Fair play is primarily not blaming others for anything that is wrong with us. —Eric Hoffer
As adults, we accept responsibility for our feelings and our circumstances. We haven't chosen our own troubles, but we have the job of dealing with them. If a man falls and breaks a leg, he might say to someone, "It's your fault, and I'll make you pay for this!" But that won't fix his leg. The healing still has to come from within.
Our impulse to blame others is an attempt to escape our responsibilities. We become overcritical. We want someone else to take the rap for our pain and our misdeeds, but this only delays our wholeness as men and women. There is no point in blaming ourselves either. When we first confront our discomfort directly and accept responsibility for dealing with it, we feel an inner urge to escape again. If we stay with the discomfort a while, a new stage begins - the healing and acceptance stage. A feeling of wholeness comes, a feeling of being a real person, of having reached our full size.
May I not indulge in blame today - toward myself or anyone else. Instead, may I be a strong, responsible person.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
I never think of the future. It comes soon enough. --- Albert Einstein
None of us know anything for sure about the future. We don't know if we'll be sober tomorrow.
But we can be sure of this moment. We get sober by moments. Our sober moments then stretch into hours, day, and years
Our program tell us to live in the present moment. This is because we can control this moment
We can't control the past or the future. We need to have a sense of control in our life. In our illness, we were out of control. This was because we wouldn't live from moment to moment.
Each moment is filled with as much life as we can handle. Each moment is filled with enough to keep us alive, interested, and growing.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me find You in each moment.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll stop and focus on the present moment. I will work to see how much control I can have if I stay with the moment at hand.
The Shared Gift
Faith is more than our greatest gift; its sharing with others
is our greatest responsibility.
May we continually seek the wisdom and the willingness
by which we may well fulfill that immense trust
which the Giver of all perfect gifts has placed in our hands.
- As Bill Sees It, p. 13
Thought to Ponder . . .
God enters us through our wounds.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G I F T = Goodness Is Forever There.
Worth all the trouble
Life is a lot of trouble. And life is worth all the trouble.
The best things can often be the most difficult things. So instead of running or hiding from the difficulties, courageously work through them.
Life is filled with great and valuable opportunities. The most valuable of those opportunities are the ones that ask the most of you.
When the frustrations come, be thankful for the chance to learn from them. When the disappointments come, be grateful for the opportunity to reaffirm and recommit to what’s most important.
Life’s many troubles will come and go. As they do, the positive possibilities grow more numerous and magnificent.
Embrace each day along with whatever it brings. And use it to add more joy to life no matter what.
— Ralph Marston