Friday, August 18, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-18-2017

Friday, August 18, 2017
Today's Gift

Today was like a shadow. It lurked behind me. It's now gone forever. Why is it that time is such a difficult thing to befriend? —Mary Casey

Each passing minute is all that we are certain of having. The choice is ever present to relish the moment, reaping fully whatever its benefits, knowing that we are being given just what we need each day of our lives. We must not pass up what is offered today.

Time accompanies us like a friend, though often a friend denied or ignored. We can't recapture what was offered yesterday. It's gone. All that stands before us is here, now.

We can nurture the moment and know that the pain and pleasures offered us with each moment are our friends, the teachers our inner selves await. And we can be mindful that this time, this combination of events and people, won't come again. They are the gift of the present. We can be grateful.

We miss the opportunities the day offers because we don't recognize the experiences as the lesson designed for the next stage of our development. The moment's offerings are just, necessary, and friendly to our spiritual growth.

I will take today in my arms and love it. I will love all it offers; it is a friend bearing gifts galore.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope. --Martin Luther King, Jr.

Disappointment and Frustration

How can disappointments be opportunities to grow? When we feel thwarted, frustrated or empty it is difficult - but not impossible - to see the positive side of our pain.

Most disappointments come from a sense of failure when our expectations of ourselves or others are not met. If we can work through our initial response or source of frustration that lies within ourselves, we are taking the right steps toward turning our hurts and fears into growth-filled experiences.

Do we have unrealistic expectations of ourselves or approval of us? Have we sold ourselves short by placing our entire self-worth on our jobs, paychecks, or possessions? Have we accepted negative feelings about ourselves, or do we see ourselves as capable human beings?

Action for the Day: TODAY I will probe the sources of my self-esteem. I will seek my happiness within myself, not in other people, places, or things.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Our Behavior
To escape looking at the wrongs we have done another, we resentfully focus on the wrong
he has done us. This is especially true if he has, in fact, behaved badly at all.
Triumphantly we seize upon his misbehavior as the perfect excuse for minimizing or forgetting our own.
Right here we need to fetch ourselves up sharply. . .
Let's remember that alcoholics are not the only ones bedeviled by sick emotions.
Moreover, it is usually a fact that our behavior when drinking has aggravated the defects of others.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 78

Thought to Ponder
All of AA's suggestions are free.
The ones I don't take are the ones I end up paying for.

AA-related 'Alconym'
W H Y = Whine, Holler, Yell

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

When strength is a necessity
by Ralph Marston

There are times in life when strength becomes a necessity. Times when strength is not optional.

At such times you have no magic escape route, nothing to fall back upon. And, you discover how much strength you can gain, and utilize, when you must.

Any situation, any experience, any setback, any success, has the potential to make you stronger. Too often that potential goes unrealized, for it is easier to just let it float on by.

Yet there are times when you have no choice, when you must find a way to pull new strength out of every moment. And at those times, you do.

Consider how amazing that is. Just the thought, just remembering you can, is enough to plant fresh seeds of strength within you.

Every day arrives full of opportunities to build strength. Take those opportunities, even when you don’t have to.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Thursday, August 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-17-2017

Thursday, August 17, 2017
Today's Gift

Life is change ... Growth is optional... Choose wisely... —Karen Kaiser Clark

We can certainly count on change. We become parents, our children become more independent, we make new friends, and other friends move away. When a person clings too tightly to the status quo or tries to control the direction of change, they are bound to be disappointed. We are like skiers on a mountain. We must continue down the slope. We can vary our speed somewhat, but if we stop for too long we will get cold or hungry; if we ski too fast, we may have a serious fall. Part of the pleasure is in not being able to control or predict every circumstance we will meet.

We don't control which loved ones come into our lives and which ones go or whether we become ill or stay healthy. We don't control life's opportunities. We can control how we choose to respond to these transitions. Whatever happens can be used for growth and we can commit ourselves to use all experiences that way.

Today, I will not try to control change but will choose to use whatever happens for growth.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Life is not always what one wants it to be, but to make the best of it as it is, is the only way of being happy. --Jennie Jerome Churchill

We are generally so certain that we know what's best for ourselves. And we are just as often certain that what we think is best will guarantee happiness. Perhaps we should reflect on all the times in the past when our wishes didn't come true--fortunately.

Did any one of us expect to be doing today, what we each are doing? We may have expected children, a particular kind of home, a certain career, but did we really anticipate all that life has wrought? Addiction, and then recovery from it, was probably not in our pictures. But it does fit into the big picture. The happiness we experience today probably doesn't visit us in the way we anticipated a few years back. But it is measured out according to our needs. The choice to be happy with what is, is ours to make, every moment.

Action for the Day: I will take life as it is, and trust that it is just right, just what it needs to be. The big picture guarantees me lasting happiness. Today's experiences will move me a step closer.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Our Dilemma
Lack of power, that was our dilemma. We had to find a power by which we could live,
and it had to be a Power greater than ourselves. Obviously.
But where and how were we to find this Power?
Well, that’s exactly what this book is about. Its main object is to enable you to find
a Power greater than yourself which will solve your problem.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 45

Thought to Ponder
No God, no peace — know God, know peace.

AA-related 'Alconym'
B I G B O O K = B
elieving In Goodness Beats Our Old Knowledge


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Life is to live
by Ralph Marston

This is a unique moment, and you have a distinct perspective on it. Be sure to make good use of the opportunity.

Remind yourself to do more than just watch, wish, complain, opinionate. Make it your business, today, to participate.

There are people who can benefit from your encouragement, from your presence. There are all kinds of situations that can be improved with your efforts, problems that can be solved with your insights.

Life is not to waste, to hoard, to worry about, or to make excuses for. Life is to live.

Life is to live, and here you are, able to do that right now in your very own way. Life is to live, with intention, with love, with wonder, awe, courage and gratitude.

Today offers much you can do, and much regret you’ll avoid by going ahead and doing it. Life is to live, and now is when.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Wednesday, August 16, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-16-2017

Wednesday, August 16, 2017
Today's Gift

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.” ― Gautama Buddha

No one likes a martyr.

How do we feel around martyrs? Guilty, angry, trapped, negative, and anxious to get away.

Somehow, many of us have developed the belief that depriving ourselves, not taking care of ourselves, being a victim, and suffering needlessly will get us what we want.

It is our job to notice our abilities, our strengths, and take care of ourselves by developing and acting on them.

It is our job to notice our pain and weariness and appropriately take care of ourselves.

It is our job to notice our deprivation, too, and begin to take steps to give ourselves abundance. It begins inside of us, by changing what we believe we deserve, by giving up our deprivation and treating ourselves the way we deserve to be treated.

Life is hard, but we don't have to make it more difficult by neglecting ourselves. There is no glory in suffering, only suffering. Our pain will not stop when a rescuer comes, but when we take responsibility for ourselves and stop our own pain.

Today, I will be my own rescuer. I will stop waiting for someone else to work through my issues and solve my problems for me. I know I can't always do it alone so I will ask for help if and when needed. 

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

I am determined to maintain the perpendicular position. --Lucy Stone

Perpendicular lines make right angles; they make possible extensions of both height and breadth. Right angles are weight bearing. We speak of asserting something "squarely," making perpendiculars.

People who speak their minds freely and assert their individuality feel perpendicular; the corners they create, by their points of view, are sturdy and open. Others can use them to build structures on.

It's important to claim the perpendicular, even though we may feel pressured into curved or parallel positions. If we're centered in ourselves, others won't throw us off balance. Each of us needs to find our own center so that we can occupy our own place. Others will recognize us. Together we'll build high and wide.

Action for the Day: My remotest ancestors dared to point their spines upright. I'll carry on the project they began.


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One Day At A Time

Without Defense
The fact is that most alcoholics, for reasons yet obscure,
have lost the power of choice in drink.
Our so-called will power becomes practically nonexistent.
We are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force
the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago.
We are without defense against the first drink.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 24

Thought to Ponder
The first drink has the last say.

AA-related 'Alconym'
I S M = I
ncredibly Short Memory

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Spend some time with yourself
by Ralph Marston

There’s someone in your life who can be very valuable to you. Someone who can offer you excellent advice. Someone who understands you. Someone with whom you can easily communicate. That person is YOU.

Unfortunately, most of us don’t devote very much time to being with ourselves. We’re too busy with the pressing day-to-day concerns of life. We’re too busy worried about what other people want, or think, or do.

Many people never realize their greatness because they get sidetracked by life. They forget about their dreams. Don’t let this happen to you. Get in the habit of spending quality time with yourself on a daily basis. Remind yourself of your purpose in life, of your dreams and ambitions.

Listen to your own thoughts. Explore your feelings. Indulge your ideas and your fantasies.

You are your greatest asset. There’s a wonderful, unique person inside of you. Someone who has many things to offer the world. Get to know yourself. Become the person you were meant to be.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, August 15, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-15-2017

Tuesday, August 15, 2017
Today's Gift

A person's life is what their thoughts make it. —Marcus Aurelius

How do we think about ourselves? Do we feel unattractive? Do we feel we aren't strong enough? Do we doubt our ability to perform our roles as friends, spouses, or parents? Such thoughts are common among people. There is no problem in having them; they are normal to some extent. But what we do with our thoughts - how we think about what we think - makes a big difference in our lives.

When we think we are odd or different from other people for feeling this way, we become more self-centered. When we don't stand up for our rights as a person to have our doubts and weaknesses, we become even more weak and doubting. When we don't talk about our thoughts and feelings to other people, we become isolated and lonely. We have a right to feel insecure and to know we have weaknesses. We become a stronger person by accepting our doubts. They may still cause some pain but they have lost their power to control us. Just as a repaired seam can be stronger than the original, what was our weakness becomes our strength.

Today, I accept my thoughts of weakness and self-doubt as part of life.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem, the more likely one will treat others with respect, kindness, and generosity. People who do not experience self-love have little or no capacity to love others. --Nathaniel Branden

We cannot hang on to feelings of shame and guilt and still hope to become better people. How did these feelings begin? If we were treated badly by people, we need to be honest about what happened so we can resolve it and move on. Have we perpetuate our feelings by acting disrespectfully ourselves? Then we need to take a thorough inventory of our wrongdoings, admit them, make repairs, and let them go.

We may wallow in shame because facing it feels too frightening. Often, we believe our shame is greater than that of others. This belief is usually untrue and grandiose. It's part of how we isolate ourselves. We don't have to face it alone. We have the help of other people who can listen to our pain and tell us about their experiences.

Action for the Day: Today, may I find the courage to face my shame and assert my right to self-esteem.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Twenty-Four Hour Living
"The idea of `twenty-four-hour living' applies primarily to the emotional life of the individual.
Emotionally speaking, we must not live in yesterday, nor in tomorrow."
"But I have never been able to see that this means the individual, the group, or A.A. as a whole should give no thought whatever to how to function tomorrow or even in the more distant future.
Faith alone never constructed the house you live in.
There had to be a blueprint and a lot of work to bring it into reality."
- As Bill Sees It, p. 284

Thought to Ponder
If faith without works is dead; then willingness without action is fantasy.

AA-related 'Alconym'
S I T = S
tay In Today

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Really not so bad
by Ralph Marston

Is it really so bad when you’re inconvenienced or delayed? Is it really so bad when someone says something you disagree with?

Is it really so bad? Or are you just in the habit of assuming it is?

Is it really so bad when things don’t go exactly the way you wanted? Is it really a good use of your time and energy to be offended, put out, anxious, angry, resentful?

Take a deep breath and be thankful. Smile, relax, look around at the beautiful, unique moment in which you’re immersed.

Many things are not nearly as bad as you assume them to be. Step back from those assumptions, from the stress and anxiety they induce.

Deal with the difficulties, but don’t add to them. Remind yourself it’s really not so bad, and get on with living a positive and joyful life.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, August 14, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-14-2017

Monday, August 14, 2017
Today's Gift

The block of granite which was an obstacle in the pathway of the weak becomes a stepping-stone in the pathway of the strong. That block of granite is often nothing more than a decision. --Thomas Carlyle

Trails through national parks and forests are often clearly marked and well-maintained. But sometimes a heavy snowmelt or downpour can turn a trickling stream into a tricky obstacle that needs to be navigated in order to continue following the trail.

When this happens, hikers can turn around and postpone their hike until another day. They can attempt to create their own trail by rambling through – and possibly destroying – delicate forest undergrowth. They can slog through the water, soaking their footgear and creating discomfort for the rest of the hike. Or they can utilize the resources available to them, such as by positioning large rocks as stepping-stones to cross the stream.

How you navigate the trails of your life can be seen in similar terms. You must choose how to navigate these trails, both in times when the footing is good and when it is not. Be like the hiker who thinks first about how to handle the challenges, so you can continue safely along your journey.

Today I will make choices that will keep me on the my path of life.

From 52 Weeks of Conscious Contact © 2003 by Melody Beattie.
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

What I do today is important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it. —Hugh Mulligan

We show self-respect in how we choose to spend our time. Do we give tasks the time required for our best efforts? Or do we feel unworthy of quality work? Do we have a right to stop working and just play? Are we worth spending time with - just ourselves, or do we feel meaningful time is only spent with others? Are we worth caring enough about to enjoy bathing, grooming, or getting haircuts? Do we care enough about ourselves to see a dentist or a physician when needed?


Choices about how we use our time are basic ethical and creative choices. Beyond self-respect and care, we need to put time into our day for nourishing and enriching our spirits. We do that by reading something thoughtful or meaningful, talking to a friend about the events and feelings of our lives, listening to music, fixing a pleasant meal, exercising, and giving unpaid time and energy to worthwhile causes.

Action for the Day: I will be grateful for the gift of another day, and I will live it creatively and respectfully.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Faith in our Higher Power
When World War II broke out, this spiritual principle had its first major test.
A.A.'s entered the services and were scattered all over the world.
Would they be able to take discipline, stand up under fire, and endure the monotony and misery of war?
Would the kind of dependence they had learned in A.A. carry them through?
Well, it did. They had even fewer alcoholic lapses or emotional binges than A.A.'s safe at home did.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 38

Thought to Ponder
The will of my Higher Power will never take me where the grace of my Higher Power will not protect me.

AA-related 'Alconym'
F A I T H = F
acing All, Intuitively Trusting Him/Her

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)


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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

From here to there
by Ralph Marston

See the reality of the situation, then see beyond that reality. See what is present, what is happening, then see what is possible.

Being positive about the future is not a matter of denying the difficult realities of the present. Rather, you must envision your path to a more desirable future and then have the courage to follow that path.

Be careful you don’t get lost in empty fantasies about what might happen. Be just as careful to avoid getting mired in dejection about your current difficulties.

Instead, get to work. See clearly where you are, choose specifically where you wish to go, and do what must be done to get you from here to there.

Don’t waste your energy wishing for reality to come to your rescue, or cursing reality as your enemy. Understand that reality is your workplace, and know that from any reality you can craft a beautiful and fulfilling life.

Accept and embrace the reality of what is, here, now, today. In that acceptance feel your own power, and engage that power to push your reality in whatever direction you choose.


From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Friday, August 11, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 8-11-2017

Friday, August 11, 2017
Today's Gift

Imagination has always had powers of resurrection that no science can match. —Ingrid Bengis

In the imagination are transmitted messages from the Universe to us. Inspiration is born there. So are dreams. Both give rise to the goals that urge us forward, that invite us to honor this life we've been given with a contribution, one like no other contribution.

Our imagination offers us ideas to ponder, ideas specific to our development. It encourages us to take steps unique to our time, our place, our intended gifts to the world. We can be alert to this special "inner voice" and let it guide our decisions; we can trust its urgings. It's charged with serving us, but only we can decide to "listen."

The imagination gives us another tool: belief in ourselves. And the magic of believing offers us strength and capabilities even beyond our fondest hopes. It prepares us for the effort we need to make and for handling whatever outcome the Universe has intended.

My imagination will serve me today. It will offer me the ideas and the courage I need to go forth.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be. --Merle Shain

Sometimes a teacher, sometimes a neighbor, almost always our moms and dads encourage us to try new activities or to improve our schoolwork, sports, drawing, or gardening. Because they are our friends, they want us to be the best we can be.

Not everyone knows how to be a friend. Some people only criticize, and never praise. People who never encourage or praise us are usually unhappy with their own achievements. They don't mean us harm. Perhaps they just need a friend, too. Not only do we each need friends to help us grow, we need to be friends to others. To encourage and praise those who need it will help us in return.

Action for the Day: I will be a true friend today.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Daily Inventory
Then comes the acid test: can we stay sober, keep in emotional balance,
and live to good purpose under all conditions?
A continuous look at our assets and liabilities, and a real desire to learn and grow
by this means, are necessities for us. We alcoholics have learned this the hard way.
More experienced people, of course, in all times and places have practiced
unsparing self-survey and criticism.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 88

Thought to Ponder
Learning is the very essence of humility. The two walk hand in hand.

AA-related 'Alconym'
A G O = Another Growth Opportunity

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Clarity and enigma
by Ralph Marston

What happens, happens for a reason. But some of the reasons you will never know.

Some things you can make sense of, and some things you can’t. What you can always do is choose to accept, embrace and make good use of it all.

The wind blows, the rain falls, the clouds part and the stars glitter. Through it all, you’ll find a way to make new goodness, new richness, new meaning.

Sometimes the mystery can be solved. Other times it can only be looked at with awe, reverence, and respect.

Seek to understand all you can, and to accept there are some things you cannot understand. Celebrate those things that make perfect sense as well as the things that make no sense at all.

Let each day arrive with its fresh bright clarity and its new enigma. Learn to love it all.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/