Friday, February 24, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-24-2017

Friday, February 24, 2017
Today's Gift

Unless our desire for human compassion is stronger than our desire to be right, to be secure or to belong, love will elude us. --Marsha Sinetar

Knowing we are loved is what most of us crave. For brief moments we feel it; then it eludes us once again. Why does it slip through our fingers so quickly? One way of attracting the love we desire is to be willing to love others. What we give to others comes back to us. Unfortunately, we may give judgment, impatience, or anger far more often than we give love.

We can learn to give compassion. First we need to make the decision to be compassionate. Then we need to act as if we're comfortable doing this. When we have practiced it awhile, we'll discover that giving love and receiving the love we crave is within our grasp.

I will feel loved when I give love away. I don't need to be right today. I need to be loved.

From the book A Woman's Spirit by Karen Casey. ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The beauty of the world has two edges, one of laughter, one of anguish, cutting the heart asunder. --Virginia Woolf

Anguish is undoubtedly more familiar to us than is the beauty of laughter. We feel anguish over our failings; we feel anguish over our losses; we feel anguish over the attempts to succeed that beckon to us.

Anguish comes of fear. And we so hope to avoid it. However, it seasons us as women; it enriches us even while it momentarily diminishes us. It is a major contributor to the sum and substance of our lives. The anguish we experience prepares us to help others experience their own particular anguish.

Our laughter, too, must be savored and shared. And laughter builds more laughter. Laughter lends a perspective on our anguish. Life is made richer, fuller, by the ebb and flow, the laughter and the anguish in concert.

If only we could remember, when the anguish is present, that it is making our Spirits whole. That it, along with laughter, is a healer of the soul. That it lifts our load at the same time that it burdens us. That it prepares us to better receive life's other gifts.

Action for the Day: I can help another face anguish. It brings us together. It softens me. And it makes way for the laughter soon to come.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Fearless and Thorough
At some of these we balked. We thought we could find an easier, softer way.
But we could not. With all the earnestness at our command, we beg of you to
be fearless and thorough from the very start. Some of us have tried to hold on
to our old ideas and the result was nil until we let go absolutely.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 58

Thought to Ponder . . .
Sobriety without action is fantasy.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A C T I O N = A
ny Change To Improve Our Nature


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Peace is there
by Ralph Marston

The peace you seek is always there. It sits quietly and calmly beneath everything else that has been piled on top of it.

Let go of the anger, let go of the fear, let go of the anxieties, the arrogance and resentments. What you are left with is the peace that has been there all along.

Peace asks nothing other than your willingness to allow it, to accept it, and to experience it. When you release all else from your awareness, peace is what you will find still remaining.

Peace does nothing and yet it enables so very much. Peace allows you to solidly connect with what is truly meaningful and valuable in your life.

When your efforts come from a perspective of peace, they become much more effective. Peace gives great clarity to your thinking and immense depth to your understanding.

Peace is there, waiting to be uncovered. Let go of all the negativity that serves no purpose, and let the quiet, calm power of peace fill your day.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, February 23, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-23-2017

Thursday, February 23, 2017
Today's Gift

I haven't won yet but I haven't lost, either. --Dennis C.

A favorite saying in sports is, "It isn't losing to get knocked down. Losing is staying down."

In life, as in sports, that idea makes great sense. Like "Let go and let God," or "Let it begin with me," it is a saying that reminds us of an important underlying principle. In this case the principle is that battles aren't wars, but rather a series of campaigns. No one wins every time out, or can expect to. And some battles aren't worth fighting anyway.

Fighting a battle isn't hell – our unrealistic expectations are. When we strike out against some old attitude or behavior, we have to realize we're in for the long haul. When the enemy is some aspect of ourselves, we are up against a formidable opponent that won't give up easily. We have to expect that there will be many battles – and not a few defeats. The winner is the one who perseveres longest.

Only continued effort wins the war; we can't lose if we don't quit.

Today, I pray for persistence in the face of many defeats. I ask my Higher Power for courage to keep at it.

From the book Days of Healing, Days of Joy by Earnie Larsen and Carol Larsen Hegarty. ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare; it is because we do not dare that they are difficult. --Seneca

When we reach a stressful time in our lives, our vision gets narrow. We fail to see the options and possibilities we have. If we give ourselves over to our worries and fears, our sight closes down even further. Finally, we reach the point of blindness to reality and to all the support around us. In our fearful blindness we say with conviction, "This is too difficult! There is nothing I can do."

The spiritual person strives to keep one eye on the horizon, even in a worrisome situation. They breath deeply so they do not tighten up or closes off their exchange with the world. They return to the relationship they have with their Higher Power, trusting the process to carry them through, and they open their eyes to quietly take in the possibilities before them.

 
Action for the Day: Today I will remember the close to my Higher Power, I have a place of calm in the midst of difficulty and see the possibilities and dare to act upon them.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time


A Design for Living
We, in our turn, sought the same escape with all the desperation of drowning men.
What seemed at first a flimsy reed, has proved to be the loving and powerful hand of our Higher Power.
A new life has been given us or, if you prefer, "a design for living" that really works.
~ Alcoholics Anonymous, p 28

Thought to Ponder . . .

Spirituality is not based on logic, it is faith-driven.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
F A I T H = F
urther Adventures In Trusting Her/Him

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Living without frustration
by Ralph Marston

It may seem that outside events and conditions are what cause frustration. But those outside circumstances are merely excuses, and do not actually create the frustration.

The frustration you experience is created by you. It is a product of your own mind and your own ego, and cannot exist without your support.

Your frustration is a choice. And just as easily as you can choose to experience it, you can also choose to let it go.

Remember that the next time you feel frustrated. Remember that it does not have to be.

Frustration blinds you to the best possibilities, and puts valuable resources out of your reach. There is no question that you’ll be far more effective without that frustration.

So when you find yourself frustrated, choose right then and there to raise your awareness to a higher level. See how useless and unnecessary that frustration really is.

Then let it go, and free yourself to move quickly ahead.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Wednesday, February 22, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-22-2017

Wednesday, February 22, 2017
Today's Gift

All the arts we practice are apprenticeship. The big art is our life. --M. C. Richards

What you do for a living is not who you are. You are more, much more, than that.

It's easy to get so caught up in what we do that we're only identifying ourselves through our daily tasks. I am a mechanic. I am a parking lot attendant. I am a doctor. I am a dishwasher. When we link ourselves too closely to our jobs, we deny ourselves the chance to ever be anything else.

Our Higher Power gave us the power to change. You're more than what you do. You're a vital vibrant soul that came here to experience, grow, and change. Make a masterpiece out of your life.

Higher Power, help me realize the glory of my soul. Thank you for my mortality and for the ability to learn and grow.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

To thine own self be true.--AA medallions

Sometimes we hear that we have a "selfish program." Being "selfish" means that we ask for help when we need it. We only go to places that are safe for us, no matter what others are doing. Being selfish comes to mean safety for us.

Being selfish doesn't mean we act like brats. We must act in ways that show respect and love---for ourselves and for others. being selfish means we do what is good for us. What is good for us? First, we have to save our lives by stopping our drinking and drugging. Next, we start working the Steps. We come to know a loving Higher Power. This is how we come to know our true self.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me be true to myself and my values. Help me be "selfish" about spending time to talk with You each day.

Action for the Day: I'll list ten ways I need to be "selfish" in recovery. If I get stuck, I'll be "selfish" and ask for help.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Tolerance
We begin to see that all people, including ourselves, are to some extent emotionally ill as well as frequently wrong, and then we approach true tolerance and see what real love for our fellows actually means.
It will become more and more evident as we go forward that it is pointless to become angry,
or to get hurt by people who, like us, are suffering from the pains of growing up.
~ Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 92

Thought to Ponder . . .
Love and tolerance of others is our code.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
P U T = P
atience, Understanding, Tolerance

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Living it fully
by Ralph Marston

The power, the beauty, the fulfillment in life come with the living of it. Now is the time to live it.

Joy is not hiding in some distant place of perfection and pleasure. Joy is ready and waiting for you to live it right now.

If you’re waiting for conditions to be ideal, stop waiting and start living. Whatever the conditions may be, now is the time to bring the best possibilities to life.

Think before you act, and consider the consequences. But don’t allow worry, doubt or indecision to hold you back from all the living that can be done right now.

Let go of the need to judge whether every little thing is good, bad, happy or sad. Just put yourself into living it fully, giving it your best.

This day, this place, this situation is your opportunity to make a difference, to express and experience joy, to live. Seize that opportunity and run with it.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Tuesday, February 21, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-21-2017

Tuesday, February 21, 2017
Today's Gift

We can never go back again, that much is certain. —Daphne DuMaurier

Yesterday is gone, but its experiences will be reflected in those of today. We learned from both the good and the bad situations of yesterday. Where we travel today, likewise, will influence our direction tomorrow. We can't do over what has gone before, but we can positively incorporate all that life is offering us from this moment forth.

We are moving toward greater understanding of life's mysteries with each experience. As today unfolds, we can be moved by the adventures. What we experience is ours alone and will contribute to the unfolding of our special destiny. We move forward, only forward. The doors behind us are closed forever.

Facing what comes to us, with strength, is a gift from life we share. Letting go of the yesterdays and the last years is another gift. And trust that what we face along with what we let go will weave the pattern of our rightful unfolding--that is the ultimate gift given to us by the Universe.

I need never go back again. I am spared that. My destiny lies in the future. And I can be certain it will bring me all that I desire, and more.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift, which is why we call it the present. -Alice Morse

Living in the Present
The present moment is all we have. Yes, we have plans and goals, a vision for tomorrow. But now is the only time we possess. And it is enough.

We can dear our mind of the residue of yesterday. We can clear our mind of fears of tomorrow. We can be present, now. We can make ourselves available to this moment, this day. It is by being fully present now that we reach the fullness of tomorrow.

Have no fear, child, a voice whispers. Have no regrets. Relinquish your resentments. Let Me take your pain. All you have is the present moment. Be still. Be here. Trust. All you have is now. It is enough.

Action for the Day: Today, I will affirm that all is well around me, when all is well within.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Resentments
It is plain that a life which includes deep resentment leads only to futility and unhappiness.
To the precise extent that we permit these, do we squander the hours that might have been worthwhile.
But with the alcoholic/addict, whose hope is the maintenance and growth of a spiritual experience, this business of resentment is infinitely grave. We found that it is fatal.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 66

Thought to Ponder . . .
We are prisoners of our own resentments.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = A
ltered Attitudes


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Later is too late
by Ralph Marston

Some mistakes are made by taking foolish, ill-advised actions. Yet the most painful mistakes are often made by doing nothing.

When mistaken efforts bring undesirable results, you learn from the experience, recover from it, get beyond it. But when your mistake is a failure to act, you’ll create regret that never goes away.

The time to claim opportunity, to act on it, to benefit from it, is when it appears. Later is too late.

Yes, action is risky and there is the possibility of failure. What’s much worse, though, is the certainty of failure that comes from never taking action.

Don’t let moments of possibility, of opportunity slip irretrievably into the abyss of regret. Don’t be so reluctant to act that you create the very failure you fear.

Harvest the full value of now. Summon the courage, the energy, the action to make good and purposeful use of each day while it’s here.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Monday, February 20, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-20-2017

Monday, February 20, 2017
Today's Gift

We are powerless over other people's expectations of us. We cannot control what others want, what they expect, or what they want us to do and be. -Melody Beattie

Setting Our Own Course

We can control how we respond to other people's expectations.

During the course of any day, people may make demands on our time, talents, energy, money, and emotions. We do not have to say yes to every request. We do not have to feel guilty if we say no. And we do not have to allow the barrage of demands to control the course of our life.

We do not have to spend our life reacting to others and to the course they would prefer we took with our life.

We can set boundaries, firm limits on how far we shall go with others. We can trust and listen to ourselves. We can set goals and direction for our life. We can place value on ourselves.

We can own our power with people.

Buy some time. Think about what you want. Consider how responding to another's needs will affect the course of your life. We live or own life by not letting other people, their expectations, and their demands control the course of our life. We can let them have their demands and expectations; we can allow them to have their feelings. We can own our power to choose the path that is right for us.

Today, High Power, help me own my power by detaching and peacefully choosing the course of action that is right for me. Help me know I can detach from the expectations and wants of others. Help me stop pleasing other people and start pleasing myself.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

I have often thought morality may perhaps consist solely in the courage of making a choice. --Leon Blum

Sometimes, trying to do the right thing isn't easy because it isn't what we want to do. For instance, we may want to sneak a cookie to take to bed with us, or we may want to stay out late. But is that the right thing to do?

One way to tell is to think how we'll feel after we've done it. Will we be happy, or will we feel guilty because we know in our hearts it is wrong? On the other hand, how would we feel if we resisted the temptation? Perhaps we'd feel great because we'd know in our hearts we'd done the right thing. And don't we deserve to feel good about ourselves? Of course we do!

How wonderful it is that our feelings can help us do the right thing when we're in doubt.

Action for the Day: I will have the courage to follow my true feelings today.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Family
So we clean house with the family, asking each morning in
meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience,
tolerance, kindliness and love.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p 83

Thought to Ponder . . .
The Three "C's" -- Concern, Compassion, Consideration.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
P A U S E = P
atience And Understanding Succeed Every time

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Unshakable vision
by Ralph Marston

Your thoughts don’t have to be limited by your situation. Neither do your expectations, your attitude, your enthusiasm, your efforts.

As real and as burdensome as the difficulty may be, you can make it irrelevant in your mind. From that powerful inner perspective, you’ll find ways to transcend the difficulty in the outer world.

Claim the full power of thought, of vision, of imagination, that is available to you. Let that power push you into positive, effective action.

You are not your defeats, you are not your victories. You are the person who can make a new choice in every new moment.

You are not your challenges, you are not your skills. You are the person who can craft a rich and meaningful life out of it all.

Carry always a positive, unshakable vision within you. Feel the beauty of that vision as it leads you to make good things happen no matter what.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Friday, February 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-17-2017

Friday, February 17, 2017
Today's Gift

One can never pay in gratitude; one can only pay "in kind" somewhere else in life. —Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Life is a series of payments. The common expression, "What goes around, comes around," is a truth that governs each of our lives. As members of the human family, we have received untold "payments" from others. On occasion, the payment may not have been one we'd have chosen for ourselves. It takes the distance of time to realize that our payments are meant for our good. And we can share the goodness; in fact, we need to share the goodness with one another. If we give to another the joy given to us, if we give to another the understanding given to us, if we give to another the friendship given to us, we will be ready to receive more in kind.

You and I meet today to make payments. I will receive yours and gladly pay it forward.

From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©

From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

It takes more courage to reveal insecurities than to hide them, more strength to relate to people than to dominate them, more "personhood" to abide by thought out principles rather than blind reflex. Toughness is in the soul and spirit, not in muscles and an immature mind. —Alex Karras

In our culture, being a man often means being tough, having sexual prowess, and not showing feelings. We realize in this life of recovery that those are silly and immature myths, even though we see them repeatedly on TV, on billboards, and in newspapers.

When we are told these things repeatedly, it makes an impact on us. So we need to hear from each other that this is not the way we wish to live. We don't admire these attitudes, and we don't believe the stories. Truly courageous people know themselves. They have been around enough to have depth to their souls, to let themselves love, and to feel the pain of life.


Action for the Day: Today, I am grateful to know and share my feelings and to have genuine relationships with those I love.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Humility
The subject of humility is a difficult one. Humility is not thinking less of myself than I ought to; it is acknowledging that I do certain things well, it is accepting a compliment graciously.
My Higher Power can only do for me what They can do through me.
Humility is the result of knowing that my Higher Power is the doer, not me.
- Daily Reflections, p. 199

Thought to Ponder . . .
Humility is not a station we arrive at; it's a way of traveling.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A R T = A
lways Remain Teachable


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

You deserve joy
by Ralph Marston

You deserve much joy in life. Now, give yourself that joy by giving love, encouragement, understanding and kindness to others.

Let go of the need for cheap, predictable, contrived drama. Make room for rich, authentic, fulfilling joy.

Open yourself to all the possibilities for elevating your life and the lives of others. Allow your actions, your caring, your joy to bring those possibilities into reality.

You deserve to live in joy, and so do all those around you. It is certainly not a free ride, yet it is well within your ability to create.

Feel the love that constantly pulses within you. Renew your commitment to do something good and meaningful with its positive power.

Make joy your priority, your perspective, the flavor you add to reality. All of life deserves to experience the joy you have to give.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, February 16, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 2-16-2017

Thursday, February 16, 2017
Today's Gift

In Micronesian, there's a word, kukaro, which has no corresponding word in English. When people say they are going to kukaro, they mean they are going to relax, sit around, and hang out. They are being, not doing. --Eli and Beth Halpern

As children, our best times are often trips to an amusement park, playing with friends, camping, or just sitting idly under a tree. These make the best memories, and times sitting around a campfire roasting marshmallows or having a root beer after a family outing seem to bring out the love we share.

We don't seem to be accomplishing anything at these times. No chores are getting done around the house, no schoolwork, no repairs, and no moneymaking.

But these times of peace, relaxation, and a sense of endless time of being, not doing, may be essential to our ability to get other things done later. Certainly we are most receptive to our feelings, new ideas, and unplanned adventures at these moments. Maybe we should add kukaro to our vocabulary.

What timeless thing can I do today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Keep It Simple

My life, I will not let you go except you bless me, but then I will let you go. --Isak Dinesen

There is something noble in the spirits of those who battle death, who cling to life. We are all moved by their struggle, yet perhaps it is nobler still to let life go when the time comes.

This makes sense only if we think we can look back on a life lived to the fullest. We wouldn't want to die without knowing we had stretched our limits, inhabited them as largely as we could. Not in a worldly sense, perhaps; spiritual breadth can be as exciting as travel, sport, romance, or achievement. It's the limits of our brain and heart we want to test; for that, we could live in one room.

Not everyone is blessed with robust physical health, but we all have the capacity for spiritual health and adventure. Self-examination and meditation are the tools for self-knowledge and serenity. Unknown adventure awaits us when we seek to know ourselves.


Action for the Day: My spiritual journey is the real one in my life. On that road, the true blessings are encountered.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

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One Day At A Time

Direction
On awakening let us think about the twenty-four hours ahead.
We consider our plans for the day. Before we begin, we ask God
to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from
self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p 86

Thought to Ponder . . .
New ideals and new attitudes bring a new life.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A S A P = A
lways Say A Prayer

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

No worry
by Ralph Marston

Here’s a simple, easy way to make an immediate and profound improvement in the quality of your life. Stop worrying.

The next time you catch yourself wrapping your mind around a worry, choose to let that worry fall completely away. Notice how much more positive and effective you suddenly are.

Worry poisons your thoughts and keeps life’s best opportunities hidden from you. Worry actually increases the power and influence of those undesirable things you worry about.

Certainly it’s important to look clearly and realistically at life’s dangers, problems and challenges. Yet there is nothing to be gained by worrying about them.

Choose to replace each negative worry with positive action. Instead of looking down, pick yourself up and move forward.

Every moment is filled with countless opportunities to create lasting value. Stop worrying, and start living with richness, purpose and real joy.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/