Thursday, July 26, 2012
Owning your power means speaking your truth, honoring your sensitivity, and believing in yourself. Your life experience, education, personal relationships, and curiosity make you wise. Always believe in yourself and protect your personal power. --Shann Vander Leek
Owning Our Power
Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family, by our feelings, our thoughts, our circumstances, and ourselves.
We are not victims. We do not have to be victims. That is the whole point!
Yes, admitting and accepting powerlessness is important. But that is the first step. Later, comes owning our power. Changing what we can. This is as important as admitting and accepting powerlessness. And there is so much we can change.
We can own our power, wherever we are, wherever we go, whomever we are with. We do not have to stand there with our hands tied, groveling helplessly, submitting to whatever comes along. There are things we can do. We can speak up. Solve the problem. Use the problem to motivate ourselves to do something good for ourselves.
We can make ourselves feel good. We can walk away. We can come back on our terms. We can stand up for ourselves. We can refuse to let others control and manipulate us.
We can do what we need to do to take care of our selves. That is the beauty, the reward, the crown of victory we are given in this process called life. It is what it is all about!
If we can't do anything about the circumstance, we can change our attitude. We can do the work within: courageously face our issues so we are not victimized. We have been given a miraculous key to life.
We are victims no more unless we want to be.
Freedom and joy are ours for the taking, for the feeling, for the hard work we have done.
Today, I will remind myself as often as necessary that I am not a victim, and I do not need to be victimized by whatever comes my way. I will work hard to remove myself as a victim, whether that means setting and enforcing a boundary, walking away, dealing with my feelings, or giving myself what I need.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
We want the facts to fit the preconceptions. When they don't, it is easier to ignore the facts than to change the preconceptions. --Jessamyn West
To live fully and creatively, to contribute what is only ours to give, requires that we be receptive, wholly, to the reverberations of each present moment. Even anticipation of what may transpire next can prejudice our minds, our level of awareness. Preconceptions cloud our senses. They prevent the actual situation from being fully realized. And it is only in the now, as sensed moment by moment, that we find our cues to proceed along the path chosen for us.
As we grow in our own self awareness we'll see, too, how much greater are our own contributions. Preconceptions of any situation, persons, anticipated experience, dulls the magic, the depth of the moment. And only when we attune ourselves to the invitation of the moment do we give of ourselves, wholly.
Action for the Day: I will look to each moment with childish eyes. I'll find joy and contentment.
Those adolescent urges that so many of us have for top approval,
perfect security, and perfect romance
-- urges quite appropriate to age seventeen --
prove to be an impossible way of life when we are at age forty-seven or fifty-seven.
My God, how painful it is to keep demanding the impossible,
and how painful to discover, finally,
that all along we have had the cart before the horse!
- The Language of the Heart, p. 236
Thought to Ponder . . .
If I don't change, my sobriety date will.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A G O = Another Growth Opportunity
Your most formidable obstacle is you. If you are unwilling, or filled with doubt, you simply cannot get very far.
All the other challenges and limitations, you can find a way around. Yet when you persist in holding yourself back, nothing can move you forward.
The extremely good news is, you never have to continue holding yourself back. You can be entirely free of your most stubborn burden simply by choosing to be.
Your doubts are yours by choice, and you can choose to let them go. Your apathy, lack of ambition, and negativity are yours by choice, and you can be free of them all in an instant.
There are many difficult challenges to living a life of success and fulfillment. Yet once you get the positive power of your own authentic purpose on your side, you have what it takes to handle everything else.
Instead of being your own biggest obstacle, choose to be your own most effective advocate and facilitator of success. You have the power to choose in every moment, so choose again and again to live the richest, most meaningful life you can imagine.
— Ralph Marston