Monday, October 19, 2015
If only I could throw away the urge to trace my patterns in your heart I could really see you. —David Brandon
Trying to control and change the people around us creates great problems in our relationships. When people we love are expressing themselves, we're thinking about what we wish they would say, and it blocks us from hearing clearly. A need for safety and for a guarantee that we won't be abandoned urges us to manipulate the people we love. We know we have innocent motives. We say we only want what is best and that we are only trying to protect ourselves or be helpful. But we hide from the effects our actions have on our relationships.
We seem to be more trapped in these self-centered behaviors with the ones we are closest to. We can change ourselves by slowly releasing our security grip on others. We can focus more on understanding what others are saying to us than on changing how they think and feel. Intimacy is clearly seeing each other and knowing the differences as well as the similarities. It requires that both people be allowed to walk on separate paths.
I will release my grip on my loved ones and turn to my Higher Power for security and serenity.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
How easily our minds jump from the present to the foibles of the past or our fears about the future. How seldom are our minds on this moment, and only this moment.
Before we picked up this book, where were our thoughts? We need to practice, with diligence, returning our minds to whatever the experience at hand. A truly creative response to any situation can only be made when we are giving it our undivided attention. And each creative response initiates an even more exciting follow-up experience.
All we have of life, all that it can offer us is here, now. If we close our mind to the present, this present, we'll only continue to do so when the tomorrow we dream of now becomes the present. There are no tomorrows.
Action for the Day: I will let go of the past and the future. My only reality is here, now. My Higher Power's gifts are here, today, right now.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support ForumsDaily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
One Day At A Time
The tremendous fact for every one of us is that we have discovered a common solution.
We have a way out on which we can absolutely agree, and upon which we can join in brotherly and harmonious action.
This is the great news this book carries to those who suffer from alcoholism.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 17
Thought to Ponder . . .
Walk softly and carry a Big Book.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A B C = Accept, Begin, Continue.
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
Love what life brings
by Ralph Marston
Need pushes fulfillment away. Love dissolves need, and builds a place for fulfillment to flower.
Life’s best possibilities are cast into darkness by striving. Love illuminates all those possibilities, revealing their power and beauty.
Love this day, with all that is in it, and love empowers you to live it well. Love the ups and downs, the obvious and the subtle, the disappointments and the triumphs, and give birth to great new value.
Love each effort, and each effort gains effectiveness and the power of purpose. Love the challenges, and you transform them into achievements.
Love what life brings, what life is, what life can be. And with your love, lift it higher.
Read the full message many more at http://greatday.com