Wednesday, May 17, 2017

The Work-In: Daily Motivation 5-17-2017

Wednesday, May 17, 2017
Today's Gift

Even if you understand and follow all of the rules for more effectively engaging manipulators, life with them is not likely to be easy. --George K. Simon Jr.

Sometimes they want something. Sometimes they want someone to give them something or to feel a particular way. They want power in some way, shape, or form. Manipulators prey on our weak spots.

Obsession and guilt are weapons. Manipulators get us to use these weapons on ourselves.

Sometimes we can disengage from manipulators - walk away, set a clear limit, be done with them. Other times, it's not that easy. We may be at least temporarily stuck with a boss or authority figure that indulges in heavy manipulation. One of our children may be going through a relentlessly manipulative period. We may have a parent whom we care about deeply who has adapted manipulation as a way of life.

Learn how to effectively deal with manipulators. Not everyone means what they say. . . Learn to recognize when others are telling you what they believe you want to hear. Learn to not react, stay clear, practice nonresistance, and stay true to yourself.

Be gentle with yourself if you have a manipulator in your life. You're not responsible for the other person's attempts at manipulation. You're responsible for staying clear.

Higher Power, help me let go the weak spots in myself that allow me to fall prey to manipulations. Help me stay clear of guilt and obsession so I can decide what's best for me.

From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
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From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day

Twenty-Four Hours a Day

Keep It Simple

Dreams have always expanded our understanding of reality by challenging our boundaries of the real, of the possible. --Henry Reed

Sometimes, life and people seem to push and push. Because we are so used to pain, we may tell ourselves it doesn't hurt. Because we are so used to people controlling and manipulating us, we may tell ourselves there is something wrong with us.

There's nothing wrong with us. Life is pushing and hurting to get our attention. Sometimes, the pain and pushing are pointing toward a lesson. The lesson may be that we've become too controlling. Or maybe were being pushed to own our power to take care of ourselves. The issue is boundaries.

If something or somebody is pushing us to our limit, that's exactly what's happening: were being pushed to our limits. We can be grateful for the lesson that's here to help us explore and set our boundaries.

Action for the Day: Today, I will give myself permission to set the limits I want and need to set in my life.

From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums

One Day At A Time

The minute we put our work on a service plane, the alcoholic commences to rely upon our
assistance rather than upon their Higher Power. They clamor for this or that, claiming they cannot master alcohol until their material needs are cared for. Nonsense. Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth:
Job or no job—spouse or no spouse—we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on our Higher Power.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p 98

Thought to Ponder . . .
In AA we don't carry the alcoholic; we carry the message.

AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
F R O G = F
ully Rely On God

From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy

Daily Motivation

Excerpt of The Daily Motivator

Make life the best
by Ralph Marston

Progress doesn’t just happen because you wish for it. Progress comes about when you work to create it.

To improve the output, improve the input. To improve what you get, improve what you do.

Make positive, empowering changes to your environment. Stay away from people who drag you down, and get yourself around those who challenge, inspire, motivate, fascinate you.

Raise your expectations of yourself, and of others, then exceed those expectations. Raise your level of engagement, your discipline, your commitment, focus, awareness.

When effort is called for, make extra effort. When something must be done, or can be done, find a way to get it done, then go beyond it.

The beauty in each moment begs you to create new greatness. Answer the call, and invest yourself fully in making life the best you know it can be.

From The Daily Motivator website at

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