Wednesday, September 20, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-20-2017

Wednesday, September 20, 2017
Today's Gift

Education should be the process of helping everyone to discover their uniqueness. —Leo Buscaglia

We are each special, which means there is not another person just like ourselves. Nobody looks just like us. Nobody's voice sounds quite like our own. And nobody thinks through a story just like we do.

Each of us has been created for a special purpose. Maybe it's for what we'll teach a friend, or the way we'll help a sister or a brother. Every day will give us chances to offer our special talents to others. Our being alive is Universe's way of proving that we're important to the family, the neighborhood, and the world.

What important task lies before me today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.
---Mark Twain

Sometimes it does no good to try to “deal” with your feelings. For the
moment, we’re stuck. We can only see things one way. No matter
what anyone says, we’re closed up. For the moment. But this puts our
sobriety at risk.

How do we stop self-pity? Focus on someone else. When we really want
to help someone else be happy, we'll ask our Higher Power’s help.
Then things start to change, because our good deeds come back to us.
Remember, service will always keep us sober.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, sometimes I get stuck in my old ways.
Help me change my focus at those times. Help me stay sober.

Action for the Day: I will think of a time when I was stuck in bad feelings.
How did I get out of that spot.


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One Day At A Time

Step Twelve
"Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry
this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs."

Outline the program of action, explaining how you made a self-appraisal,
how you straightened out your past and why you are now endeavoring to be
helpful to him. It is important for him to realize that your attempt to
pass this on to him plays a vital part in your own recovery. Actually,
he may be helping you more than you are helping him.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 94

Thought to Ponder
"Service made me feel useful. Twelfth Step work taught me to accept my past."

AA-related 'Alconym'
B E S T = B
een Enjoying Sobriety Today

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

You make a difference
by Ralph Marston

What you do makes a difference. It may not seem like much, but it is.

What you do has an influence that goes far beyond you. What you do is an important part of the fabric of life.

The world around you is not only your home. It is your responsibility.

The way you see the world plays an important part in what the world becomes. Your vision for the future helps to create the future.

Live with hope, with joy, with love, and you add hope, joy, and love to the world. Live with honesty and integrity, and you give the power of truth to all of life.

Day in and day out, what you do truly matters, more than you can ever know. Live each moment as though what you do changes the world, because it surely does.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Tuesday, September 19, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-19-2017

Tuesday, September 19, 2017
Today's Gift

Youngster, the secret of my success is that at an early age I discovered I was not God. —Oliver Wendell Holmes

Sometimes, in our families, we try to get parents or brothers or sisters to treat us the way we want them to, to do things we want them to. When they're upset or angry with us, we try to get them to stop, rather than allow them to be angry.

But our feelings are ours alone, and we are responsible only for how we feel. Those around us are not the cause of our feelings. We are.

This knowledge is a big responsibility, because we know we cannot blame others for our bad moods. But it is a fact. And this fact is also a wonderful freedom for us, for it means that we also have the power to make ourselves happy, no matter what goes on around us.

How can I make myself happy today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin as self-neglecting. --William Shakespeare

An important part of our lives is simply tending to our basic needs --sitting down daily to share a meal with loved ones, getting enough sleep, setting time aside for haircuts and polishing shoes, spending leisure time with friends. Paying attention to these things only when they become crises makes our lives unbalanced and crisis oriented. Many men have neglected themselves because they felt it was the mark of a tough guy. Others have been so lost in an addiction or so codependent that a respectful self-caring life was not possible.

As we regain our sanity, we find balance in the basics. Self-love allows us to be responsible for our care, and it puts us in a stronger position to help others, to be creative, and to assert our right to recovery.

Action for the Day: Today, I will look after the essentials of my personal care and my family's care before I take on other things.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

The Actor
More than most people, the alcoholic leads a double life. They are very
much the actor. To the outer world they present their stage character.
This is the one they likes their fellows to see. They want to enjoy a certain
reputation, but knows in their heart they don't deserve it.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 73

Thought to Ponder
Character is what I am; reputation is what people think I am.

AA-related 'Alconym'
F E A R = F
ighting Ego Against Reality

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Putting it all to use
by Ralph Marston

Today is your chance to do what you can, when you can, with what you have. Even the most difficult, complicated achievements come to life by completing one step at a time.

You’re smart enough to accept that whatever you’re doing will require some time and effort. Now is your opportunity to invest that time, to make that effort.

You already know the challenges will require persistence and diligence. And you’ve already discovered you have what it takes to keep going.

There’s always something you can do. And even if the going gets slow, you go ahead, because it’s a whole lot better than falling behind.

With every effort, new options open up to you. With every moment, the momentum grows stronger.

You have purpose, desire, integrity, ability and a love of making good things happen. On this day filled with unique possibility, enjoy putting it all to use.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Monday, September 18, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-18-2017

Monday, September 18, 2017
Today's Gift

I will, I will accept myself
With hope and fear and wonder
And what I have joined together
Let no person put asunder.
—Dory Preven

There is a wonderful freedom in acceptance. When we accept ourselves, with all our imperfections, we can then begin to accept others just as they are. This is especially exciting when we apply this discovery to our own families. A family is like a bouquet of flowers arranged in a common vase. Each flower is different. One might be blue, one white, one a rose, one a chrysanthemum. But each adds to the beauty of the whole bouquet and enhances the vase that holds it.

It isn't important that we know why one flower is blue and one white. We don't have to understand how a rose becomes a rose to appreciate the arrangement. We just accept it for what it is. Acceptance of others does not mean agreement or approval. How boring if we only accepted those who reflected our own ideas and opinions! How dull to look upon a bouquet of exactly the same flowers.

Today, will I accept the differences between us as part of our beauty together?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple


Here’s my Golden Rule: Be fair with others but then keep after them
until they’re fair with you. ---Alan Alda

Often in our illness we were ashamed, so we let people take advantage
of us. We acted as if we had no rights. In recovery, we work hard to be
fair with others. And we deserve to be treated with fairness too. If
people are mean to us, we talk with them about it. If people cheat us,
we ask them to set it right. In recovery, we live by our human rights.

Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me to stand for fairness.
Help me respect myself and others.

Action for the Day: Today, I’ll list people who have wronged me.
I will make plans to talk to those with whom I feel will listen.
I will let love, not shame or fear, control my actions.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time
Reliance
Being still inexperienced and having just made conscious contact with our Higher Power,
it is not probable that we are going to be inspired at all times. We might
pay for this presumption in all sorts of absurd actions and ideas. Nevertheless,
we find that our thinking will, as time passes, be more and more on
the plane of inspiration. We come to rely upon it.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 87

Thought to Ponder
Action without prayer is self-reliance.

AA-related 'Alconym'
F R O G = F
ully Rely On Goodness

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Filled with promise
by Ralph Marston

Do the work to think for yourself. If you don’t think for yourself, life is nothing more than a stream of meaningless sensations.

Take full responsibility for the integrity of your life. It is everything, as your experience has shown you again and again.

Life is not easy. But oh, how good it can be when you do what is necessary to put real substance into it.

Give, give, give of yourself, authentically, generously, with enthusiasm, respect, joy. Listen, learn, watch, participate.

Commit to your highest vision, putting action and persistence behind that commitment. Remind yourself to live as though every moment matters, for indeed every moment does.

Do you realize how beautiful and filled with promise this day is? Once you do, nothing will be able to hold you back.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/



Friday, September 15, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-15-2017

Friday, September 15, 2017
Today's Gift

They felt frightened at being different from their brothers and sisters. It scared them to be different. —E. B. White

How ugly and wrong it makes us feel to be different: to be tall when others are short, slow when others are fast, black or brown when others are white.

The miracle, and paradox, is that everyone is different - and that is what makes us all the same.

When we think honestly about the people we admire - friends, sports heroes, actors, musicians, parents, teachers, mentors - we know that all of them, as human beings, not heroes, have felt out of place in their lives, probably many times.

Believing we are alone or different cuts us off from others. Climbing over that protective wall of "differentness" is scary, but it is guaranteed to set us free.

How can I let go of my fear "differentness" and honor it today?

From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Because I have been athirst I will dig a well that others may drink. --Arabian proverb

Most of us do as we please. When we want to go we go; when we want to stay, we stay. We're accustomed to moving around freely and never even think about it. We trust that a door will open if we turn the knob and push. Unfortunately, we never appreciate what we take for granted, and we are less for that.

A young man at an meeting shared that he had just been released from prison. Upon release, the first thing he had done, he said, was to walk back and forth across the pressure plate of the bus station door. He wanted to be the one to make a door open and close. Onlookers had laughed at him, he said, but he didn't care. He appreciated the chance to move, to go where he wanted. Having known the hell of doors that won't open, he had an awareness that the rest of us didn't have. As his recovery continues, he will have much to share with people who've been trapped in prisons of their own.

Action for the Day: May I have the insight to recognize my own special qualifications, and the willingness to share them with others.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time


An Illness
An illness of this sort—and we have come to believe it an illness—involves those about us
in a way no other human sickness can. If a person has cancer all are sorry for him
and no one is angry or hurt. But not so with the alcoholic illness,
for with it there goes annihilation of all the things worth while in life.
It engulfs all whose lives touch the sufferer’s.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 18

Thought to Ponder
Right actions for the future are the best apologies for wrong ones in the past.

AA-related 'Alconym'
B A T H = B
ehavior, Attitude, Thinking, Habits


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Important people
by Ralph Marston

The term “important person” too often conjures up images of powerful politicians, business leaders, well-known athletes, entertainers or others whom we term as celebrities.

In reality, every person is important. Every life is important. None is more so than another. You are just as important as any familiar face on television. And so is your neighbor.

Every person has something to contribute to life. Every person is capable of making a positive difference. Each person in this world is special and just as deserving as any other person of the richness that life has to offer.

Certainly there are those who distinguish themselves, who inspire us, who lead us, who serve us, who teach us. They are not inherently better or more important that anyone else. Rather, they have taken it upon themselves to more completely fulfill their own possibilities.

Important people are all around you, filled with magnificent potential, just as you are. Recognize and respect that importance in yourself and others, act on it, and you’ll fulfill those important possibilities that are your own.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Thursday, September 14, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-14-2017

Thursday, September 14, 2017
Today's Gift

When a person drowns theirself in negative thinking they are committing an unspeakable crime against theirself. —Maxwell Maltz

Negative thoughts can rule our lives as compulsively as an addiction. The feelings of power we get from holding a dismal and gloomy outlook deprive us of the positive and pleasant parts of life. Some of us have said, "If I expect the worst, I won't be disappointed. If I think the worst about myself, no one else can cut me down." It is like taking a driving trip and looking only for trash and garbage in the ditches, ignoring the beauty beyond. Indeed, what we see may be real, but it is a very limited piece of the picture.

When we have relied on negative thinking, it feels risky to give it up. We cannot do it in one day. We can begin by imagining ourselves with a more open attitude toward the world and ourselves. Then we can try it out as an experiment in little ways, with no commitment. Finally we reach the point where we can take a risk and entrust our Higher Power with the outcome.

Today, I will experiment with hopeful and positive thoughts about what happens.

From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

What a strange pattern the shuttle of life can weave. --Frances Marion

How shortsighted is our judgment about today's experiences! We'll see with clarity where they may lead us only after we've reached our destination. Of one thing we can be certain: Today's experiences, in concert with yesterday's and all that's gone before, are combining to weave an intricate life design, unique, purposeful, and for our ultimate good.

We need not feel remorse over lost chances or unproductive behavior in the past. Our destination remains the same, and our arrival is guaranteed. Our actions and decisions are never wrong. We may veer off course for a time, but the design for our lives will pull us back on the track.

The program is part of the design for our lives. It's helping us to stay on course. In fact, when we're working the Steps, we're at ease with our direction, and we trust the outcome of our efforts to the power of the program. We will add to the richness of our design, today, just as we have every day of our lives. We can anticipate today's experiences with an excited heart.

Action for the Day: There is something special going on in my life today. I will give everybody and every event my full attention.


From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2

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One Day At A Time

Emotional Security
The most common symptoms of emotional insecurity are worry, anger, self-pity, and depression.
These stem from causes which sometimes seem to be within us, and at other times to come from without. To take inventory in this respect we ought to consider carefully all personal
relationships which bring continuous or recurring trouble. It should be remembered that
this kind of insecurity may arise in any area where instincts are threatened.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 52
Thought to Ponder
I need to uncover in order to recover.

AA-related 'Alconym'
C H A O S = C
reating Havoc Around OurSelves

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Time to appreciate
by Ralph Marston

How many times each day do you take for granted those you love? How often do you fail to truly appreciate your home, your health, your friends, the air you breathe, the magnificent beauty of the world around you?

It’s all too easy to forget how very many blessings we have. Often we are so heavily focused on getting more, that we look right past the many good things we already have.

But of what use is having something if you don’t appreciate and find joy in it? The good things with which we are so blessed are not merely stepping stones on the road to more.

Take time today to appreciate and enjoy the good things in your life. Sit for a few moments and watch your child sleep, considering how very precious and special that young life is. Though your job may often be tedious or difficult, appreciate the new opportunities it brings you each day. Value your blessings by considering how you can give more value to them.

You are blessed. If nothing else, life itself is a huge blessing. Take the time to be thankful, and reap the value.

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/


Wednesday, September 13, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 9-13-2017

Wednesday, September 13, 2017
Today's Gift

Keeping my mind active through good, intellectual discussions is important to me. Talking over golf scores doesn't take us very far. --Louise Jerome

Small talk is what engages us much of the time. There's nothing shameful about that. Many of the individuals we're in the company of are strangers to us. Inconsequential discussions seem safer then. Yet, keeping our minds active through thoughtful discussions about the world expands our knowledge and awareness. This exercises our minds in important ways. Just as muscles atrophy when unused, so do minds.

Many people shy away from in-depth discussions. Maybe we frequently do that, too. Oftentimes it's because we feel inadequate to others. Maybe we assume they are better educated. Fears of inadequacy are familiar to most of us. Will we ever learn that we are and always have been all that we've needed to be?

One of the good things about growing older, for some of us at least, is that we realize most worries don't materialize; most situations aren't as serious as we anticipated, and most people are more approachable than they first appear to be. Taking risks to share our thoughts gets easier the more we practice it. Let's not shy away from this today.

I'll dare to share my opinions today. A good discussion can energize me.

From the book Keepers of the Wisdom ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day

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Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Love, a thousand, thousand voices,
From night to dawn,
from dawn to night,
Have cried the passion
of their choices
To orb your name and keep it bright.
--William Rose Benet

We are each in the midst of unique lives, and our choices are based on our own experiences, so it's only natural that they all be different. One of us may choose to go to jail for protesting nuclear weapons; another may choose to pray for peace. Both are working for the same goal.

It is a sign of our love to respect others' right to choose for themselves, even to make choices we may not agree with. Perhaps a brother or sister likes music we hate, or a son or daughter wants to wear an unusual style of clothing. How often do we, in the name of love, try to force our choices on others? When we give the gift of letting loved ones choose what is right for them, it strengthens our ability to choose what is right for us.

Action for the Day: I will honors others choices today, even if I disagree.



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One Day At A Time

Service
Nor is this the only kind of Twelfth Step work. We sit in A.A. meetings and listen,
not only to receive something ourselves, but to give the reassurance and support which
our presence can bring. If our turn comes to speak at a meeting, we again try to carry
A.A.'s message. Whether our audience is one or many, it is still Twelfth Step work.
- 12 Steps & 12 Traditions, p. 110

Thought to Ponder
Service is spirituality in action.

AA-related 'Alconym'
E S H = E
xperience, Strength, Hope


From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html

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Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Positive questions
by Ralph Marston

Your mind is built to seek answers. Just by asking a question, you engage your mental resources in finding an answer, or several good answers.

As such, it is important to ask yourself positive questions. Because positive questions produce positive answers.

Don’t focus your questions around why things are so bad or what’s wrong with the world or what’s the matter with you. Instead, ask yourself what the opportunities are, what things can you do better, and how you can make the most of the moment you’re in.

In every question is a presumption and an expectation of what kind of answer you’ll get. Make it a habit to ask questions of yourself that presume and expect a positive answer.

The person you listen to most, and trust the most, is you. The questions you ask yourself have a powerful influence on the direction of your focus, your actions, your outcomes.

What can you do to feel great about the possibilities of this day? How will you begin to bring the best of those possibilities to life, right now?

From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/