Tuesday, July 17, 2012
When you feel rejected, start accepting yourself, and then go out and accept someone. —Sondra Ray
There was once a mother who felt rejected when her children grew up and needed to separate from her. She felt hurt when they pushed her away and no longer wanted all the love and caring that she wanted to give them. She thought, What's wrong with me?
Encouraged by her friends, she began to ask herself another question: What's right with me? The more answers she found to that question, the better she liked herself. The better she liked herself, the more she was able to see her children's need to separate from her as their own natural and healthy urge for independence, and not the result of her shortcomings.
Our good points may seem undesirable to others, but that's not our fault. Sometimes, too much of a good thing can be inappropriate, but that doesn't make it bad.
What's right with me today?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
We delude ourselves if we believe that our happiness and well-being will come when we reach a certain goal. Whatever happiness and well-being we obtain must come through the process of living in ordinary, everyday situations.
If we observe carefully, we'll find lots of happy people who are in situations or work that we might consider unpleasant. It is not the work or situation that creates happiness and fulfillment. What counts is the ATTITUDE toward it.
Those of us in 12 Step programs should have special insight into the issue of happiness. We tried to find it, here and now, in false ways. But it is available to us, here and now, in ordinary living.
Today's Action: I'll be happy today in knowing that I'm blessed with the ordinary tasks of life.
If you hear: “Don't stop until the miracle happens,”
and you are filled with as much contempt as I was,
remember how wrong I was proven to be. No miracle was awaiting me!
Or so I thought back then when I was so sure and impatient.
Much of what we're so sure of in early sobriety
is what’s most likely to get us, and keep us, drunk. . .
Unless we stay sober one day at a time,
we may never find out that miracles happen.
- The AA Grapevine, July 2012
Thought to Ponder . . .
Refresh your spirit with everyday miracles.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T H I N K = The Happiness I Never Knew.
Live and fulfill
There is so very much you can do. So go ahead and do it.
Life offers an endless variety of rich and immensely fulfilling experiences. So open yourself, and step forward to experience them.
You can make an enormous difference every day. You can really, truly matter, in beautiful and positive ways, so go ahead and give your best.
Remind yourself of how silly and self-defeating it is to worry and fret and second-guess yourself. You are here today, right now, to live and to fulfill, so let it be.
It is good to be uniquely you, and to feel great about who you are and what you’re doing. So do what you know is good and right and truly fulfilling.
Every yearning is a yearning to more richly live and to more completely fulfill your beautiful purpose. Give effort and commitment and life to those yearnings, today and every day, and let the goodness flow.
— Ralph Marston