Wednesday, October 18, 2017
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Her realization that there was no right way or wrong way to life life, set her free. She threw away her outdated rule book and finally began to enjoy her life her way. --Queenisms
Throwing Out the Rule Book
Many of us feel like we need a rulebook, a microscope, and a warranty to get through life. We feel uncertain, frightened. We want the security of knowing what's going to happen, and how we shall act.
We don't trust life or ourselves.
We don't trust the Plan.
We want to be in control.
"I've made terrible mistakes about my choices, mistakes that nearly destroyed me. Life has really shocked me. How can I trust myself? How can I trust life, and my instincts, after where I've been?" asked one woman.
It is understandable that we fear being crushed again, considering the way many of us were when we bottomed out on our codependency. We don't have to be fearful. We can trust our self, our path, and our instincts.
Yes, we want to avoid making the same mistakes again. We are not the same people we were yesterday or last year. We've learned, grown, changed. We did what we needed to do then. If we made a mistake, we cannot let that stop us from living and fully experiencing today.
We have arrived at the understanding that we needed our experiences - even our mistakes - to get to where we are today. Do we know that we needed our life to unfold exactly as it did to find ourselves, our Higher Power, and this new way of life? Or is part of us still calling our past a mistake?
We can let go of our past and trust ourselves now. We do not have to punish ourselves with our past. We don't need a rulebook, a microscope, a warranty. All we really need is a mirror. We can look into the mirror and say, "I trust you. No matter what happens, you can take care of yourself. And what happens will continue to be good, better than you think."
Today, I will stop clinging to the painful lessons of the past. I will open myself to the positive lessons today and tomorrow hold for me. I trust that I can and will take care of myself now. I trust that the Plan is good, even when I don't know what it is.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
Being Honest with Ourselves
Our relationship with ourselves is the most important relationship we need to maintain. The quality of that relationship will determine the quality of our other relationships.
When we can tell ourselves how we feel, and accept our feelings, we can tell others.
When we can accept what we want and need, we will be ready to have our wants and needs met.
When we can accept what we think and believe, and accept what's important to us, we can relay this to others.
When we learn to take ourselves seriously, others will too.
When we learn to chuckle at ourselves, we will be ready to laugh with others.
When we have learned to trust ourselves, we will be trustworthy and ready to trust.
When we can be grateful for who we are, we will have achieved self-love.
When we have achieved self-love and accepting our wants and needs, we will be ready to give and receive love.
When we've learned to stand on our own two feet, we're ready to stand next to someone.
Action for the Day: Today, I will focus on having a good relationship with myself.
One Day At A Time
It works—it really does. We alcoholics and addicts are undisciplined.
So we let our Higher Power discipline us in the simple way we have just outlined.
But this is not all. There is action and more action.
"Faith without works is dead."
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 88
Thought to Ponder
Sobriety without action is fantasy.
S T E P S = Solutions Through Each Powerful Step
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net) http://www.aa-alive.net/index.html
There will be bumps
by Ralph Marston
You do all you can to make today the best it can be. Yet it is not going to be perfect, and that is perfectly fine.
You work, plan and strategize to minimize the problems, to facilitate your progress. Yet there still will be some problems, and you’ll be able to deal with them.
It’s nice when life unfolds as you had hoped, planned, expected. However, when things don’t go the way you wanted, that’s not the end of the world.
There will be bumps on the journey, big bumps, small ones, irritating, frustrating, even painful. And you’ll work your way past every one.
Just the fact you’re hitting the bumps in the first place means you’re making progress. Keep going.
Whatever way life unfolds, embrace it, utilize it, and without complaint, regret or hesitation, keep going. Life is as it is, and it is yours to live with positive purpose.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/