Friday, March 25, 2016
I don't want everyone to like me; I should think less of myself if some people did. —Henry James
Many of us have learned to control the responses of others by always being pleasing and charming. Maybe we feel it's better to have others like us than to take a stand. Maybe we only feel okay about ourselves if others approve. Some of us have certainly learned we have a sense of power and control over people when they like us. Many of us have carried our people-pleasing behavior so far that we have really sold our souls for the applause of others.
Are there problems or tensions in our lives from trying to please someone? Is fear of criticism preventing us from taking an action that would be good for us? Have we neglected our inner voice by listening so hard to others? As we get stronger, healthier, more fully into our adulthood, not everyone will like us. Some people will be angry; others, not interested. Once we have faced our own life crises, we are not so dependent on having everyone's approval.
I pray for blessing upon the person I have become. I will let go of this need to please everyone.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
Letting Go of Worry
What if we knew for certain that everything were worried about today will work out fine?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that the problem bothering us would be worked out in the most perfect way, and at the best possible time? Furthermore, what if we knew that three years from now wed be grateful for that problem, and it solution?
What if . . . we knew that even our worst fear would work out for the best?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that everything that's happening, and has happened, in our life was meant to be, planned just for us, and in our best interest?
What if . . . we had a guarantee that the people we love are experiencing exactly what they need in order to become who they're intended to become? Further, what if we had a guarantee that others can be responsible for themselves, and we don't have to control or take responsibility for them?
What if . . . we knew the future was going to be good, and we would have an abundance of resources and guidance to handle whatever comes our way?
What if . . . we knew everything was okay, and we didn't have to worry about a thing? What would we do then?
We'd be free to let go and enjoy life.
Action for the Day: Today, I will know that I don't have to worry about anything. If I do worry, I will do it with the understanding that I am choosing to worry, and it is not necessary.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
One Day At A Time
It is when we try to make our will conform with our Higher Power's that we begin to use it rightly. . .
Our whole trouble had been the misuse of willpower. We had tried to bombard our problems with it instead of attempting to bring it into agreement with our Higher Power's intention for us.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 40
Thought to Ponder . . .
I can't do His will my way.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
W H O = Willingness, Honesty, Open-mindedness.
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Leave your doubts behind
by Ralph Marston
Don’t let doubt kill your efforts. Don’t let doubt dilute your creativity.
Look squarely at your doubts and tell them they are wrong. Muster the strength to bring those vague, elusive doubts all the way to the surface where you can destroy them.
Each doubt is a thought you own, and you can decide what to do with it. Decide to get rid of those doubts, one after another.
You deserve more than to be held back by your own doubtful, negative thoughts. Your best work deserves to be done and you deserve the satisfaction of doing it.
There are very real obstacles that stand between where you are and where you want to be. Don’t let your own doubts add to those obstacles.
Instead, let go of the doubts and free yourself to work through all the challenges at your greatest level of performance. Leave your doubts behind, and let yourself achieve all the great things you’re destined to achieve.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/