Thursday, May 24, 2012
Life is cyclical, not static. Our relationships benefit when we allow them to follow their own natural cycles. - Melody Beattie
Letting the Cycles Flow
Like the tide ebbs and flows, so do the cycles in relationships. We have periods of closeness and periods of distance. We have times of coming together and times of separating to work on individual issues.
We have times of love and joy, and times of anger.
Sometimes, the dimensions of relationships change as we go through changes. Sometimes, life brings us new friends or a new loved one to teach us the next lesson.
That does not mean the old friend disappears forever. It means we have entered a new cycle.
We do not have to control the course of our relationships, whether these be friendships or love relationships. We do not have to satisfy our need to control by imposing a static form on relationships.
Let it flow. Be open to the cycles. Love will not disappear. The bond between friends will not sever. Things do not remain the same forever, especially when we are growing and changing at such a rapid pace.
Trust the flow. Take care of yourself, but be willing to let people go. Hanging on to them too tightly will make them disappear.
The old adage about love still holds true: If it's meant to be, it will be. And if you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, the love is yours.
Today, I accept the cyclical nature of life and relationships. I will strive to go with the flow. I will strive for harmony with my own needs and the needs of the other person.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
The way to love anything is to realize it might be lost. ---G.K. Chesterton
Every day we take so much for granted. But we can count certain blessings: a roof over our head, food, clothing, family, and friends, freedom, a Higher Power we trust. These things are special.
Thinking about them wakes up our happiness. Our recovery program shows us how happy. we just have to remember to do what it tells us!
Step Ten helps us wake up our happiness. Each evening, as we think about our day, we can give thanks for the things we love: our recovery, our health, and the special people in our lives. If we spend part of our day thinking about these important areas, we wont lose them.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me make the most of my blessings today.
Action for the Day: Today, I'll tell five people I love that I'm glad to have them in my life. And I'll tell each of them one reason why.
There are times when we have to tell somebody how we really are.
Step Five takes care of this better than anything else I know.
How important this action is to getting sober, and staying sober,
and growing into a cheerful and useful sobriety,
is attested by the position given it in the Big Book.
Step Five, you recall, leads off the chapter headed, "Into Action."
All the Steps before this are regarded as preparation.
But when you get to Step Five, brothers and sisters, you're in action.
You're "building an arch through which we shall walk free at last."
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol. 2], p. 153
Thought to Ponder . . .
Into action, out of self.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Altruistic Action.
The greatest success
You don’t have to be famous to be important. You don’t have to be a celebrity to be successful.
You don’t have to live in opulent luxury to be rich. You don’t have to be irresponsible to be free.
You don’t have to be outrageous to be creative. You don’t have to be abusive to be impressive.
You can be quietly humble and still be amazingly effective. You can be kind and considerate and still have great influence.
Just because people don’t fall at your feet and worship you, doesn’t mean you are a failure. Quiet success is just as sweet as loud, flamboyant success, and usually much more real.
Success is what you choose for it to be, not what everyone else says it must be. Live your life in each moment in a way that truly fulfills you and brings value to your world, for that is the greatest success.
— Ralph Marston