Thursday, January 17, 2012
Accept fate, and move on. Don't yield to the seductive pull of self-pity. Acting like a victim threatens your future. --Author Unknown
Courage and Patience
There are times when the "poor me" mood strikes us all. We complain that things are not better. We bemoan our sorry lot in life. We condemn ourselves and others for not meeting our expectations.
What can we do when these destructive emotions engulf us? First, we can realize that our "self-pity" is often the result of comparing ourselves with others or to some unrealistic standard of perfection that we think we "should" have reached and have not.
What we need to do at times like these is take a fresh look at ourselves and our circumstances. We must evaluate ourselves in relation to ourselves, and avoid comparisons with others.
When we view our progress honestly and clearly, in comparison to our own past performances and our own present conditions, we get a better perspective on the strides we have made. Seeing our growth, we can patiently bear our current frustrations because we have overcome our previous struggles and disillusionments.
Today I am in competition with no one. I shall seek to better myself by growing beyond where I am. I will be patient with myself and take small steps. I will not expect perfection overnight.
From the book The Reflecting Pond by Liane Cordes
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself. --Anas Nin
How aptly these words describe the person so many of us were. Many activities were not attempted, courses weren't taken, conversations weren't initiated because we lacked confidence. The pain, the constant search for acceptance and love in the eyes and behavior of others, still haunts us. But those days are past. We are daring to be ourselves, one day at a time.
Confidence still wavers on occasion, and we may need assurance that we're lovable. Gratefully, we can look to one another for the additional boost we may need to face the day. Being there for one another, knowing that we understand each other's fears as women offers the strength to go ahead that we may lack today or tomorrow.
Action for Today: Today someone may need me to dare to be myself. I will be there.
Faced with alcoholic and addiction destruction,
we soon became as open-minded on spiritual matters
as we had tried to be on other matters.
In this respect, alcohol and drugs were a great persuader.
It finally beat us into a state of reasonableness.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 48
Thought to Ponder . . .
Keep an open mind.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
N E W = Nothing Else Worked.
Give the best
When you value what you have, you make what you have more valuable. When you care about what you’re doing, you make what you’re doing much more effective.
Give the best of yourself to the moment, and the moment becomes filled with great treasure. Be generous to others with your time and attention, and you’ll find yourself among delightful companions.
Life is largely what you give it. Offer yourself sincerely and abundantly, and that true abundance will be reflected in the world you experience.
If you proffer complaints, you’ll receive much to complain about. When you give love, there will be much to love.
Improve yourself, your actions, your outlook, and your world improves. Be genuinely useful, and you’ll have much more with which to work.
What flows out from you surely, eventually and in greater measure flows back to you. Give your very best, and it comes back even better.
— Ralph Marston