Tuesday, February 16, 2016
Hatred is never anything but fear - if you feared no one, you would hate no one. —Hugh Downs
On those occasions when we find the bigger person within, we are more generous in spirit toward others. But sometimes we think too much about what is wrong with others and how they ought to change. That is a form of hate. If we are searching for what we have power to change in our families, in our friendships, in the world, we can learn to be big enough to set aside our fears.
Do we bear ill will toward someone today? When we are honest with ourselves, do we feel a sense of fear in relation to this person? What are we really afraid of? Perhaps the same person fears us. When we can do something about our fear, the hatred melts with no further effort. Then we are in touch with the bigger man within.
I have the inner strength to face my fears today. I will not send them outward as hatred.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Walk In Dry Places
Mental Arguments are bad Thinking
Again and again we hear that bad thinking and drinking are linked together. Bad thinking is any line of thought that tends to be destructive. Mental arguments are in that class because they destroy peace of mind and self-control. We can avoid them by learning acceptance and maintaining serenity at all costs.
Sometimes we engage in mental arguments with those who seem to have defeated us or put us down. This only gives more life to the hurt we have been feeling: in effect, we cooperate in hurting ourselves repeatedly. Even the satisfaction of letting ourselves "win" the mental argument doesn't really settle the matter.
We can maintain our serenity in all situations by accepting people as they are. We are not responsible for changing their opinions. We must also accept and dismiss past mistakes and failures, no matter who was at fault. We owe it to ourselves not to destroy another moment's happiness with futile mental arguments that serve no good purpose in our lives.
Once we dismiss mental arguments, we can give our time and attention to things that really matter.
Action for the Day: I will not waste a single second on any kid of mental argument. Anything another person said or did is forgiven and forgotten, and it has no power to hurt me a second time.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
One Day At A Time
"Were entirely ready to have our Higher Power remove all these defects of character."
It is nowhere evident, at least in this life, that our Creator expects us fully to eliminate our instinctual drives.
So far as we know, it is nowhere on the record that our Higher Power has completely removed from any human being all his natural drives.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 65
Thought to Ponder . . .
I want the gift of an untroubled mind.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
W H O = Willingness, Honesty, Open-mindedness.
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Positive and realistic
by Ralph Marston
Is it realistic to be positive when your life is filled with difficult problems? Yes, it most certainly is. Being positive does not mean ignoring or avoiding the problems. Being positive means seeing those difficulties for what they are, and then doing whatever is necessary to move beyond them.
That takes effort and commitment, and it’s not easy. Yet it is the best choice by far. Sure, it’s difficult to stay positive when there’s trouble all around you. And that’s precisely when your positive focus can make the biggest difference.
Look straight at those problems and know that there’s a way through them. See the magnitude of the challenge and know that it can be done. There’s no need to deny reality in order to remain positively focused. With positive energy and commitment you can improve that reality.
There’s no need to lose your positive focus in order to be realistic. And it’s certainly not necessary to deny reality in order to be positive. Stay positive and realistic at the same time, and you’ll truly be changing the world for the better.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/