Tuesday, December 25, 2012
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness. --Helen Keller
Sometimes, the holidays are filled with the joy we associate with that time of year. The season flows. Magic is in the air.
Sometimes, the holidays can be difficult and lonely.
Here are some ideas I've learned through personal experience, and practice, to help us get through difficult holidays:
Deal with feelings, but try not to dwell unduly on them. Put the holidays in perspective: A holiday is one day out of 365. We can get through any 24-hour period.
Get through the day, but be aware that there may be a post-holiday backlash. Sometimes, if we use our survival behaviors to get through the day, the feelings will catch up to us the next day. Deal with them too. Get back on track as quickly as possible.
Find and cherish the love that's available, even if it's not exactly what we want. Is there someone we can give love to and receive love from? Recovering friends? Is there a family who would enjoy sharing their holiday with us? Don't be a martyr - go. There may be those who would appreciate our offer to share our day with them.
We are not in the minority if we find ourselves experiencing a less than ideal holiday. How easy, but untrue, to tell ourselves the rest of the world is experiencing the perfect holiday, and we're alone in conflict.
We can create our own holiday agenda. Buy yourself a present. Find someone to whom you can give. Unleash your loving, nurturing self and give in to the holiday spirit.
Maybe past holidays haven't been terrific. Maybe this year wasn't terrific. But next year can be better, and the next a little better. Work toward a better life - one that meets your needs. Before long, you'll have it.
Higher Power, help me enjoy and cherish this holiday. If my situation is less than ideal, help me take what's good and let go of the rest.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
We must look closely; focus intently on the subjects of our attention. Within these subjects is the explanation of life's mysteries. To observe anything closely means we must pull it aside with our minds and fondle it, perhaps. We must let the richness of the object, the person, the event, wash over us and savor its memory.
Many of us only now are able to look around ourselves slowly, with care, noting the detail, the brilliant color of life. Each day is an opportunity to observe and absorb the beauty while it blooms.
Action for the Day: I will look for beauty today, in myself, and in a friend, and I will find it.
If a strong inner core of peace, patience, and contentment
looks at all desirable to you, it can be had.
Remind yourself once in a while
that maybe "Easy Does It" is this day's ideal speed.
The change can start right now, remember?
- Living Sober, p. 46
Thought to Ponder . . .
Happiness and peace of mind are always here,
open and free to anyone.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
P A U S E = Patience And Understandiing Succeed Every time.
On this Christmas day of giving, give peace. Let yourself be filled with peace, and let that peace flow out from you to brighten your whole world.
There is no good reason for conflict, within you or outside of you. Replace thoughts of lack and limitation with thoughts of abundance and love, and the conflicts quickly dissolve.
Peace is yours to choose, and yours to share. Feel how truly fortunate you are to experience this life and this moment, and be fully at peace with it all.
Peace cannot be forced or compelled. And yet it can easily and powerfully be accepted and shared.
Today, and every day, live peace and give peace. Fulfillment comes not from taking and striving, but from loving and enriching.
Give peace, and give value that has no end. Live in peace, and live at your very best.
— Ralph Marston