Friday, January 20, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-20-2017

Friday, January 20, 2017
Today's Gift

The pain of leaving those you grow to love is only the prelude to understanding yourself and others. —Shirley MacLaine

Life is a process of letting go, letting go of conditions we can't control, letting go of people - watching them move out of our lives, letting go of times, places, experiences. Leaving behind anyone or anyplace we have loved may sadden us, but is also provides us opportunities for growth we hadn't imagined. These experiences push us beyond our former selves to deeper understandings of ourselves and of others.

So often those experiences that sadden us, that trigger pain, are the best lessons life is able to offer. Experiencing the pain, surviving the pain that wrenches us emotionally, stretches us to new heights. Life is enriched by the pain. Our experiences with all other persons thereafter are deeper. Instead of dreading the ending of a time, the departure of a loved one, we must try to appreciate what we have gained already and know that life is fuller for it.

Today will bring both goodbyes and hellos. I can meet both with gladness.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die. --Carrie Fisher

Resentments are the blocks that hold us back from loving others and ourselves. 
Resentments do not punish the other person; they punish us. They become barriers to feeling good and enjoying life. They prevent us from being in harmony with the world. Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.

Letting go of resentments does not mean we allow the other person to do anything to us that he or she wants. It means we accept what happened in the past, and we set boundaries for the future. We can let go of resentments and still have boundaries.

We try to see the good in the person or the good that ultimately evolved from whatever incident we feel resentful about. We try to see our part.

Then we put the incident to rest.

Praying for those we resent helps. Asking our Higher Power to take our resentments from us helps too.

What better way to begin a New Year than by cleaning the slate of the past, and entering this one free of resentments.

Action for the Day: Today I will ask my Higher Power to help me become ready to let go of my resentments. To bring any resentment that is hidden within me, and blocking me, to the surface. Show me what I need to do to take care of my self by letting go of resentments, and then help me do that.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Resentment
It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness.
To the precise extent that we permit these,
do we squander the hours that might have been worth while.
But with the alcoholic, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience,
this business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 66

Thought to Ponder . . .
We are prisoners of our own resentments.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = A
ttitude Adjustment

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Five techniques for getting past resentment
by Ralph Marston

What has your resentment done for you lately? What positive thing has it ever done for you? Probably absolutely nothing. The sooner you can let it go, the sooner you can move on to more productive and fulfilling things. Here are five methods for doing that.

1. Realize the folly of your resentment. It’s wasting your time. It’s using your energy. It’s casting a negative light on your relationships. It’s bringing unneeded negativity to your life and your world. And in return, it is not bringing you anything of value. Why would you want to hold on to it? There’s really not a good reason.

2. Challenge your resentment. Is it even true? Are you absolutely positive that the assumptions supporting your resentment are even still true in this moment? Can you prove it? And even if you can prove that your resentment is based on truth, so what? What does being right about it really get you? It’s certainly not worth all the negativity that your resentment brings into your life.

3. Experience it fully. Okay, go ahead and get it out of your system. Immerse yourself in the resentment. Feel it in all its glory. Once you’ve had your fill (and it shouldn’t take too long if you’re really feeling it intensely), then you can know that you’ve already gotten everything you could have possibly expected from it, and you can easily let it go.

4. Find a way to be truly thankful for whatever it is you resent. That may sound strange, but think about it. Let’s say you resent that some company you do business with is giving you lousy customer service or charging prices that are too high. How could you possibly be thankful for that? Look at it as a great opportunity to find an alternative—either buying from someone else or using some alternative product or service or doing without it completely. Your resentment brings to the surface the incongruities that exist between what you expect and what you are experiencing. That’s very valuable knowledge to have and to act upon.

5. Put whatever you resent into perspective. Compare it to the overall abundance in your life and see how truly trivial it is. Visualize it in your mind as a physical object, and then visualize it getting smaller and smaller as you move far beyond it. Then see it simply disappear completely. Realize how truly easy it is to let go of your resentment, and with that realization, just go ahead and really do let go.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Thursday, January 19, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-19-2017

Thursday, January 19, 2017
Today's Gift

The especial genius of people, I believe to be electrical in movement, intuitive in function, spiritual in tendency. —Margaret Fuller

We are human, and we are moving, together and alone. We are moving into new images of ourselves. There is a healing power that comes from moving, from sharing one's ideas and changing one's self. And it is by trusting ourselves and trusting others that we bring harmony, thoughtfulness, and courage to all our actions.

Life holds many possibilities, and we are able to realize them when we risk changing ourselves through taking action. Those of us struggling to better ourselves are taking action; we are changing ourselves. And as we listen to and support each another, we encourage the necessary changes in one another. As one is healed, we are all healed.

Today holds a special promise for me. I can be in harmony. I can share with others. My courage will strengthen others, and others will strengthen me.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Those that plants trees love others besides themselves. --Thomas Fuller

Trees take many years to become beautiful. They start out small and scrawny, and they need attention and care. Planting them is a lot of work for very little payback in the short-term. But over time, trees become big, beautiful, and useful.

When we plant trees, we are doing it for the people who will come after us. We care that this place will be beautiful for them.

To help them make decisions, some Native American tribes ask, "What will be the effect of this decision on the children to come after us seven generations from now?"

Seeing ourselves as part of life is truly a gift. We can feel the connections with those before us and those yet to be born. Let's do it with love.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me feel connected to all of life today, and help me to act lovingly with care for the past and the future.


Action for the Day: What can I do today that will live on into tomorrow? Plant a flower or a tree? Teach a child something new? Send a card to a friend? Today I will do one thing.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Healing
Provided you hold back nothing, your sense of relief will mount from minute to minute.
The dammed-up emotions of years break out of their confinement,
and miraculously vanish as soon as they are exposed.
As the pain subsides, a healing tranquility takes its place.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 62

Thought to Ponder . . .
The gritty pain of alcoholism and addiction is the traction of recovery.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G R O W T H = G
oodness Reveals Other Ways To Heal

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Made for giving
by Ralph Marston

You’ve made great progress, but it is not enough. Because you can do more.

Life is about giving, and that’s something you can do whatever your situation may be. As much as you’ve done, as much as you’ve given, you always have more to give.

Indeed, it is giving to life that sustains you. Giving, doing, making a difference benefits your world, and benefits you.

The purpose of achievement is not to sit idly on top of it, smug and self satisfied. Instead, build on that achievement, expand it to have a positive impact on more lives.

There is always more to be done, more substance you can offer to life. Take every opportunity to let unique, meaningful purpose flow through you, energizing your very soul.

Life is made for giving, and it is made good by giving, so keep going, keep giving. All the goodness you give is also your own.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, January 18, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-18-2017

Tuesday, January 18, 2017
Today's Gift

We are born in innocence. Corruption comes later. The first fear is a corruption, the first reaching for a something that defies us. The first nuance of difference, the first need to feel better than the different one, more loved, stronger, richer, more blessed--these are corruptions. —Laura Z. Hobson

We are corrupted. To be human is to be corrupted. Our corruptions interfere with our happiness at the very time we are seeking happiness. When we think if only we were better looking, smarter, had a better job, then we'd be happy, we are giving in to corruptions. And these corruptions stifle our growth. We are each who we need to be. We have a supporting role in one another's lives. We can teach and learn from one another.

Growth is choosing to help ourselves and one another to be as we are; to quit making comparisons; to understand our uniqueness; to celebrate our difference, knowing they give intensity to life's colors for us all.

I can celebrate our special and different gifts today. My heart will be lightened.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Sometimes it seems I've spent my life trying to live up to others' expectations of me, and failing. I never thought much about pleasing myself. That would have been "selfish." --JoAnn Reed

We can feel burdened, inadequate, and overwhelmed by expectations, even when they are our own. More often, however, the problem originates from outside ourselves. Before we got into the program, we may have been easily caught in the trap of other people's expectations because we didn't know who we really were. Now that we are in recovery, the Fourth Step offers us an opportunity to understand ourselves better, which in turn helps us to set out own goals. No longer must someone else's goals guilt us into action.

Getting to know real freedom from the expectations of others is a two-step process. First we need to see clearly which expectations are ours and which belong to someone else. Then we need to turn to our Higher Power for help in fulfilling our own expectations, and only our own.

Action for the Day: Before taking any action today I will pause to make certain I am fulfilling my expectations not someone else's. My Higher Power will help me with this task.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums


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One Day At A Time

Awakening
When a man or a woman has a spiritual awakening,
the most important meaning of it is that he has now become able to do, feel, and believe
that which he could not do on his unaided strength and resources alone.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, pp. 106-107

Thought to Ponder . . .
A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G I F T = G
od Is Forever There

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Immune to negativity
by Ralph Marston

Today, you will encounter negativity. But just because you encounter it, doesn’t mean you have to be swallowed up by it.

Accept right now that the world is not perfect, situations are not ideal, and people are inconsiderate to varying degrees. Be ready for the negativity, and be ready to be immune to it.

Negativity is unfortunate. Don’t make it your own misfortune by letting it get to you.

Decide in this moment to inoculate yourself. Decide that you will respond to every situation, every person, with gratitude, respect, and commitment to making a positive impact.

Today, and every day, negativity is not your thing. You always have plenty of better options.

Live as a shining example of how great life can be with a positive perspective. And let negativity wither from lack of attention.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, January 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-17-2017

Tuesday, January 17, 2017
Today's Gift

I feel we have picked each other from the crowd as fellow-travelers, for neither of us is to the other's personality the end-all and the be-all. --Joanna Field

We must look around at the people in our lives today, and know that we have something special to offer each of them, and they to us. We do travel separate paths together. We may need to learn tolerance and acceptance; perhaps a friend's behavior pushes us to be more tolerant and accepting. 

Impatience may be our nemesis, and everywhere we turn are lines, slow cash registers, traffic jams. Our experiences with others aren't chance. Fellow travelers are carefully selected by the inner self, the spiritual guide who understands our needs in this life.
We are both the teachers and the pupils. We need both our friends and those we may label our enemies for what they can help us learn.

I will carefully look about me today with gladness at the travelers I've selected to learn from.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Wherever I found the living, there I found the will to power. --Friedrich Nietzsche

It has been said that addiction and codependency are problems of power. Recovery certainly calls us to admit the limits of our power. Yet, to reach for power seems to come from the deepest part of our nature. If this is so, can it be all bad? People have used power in many ways for the good of all. We have been defenders, protectors, and active community servants. At our best, we have taken strong stands for what was right.

We need not shun all power, but rather we learn to use it wisely. Our blindness to the limitations of power created great problems in our lives. Then we learned our first lessons about powerlessness. As humble people, we know we can be wrong, but we cannot be passive and still continue to grow.

Action for the Day: I pray for guidance as I learn to assert my strength and power for the cause of well being.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Surrender
I became willing to face the pain of my life without a drink or drug;
the fear of drinking and drugging became bigger than the fear of life without drinks or drugs.
When I surrendered to the fact that alcohol and drugs are bigger than myself,
accepted life without ever drinking or drugging again, the compulsion was removed,
left me, as if it had never been there.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 3], p. 186

Thought to Ponder . . .
Avoidance is not the key; surrender opens the door.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
K I S S = K
eep It Simple; Surrender


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Not lost
by Ralph Marston

As long as the day is still here, it is not lost. You can redeem it at any time.

What you have attempted without success is not a lost cause. You can make another attempt, and another, until you get it right.

Your path to this point says nothing of where you’ll go next. Your direction is yours to decide at any time.

Don’t let past disappointment be an excuse to create more disappointment. Let it inspire you and harden your resolve to do better.

Negative momentum is powerful, but it doesn’t have to remain negative. Take all that energy and turn it toward what is good, useful, creative, productive, fulfilling.

See that you are, right now, an architect of the future, not a victim of the past. Give the best of yourself, right now, to make that future bright.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, January 16, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-16-2017

Monday, January 16, 2017
Today's Gift

What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. —Ralph Waldo Emerson

What good qualities lie within us? How do we choose to use them today? These simple questions point our way. Yet, on some days it seems so easy to get swept along with thoughts of future pain. And when we are not worrying about the future, we may fall into regrets about the past. Either way, we are distracted from our only opportunity to make a real difference - to be the kind of person we want to be in this moment, to learn from today's experiment in living.

On this day, I will walk a little slower and will listen closely to the messages within me.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

If I am not for myself, who is for me? And if I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when? --Hillel

Some of us were treated badly as young children and never learned how to live for ourselves. We can see only two choices: either be submissive and caretaking or be abusive and demanding. Many of us have so much guilt and shame that we feel we don't deserve to stand up for ourselves. We must be for ourselves. If we don't know how, we learn. If we are unsure, we must experiment. When we make mistakes, we must admit them and know we have a right to be imperfect learners. And we can't be only for ourselves, because that keeps us small and turns us back to where we came from.

As we accept ourselves and come to know our imperfections and weaknesses, we can understand others better. We are stronger in giving to others and more effective because we have a place to stand.

Action for the Day: Today, even if I don't feel good about myself, I will stand up for my dignity.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Expectations
Until I could honestly look at myself
and see that I was the problem in many situations and react appropriately inside and out;
until I could discard my expectations
and understand that my serenity was directly proportional to them,
I could not experience serenity and sound living.
- Daily Reflections, p. 71

Thought to Ponder . . .
Expectations are resentments 'under construction.'

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G R A C E = G
ently Releasing All Conscious Expectations

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Each moment makes a difference
by Ralph Marston

The person you become, the life you live, the results you get are a direct result of the way you spend your time. How do you intend to spend your time today?

Every person alive will have the same number of hours in this day. Yet the value obtained in those hours will vary remarkably.

You have time, and with it, opportunity. Decide right now to put it to its highest use.

As you travel through the day, remind yourself that each moment makes a difference. The way you live it determines what that difference will be.

You know that the difference between speeding forward and standing still is made in each moment. As the moments arrive, keep reminding yourself of their opportunity.

A little extra effort, each time you get the chance, leads to a lot of extra richness in your life. The day has arrived, and you know what to do.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Friday, January 13, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-13-2017

Friday, January 13, 2017
Today's Gift

Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you you’ve decided to look beyond imperfections. – T. Bernard

One of the good things about the blues is their power to make me feel better. No matter how bad it gets in my little world, I can be pretty sure that B.B. King, John Lee Hooker, or Stevie Ray Vaughn has seen worse. Sometimes, it just feels good to vocalize all those bad feelings.

Bad things happen in life. Sometimes they are small annoyances; sometimes they are the major grief mongers. What matters is not what happens to us, but how we react to it. They left you. That is a fact. Now after you get done with the quart of rocky road that you are drowning your sorrows in, what are you going to do about it? You can sit around and complain to your friends about how unfair life is, or you can get up, put the empty bowl in the dishwasher, and go fill up your life.

Feelings are one of the blessings of being human. All of them. Sometimes we feel good; sometimes we feel bad. Take some time. Take some energy and be upset. Be aware of the feeling of being upset. But then get up, go out, and make positive use of your life.

Higher Power, help me put to positive use all of the feelings in my life.

From the book More Language of Letting Go © 2000 by Melody Beattie

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

I want, by understanding myself, to understand others. I want to be all that I am capable of becoming . . . This all sounds very strenuous and serious. But now that I have wrestled with it, it's no longer so. I feel happy--deep down. All is well. --Katherine Mansfield

All is well. In the midst of turmoil, let us remember, all is well; in the midst of the pain of self-awareness, all is well. The struggle of the turmoil, the pain that accompanies the lessons of self-awareness, are preparing us for becoming all we are meant to become. We each have a special gift to offer in this life. We will come to understand those gifts and be able to give them as we grow with the pain of self-understanding. All is well. Deep down happiness ripples, it's rippling to the surface of our lives.

Action for the Day: My lesson for today is understanding, of myself and others. Happiness is the grade I earn each day of my "becoming."


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

An Unchangeable Fact
We try never to lose sight of the unchangeable fact of our dysfunctions,
but we learn not to brood or feel sorry for ourselves or talk about it all the time.
We accept it as a characteristic of our body like our height or our need for glasses,
or like any allergies we may have.
- Living Sober, p. 9

Thought to Ponder . . .

Dysfunctions are cunning, baffling, powerful!

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T H I N K = T
hank Heavens, I Now Know

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Remain on course
by Ralph Marston

Today will feature some surprises, things you didn’t anticipate. Instead of judging them, or fighting them, or running from them, choose to harness them.

You cannot control or know in advance everything that happens. You can, however, precisely control what you think and do about everything that happens.

Even to the most negative situation, you can offer a useful, beneficial response. Though circumstances change, you can continue to follow your purpose.

Every sailor knows that the wind will vary its direction. Yet by changing the set of its sails, the ship can remain on course.

The energy of life arrives in many different forms. You can take that energy, whatever it is, and apply it in the direction of your choosing.

Decide what you will do with this day, with this life, and know that you can always live true to that choice. Find the way to do so, to remain on course, no matter what.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, January 12, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 1-12-2017

Thursday, January 12, 2017
Today's Gift

I don't think you're suddenly going to begin to look at the world with new eyes when you're 80 if you haven't been doing it when you're 30. --Janice Clark

We are creatures of habit as evidenced by our getting stuck in old viewpoints long after they have quit serving us. However, that fact doesn't restrict us for all time. Anytime we want to cultivate a new idea, an alternative approach to a situation, we are free to do so. Janice may be right regarding some people she has known, but we are capable of freshening our perspective at any age.

We have all known some elderly men and women who have the spirit and enthusiasm of the very young. Unfortunately, we have also known the reverse. How sad to observe the 40 or 50 year old person who has quit living. Their whining belies their age. Who will we be? The choice is always available to us. And we can remake it as often as we wish.

What a relief to know that if we're old and resentful today, we still have the opportunity to be young and full of laughter tomorrow. Maybe we can't do everything we used to do, but this decision is still in our power.

I will open my eyes to whatever I choose to see today. Yesterday's experiences have only the power I give them.

Keepers of the Wisdom © 1996 by Karen Casey

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

I should be content to look at a mountain for what it is and not as a comment on my life. --David Ignatow

We have recognized our self-centeredness as addicts and codependents. On the other side is the feeling of peace and well being when we are released from it. Self-centeredness caused us to take everything personally. We were hypersensitive to our surroundings, to other people, and to how they reacted. Yet, so often these things had very little to do with us. God sends rain for the just and the unjust.

When we can look at a mountain and lose ourselves in the sight, we are refreshed spiritually. But no mountain is necessary for this experience. When we listen to a friend and simply hear his perspective, when we pet a dog and just enjoy this loving creature, when we look at a sunset and drink it in for what it is - then we are growing.

Action for the Day: Today I will ask my Higher Power to grant me release from the oppression of my ego.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Just One Day
Any of us can handle just one day; all each of us has to try at is our own job,
our own family life.
We don’t have to try fixing up the whole world or understanding what no theologian
of any faith has ever understood.
We simply stop messing in our Higher Power’s business.
- Came to Believe . . ., p. 116

Thought to Ponder . . .
Live each day with a little less fear and a little more faith.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
O D A A T = O
ne Day At A Time

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Make it your choice
by Ralph Marston

Let go of the thoughts that you need to do, that you need to have, and that you need to be this or that. Embrace the opportunities to choose to do, choose to have, and choose to be.

If you’re constantly catching up with your needs, you’re operating from a perspective of weakness. Instead, see the tasks, commitments and responsibilities as things you have chosen, and give your life the positive power it deserves.

From all the available possibilities, your choices have brought you to where you are today. Going forward, your choices can take you where you wish to go.

Don’t discourage or frustrate yourself by seeing yourself as burdened with needs. Make it your intentional choice to do what you do, and discover your true power and effectiveness.

Put energy, joy and satisfaction into your work by choosing to get it done. Add great value to your relationships, your commitments and responsibilities by choosing to honor them with the way you live.

Don’t let the perception of need enslave you. Allow the reality of your positive choices to give the power of purpose to all you do.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/