Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Personal relationships are the fertile soil from which all advancement, all success, all achievement in real life grows. --Ben Stein
There is a gift for us in each relationship that comes our way.
Sometimes the gift is a behavior we're learning to acquire: detachment, self esteem, becoming confident enough to set a boundary, or owning our power in another way.
Some relationships trigger healing in us - healing from issues of the past or an issue we're facing today.
Sometimes we find ourselves learning the most important lessons from the people we least expect to help us. Relationships may teach us about loving ourselves or someone else. Or maybe we'll learn to let others love us.
Sometimes, we aren't certain what lesson we're learning, especially while we're in the midst of the process. But we can trust that the lesson and the gift are there. We don't have to control this process. We'll understand, when it's time. We can also trust that the gift is precisely what we need.
Today, I'll be grateful for all my relationships. I will open myself to the lesson and the gift from each person in my life. I will trust that I, too, am a gift in the other people's lives.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
That suit is best that best suits me.---John Clark
How much time do we spend trying to “fit in”? Many of us used to care to much what other people thought about us---our clothes, our ideas, our work. Did we drink the right brand, drive the right car, listen to the right music?
In our program, we still have to watch out for fads and peer pressure. We have to ask ourselves if we’re really in touch with our Higher Power. Are we searching for a sponsor who has inner peace
and direction? Or do we look for people who are like our old using friends? As we learn to find our own way of following our Higher Power, we need to be okay with being different.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me be the best me I can be today.
Action for the Day: Today, I’ll work to be me---honestly me---to everyone I meet.
Above all, we should try to be absolutely sure
that we are not delaying because we are afraid.
For the readiness to take full consequences of our past acts,
and to take responsibility for the well-being of others at the same time,
is the very spirit of Step Nine.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 87
Thought to Ponder . . .
It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes
and to make amends for them.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Acountable Actions.
Stop stopping yourself. Stop holding yourself back.
Stop giving power to your limitations. Instead, give commitment, action and persistence to your best possibilities.
Fear and anxiety are immensely compelling, yet you are even stronger. The inertia of complacency is powerful, and yet you can overcome it.
Whatever may have been holding you back has done so with your cooperation. Choose now to no longer cooperate.
You have made the excuses and rationalizations, and you can now let them go. You have focused on the fear, and you can now move beyond it.
The challenges facing you are very real, but that doesn’t mean you must add to them. Instead, use the positive power of your life to move successfully through them.
— Ralph Marston