Thursday, December 19, 2013
The feeling of belonging is a gift.
The feeling of belonging - knowing that we have a place - is one of the most important gifts that two partners can give to each other. When we agree to commit ourselves to a partnership, we give each other the key to our daily lives. We allow our mate to be there with us in a way we would not let others. That means that we can expect to have a place that does not have to be renegotiated every day. This feeling of belonging is a gift, but it must be received. In essence, we say to our partner, "I take my place here in your life because we have our relationship. I will relax. I don't stand at the door and knock. We have already told each other that we are included in each other's lives."
This sense of belonging stands in sharp contrast to those feelings of isolation and alienation that we can feel in so many ways. It does not mean that one partner owns the other or that no boundary or separateness exists. But the joy of connection frees people in relationships to fulfill themselves and carry on their lives while in the close comfort of one they love.
Tell your partner how you know you have a place in her or his life.
From the book The More We Find In Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
In this time of international conflict and mistrust it is easy to despair. At times we may even feel hopeless as we hear about wars and weapons. But there is hope! Change can grow from within each of us.
The world is like a tree - if the tree is diseased and the leaves brown and brittle; the gardener does not treat the branches, but tends to the roots. Our world is made up of nations, in which there are states containing communities of neighborhoods where individual people live. We are the roots of our world tree. As attitudes change; as we accept and love ourselves honestly and learn, in turn, to accept and love others regardless of our differences, slowly, the branches that extend from us and cover the world will grow strong. The peace we can make within ourselves can be reflected everywhere.
Action for the Day: I will find the peace within myself today.
One Day At A Time
For the first time, I began to understand that I couldn't drink like other people,
that I wasn't like other people, and that I no longer had to try to be.
I felt like Scrooge in the Dickens classic, "The Christmas Carol,"
when he awakes to discover he hasn't missed Christmas after all.
He dances, cries, and laughs aloud, just as I was doing.
Scrooge and I had been reborn to live life as we had never known it.
- Came To Believe . . ., p. 37
Thought to Ponder . . .
The privilege of a lifetime is being who you are.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T H I N K = The Happiness I Never Knew.
Put some real joy into what you’re doing, and what you’re doing changes for the better. Put some genuine joy into the situation, and new, positive possibilities come clearly into focus.
Instead of assuming that you cannot possibly enjoy what you’re doing, find ways to add your own joy to it. Instead of expecting joy to be given to you, make as much of your own joy as you can.
Energize your moments by living them joyfully and enthusiastically. You can choose the way you relate to life, so choose to do it with joy.
Don’t poison your attitude by compiling a list of things that get you down. Commit yourself to lifting life up no matter what kinds of things might be going on.
By all means, live in the real world, and live with authentic joy. Be realistic and joyful at the same time, and your reality will get better and better.
This is a day, this is a moment, this is a life that could benefit from some real joy. Give some joy now, and as often as you can, and live in a more joyful world.
— Ralph Marston