...there are two entirely opposite attitudes possible in facing the problems of one's life. One, to try and change the external world, the other, to try and change oneself. —Joanna Field
God grant us the courage to change what we can - ourselves. How difficult it is to let go of our struggles to control and change someone else. How frequently we assume that everything would be fine if only someone else would change. All that needs to change is an attitude, our own.
Taking responsibility for improving one's own life is an important step toward emotional health. Blaming another for our circumstances keeps us stuck and offers no hope for improved conditions. Personal power is as available as our decision to use it. And it is bolstered by all the strength we'll ever need. The decision to take our lives in hand will exhilarate us. The decision each day to be thoughtful, prayerful, and wholly responsible for all that we do will nourish our developing selves. Each responsible choice moves us toward our wholeness, strengthening our sense of self, our well-being.
I will change only who I can today: myself.
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
There was once a young girl who thought that if only she tried a little harder, she could please her parents; if only she were prettier, her friends would like her better. She tried constantly to gain their approval. Sometimes they said they liked her, and sometimes they didn't.
Then one night a fairy came to her in a dream and told her, "You are fine just the way you are. You don't have to change. I want you to start noticing your own beauty and loving yourself exactly the way you are."
Doing what the fairy suggested - giving love and approval to herself - wasn't easy, but she found that when she did it she felt a peace that was not dependent on what others thought. She thanked her fairy for caring enough to come and give her such wise advice.
Action for the Day: Today I will list some things I like about myself and honor them.
Many of my character defects appear daily: self-condemnation, anger,
running away, being prideful, wanting to get even,
or acting out of grandiosity.
Attempting half measures to eliminate these defects merely paralyzes
my efforts to change.
It is only when I ask my Higher Power for help, with complete abandon,
that I become willing -- and able -- to change.
- Daily Reflections, p. 15
Thought to Ponder . . .
Change is inevitable, growth is optional.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
S W A T = Surrender, Willingness, Acceptance, Trust.
Focus on the destination
To get where you want to go, be flexible about how you get there. The path is never exactly the way you thought it would be.
Achievement demands persistence, and yet being persistent is not the same as being stubborn. Achievement comes from being persistent and also flexible.
It is impossible to foresee every twist and turn in the road. You must be willing to navigate each turn as you arrive at it.
Set your goal, make your plans and preparations, and be ready to adapt when circumstances demand it. Remember that the goal is to reach the destination you’ve chosen, not necessarily to follow the exact plan you’ve laid out.
By all means, pay attention to the particulars of your path. Yet don’t get so attached to the plan that you compromise the goal.
Draw your strength and inspiration from the purpose you’ve chosen to follow and from the value you intend to create. Focus on the destination, and you’ll work your way there no matter what.
— Ralph Marston