mistakes again. We are not the same people we were yesterday or last year. We've learned, grown, changed. We did what we needed to do then. If we made a mistake, we cannot let that stop us from living and fully experiencing today.

We have arrived at the understanding that we needed our experiences - even our mistakes - to get to where we are today. Do we know that we needed our life to unfold exactly as it did to find ourselves, our Higher Power, and this new way of life? Or is part of us still calling our past a mistake?

We can let go of our past and trust ourselves now. We do not have to punish ourselves with our past. We don't need a rulebook, a microscope, a warranty. All we really need is a mirror. We can look into the mirror and say, "I trust you. No matter what happens, you can take care of yourself. And what happens will continue to be good, better than you think."

Today, I will stop clinging to the painful lessons of the past. I will open myself to the positive lessons today and tomorrow hold for me. I trust that I can and will take care of myself now. I trust that the Plan is good, even when I don't know what it is.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple


Being Honest with Ourselves

Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.

When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.

Action for the Day: Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.


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One Day At A Time

Action
It works—it really does. We alcoholics and addicts are undisciplined.
So we let our Higher Power discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action.
"Faith without works is dead." 
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 88

Thought to Ponder
Sobriety without action is fantasy.

AA-related 'Alconym'
S T E P S = Solutions Through Each Powerful Step

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

There will be bumps

You do all you can to make today the best it can be. Yet it is not going to be perfect, and that is perfectly fine.

You work, plan and strategize to minimize the problems, to facilitate your progress. Yet there still will be some problems, and you’ll be able to deal with them.

It’s nice when life unfolds as you had hoped, planned, expected. However, when things don’t go the way you wanted, that’s not the end of the world.

There will be bumps on the journey, big bumps, small ones, irritating, frustrating, even painful. And you’ll work your way past every one.

Just the fact you’re hitting the bumps in the first place means you’re making progress. Keep going.

Whatever way life unfolds, embrace it, utilize it, and without complaint, regret or hesitation, keep going. Life is as it is, and it is yours to live with positive purpose.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Tuesday, October 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-17-2017

Tuesday, October 17, 2017
Today's Gift

Pride, we are told, my children, "goeth before a fall" and oh, the pride was there, and so the fall was not far away. —Wilhelmina Kemp Johnstone

Requesting help. Admitting we are wrong. Owning our mistake in either a big or small matter. Asking for another chance or someone's love. All very difficult to do, and yet necessary if we are to grow. The difficulty is our pride, the big ego. We think, "We need to always be right. If we're wrong, then others may think less of us, look down on us, and question our worth." Perfectionism versus worthlessness.

If we are not perfect (and of course we never are), then we must be worthless. In between these two points on the scale is "being human." Our emotional growth  is equal to how readily we accept our humanness, how able we are to be wrong. With humility comes a softness that smoothes our every experience, our every relationship. Pride makes us hard, keeps us hard, keeps others away, and sets us up for the fall.

I will let myself be human today. It will soften my vision of life.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

To err is human, but when the eraser wears out ahead of the pencil, you’re overdoing it. --Josh Jenkins

It’s okay to make mistakes. But we shouldn’t live a life of excuses. We shouldn’t slide over our mistakes; we should learn from them.

Excuses keep us part from ourselves and others. People don’t trust us if we won’t admit and accept our mistakes. Relying on excuses dooms us to repeat the same mistakes.

In recovery, we admit and accept our behavior. We do this by continuing to take an inventory of our lives. We do this so we can learn from our mistakes. “Owning” our mistakes helps us grow.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me own my mistakes. Thank-you for Step Ten and the growth it holds for me.

Action for the Day: Today, I’ll list my five favorite excuses. I’ll think of the last time I used each of these. What was I trying to avoid.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Psychic Change
After they have succumbed to the desire again, as so many do, and the phenomenon
of craving develops, they pass through the well-known stages of a spree, emerging remorseful, with a firm resolution not to drink again. This is repeated over and over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. xxix

Thought to Ponder
Pain is the measure of our resistance to change.

AA-related 'Alconym'
P A I D = P
itiful And Incomprehensible Demoralization


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Liberated by kindness
by Ralph Marston

Kindness is evidence of great strength. When you are strong enough to respond with kindness, you are strong indeed.

It would be easy to return the insults of others with insults of your own. Kindness, on the other hand, not only shows you are strong, it adds to your strength.

Kindness puts you in control. Kindness raises you above what’s petty and insignificant.

You don’t have to be trapped by resentment, envy or frustration. You can be liberated by kindness.

Let anger end when it reaches you. Enable new kindness to begin with you.

Discover how strong, how effective, how influential you can be. Whatever the situation, choose kindness.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/




Monday, October 16, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 10-16-2017

Monday, October 16, 2017
Today's Gift

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly.... --Antoine de Saint Exupery

If we look at the world through suspicious or angry eyes, we'll find a world that mirrors our expectations -- a world where tension will mount, arguments will abound, strife will be present where none need be. However, our experiences in some manner bless us, and we'll recognize that if we look upon them with gratitude. Everything in our path is meant for our good and we'll see the good when our hearts act as the eyes for our minds.

When we see with our hearts, our responses to the turmoil around us, the fighting children, the traffic snarls, the angry lovers, will be soft acceptance. 

When our hearts guide the action we can accept those things we cannot change, and change those we can. And the heart, as the seat of all wisdom, will always know the difference.

From the book Worthy of Love by Karen Casey. ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

No person is more cheated than the selfish one. --Henry Ward Beecher

When we're selfish, we close off the channels of exchange with others. Not only are we grabbing and holding all the goods or attention we can get, but we are denying others the possibility of sharing with us in the benefits. We may be selfish in material goods, but there are many other ways too. Some of us expect our spouses to meet our needs while we make little effort to meet theirs. Some of us discover our selfishness as we drive, refusing to yield a position to another car or getting furious if we lose a place in heavy traffic.

By contrast, our generosity and welcoming responses nourish the spirit within us and create a good environment for our growth. Sometimes giving does not come easily. We have a more generous spirit when we are in touch with our ultimate vulnerability. All of life is fragile, and we need each other to have a good life. We can truly hold onto nothing but ourselves. Giving what we can of our time, our energy, and our goods, helps create the kind of world we want to live in.

Action for the DayToday, I will look for ways to be generous with those I share this world with.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2


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One Day At A Time

The Root
Selfishness—self-centeredness! That, we think, is the root of our troubles.
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity,
we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate. Sometimes they hurt us,
seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past
we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 62

Thought to Ponder
The smallest package in the world is a person all wrapped up in themself.

AA-related 'Alconym'
W I S D O M = W
hen Into Self, Discover Our Motives


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Best thing to do
by Ralph Marston

There is at least one person who benefits greatly when you do the right thing. That person is you.

Whether or not you are noticed, appreciated, recognized or thanked by others, do the right thing. Because you’ll notice, you’ll know, you’ll continue to live with yourself and your choices.

Your image of yourself is an accumulation of everything you observe yourself doing. Each action influences your confidence in your values and in yourself.

Often, doing what’s right is not the most convenient or expedient choice. That’s especially true if you know that no one is watching.

Yet doing what’s right, what’s good, what affirms life, is the best thing to do. It’s the best choice for you, for your world, for all of life.

Even if no one else ever knows, do something that genuinely feels good, something that creates goodness. Do what you know is good, what you know is right.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/