Wednesday, May 16, 2012
I stand before you as a tower of strength, the weight of the world on my shoulders. As you pass through my life, look, but not too close, for I fear I will expose the vulnerable me. --Deidra Sarault
Vulnerability is as much a part of being human as is strength. Our vulnerability prevents our strength from becoming hard, brittle, self-serving. Our soft edges invite others' openness and their expressions of love.
We learned long ago to be "strong." We were encouraged to need no help, to need nobody. Now, we struggle to ask for help. As we grow in understanding of our human needs, and as we become more aware of the spiritual help available, the difficulty of reaching out to others is eased.
No longer need we look to pills, booze, food, or lovers for strength. All the strength we'll ever need is as close as our thoughts. At this moment, we are a tower of strength, not one weighted with burdens.
Rather, our strength is a gift of our connection to a spiritual power that can free us from all the troubles we shoulder. Our vulnerable selves will open our souls to the flood of strength just waiting for our prayers.
I will be as strong as I need to be, when I tap the spiritual source that awaits my call. I will risk my vulnerable self today.
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey©
The time to relax is when you don't have time for it.---Sydney J. Harris
...I have learned of a concept called denial.
No, it is not a river in Egypt.
It is an obstacle that I must stay aware of in order to maintain sobriety. . .
When I share openly and honestly
about what is really going on with me and my life
I am denying only one thing. I am denying denial itself.
When I can be honest and accurate about myself with another person
I deprive my denial of the very oxygen it needs to survive. . .
That's how it works for me.
- The AA Grapevine, May 1996
Thought to Ponder . . .
When I choose the behavior, I choose the consequences.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
D E N I A L = Don't Even Notice It's A Lie.
Make reality your friend
Though limiting factors can be a burden, they can also give you a solid, predictable framework in which to operate. What might at first seem to be an obstacle could end up providing valuable support.
For example, the force of gravity makes it difficult to move a large, massive rock. Yet that same force will also ensure that the rock stays in place once you get it where you want it.
Playing by the rules and adhering to a strictly defined discipline makes achievement more difficult. Yet it also plays an essential role in making achievement possible.
No situation is inherently limiting. Because you have the ability to adjust and adapt and make positive use of whatever factors may be present.
A massive brick wall can stop you cold, or it can provide you with a solid foundation upon which to build. It all depends on what you choose to do with what you encounter.
Rather than judging something to be a limiting factor, do the work to make it an enabling factor. Make reality your friend by making positive use of it.
— Ralph Marston