Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Giving up is not giving in, nor is it failing. It is no longer needing to be right. —Anonymous
When someone tells us a riddle, we may give up if we don't know the answer. We give up because we are tired of trying to get it, or because we are eager to find out what it is.
Giving up in other situations, may be more difficult. We may need to give up eating something that isn't healthy for us. We may need to give up trying to win an argument. We may need to give up old clothes that we love which no longer fit us. When we don't want to give up, it may be because we have forgotten the knowledge, health, or peace of mind we gain by doing so.
In each case, giving up means growth and going on with our lives. Giving up may mean many different things in different situations, but it does not mean doing nothing. It means doing what seems right for us and giving up the expectation that what happens will be exactly what we want.
What can I gain by giving up something that is harmful today?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
Making big decisions is like crossing bridges. Sometimes, these decisions change our lives. We find that turning back will be very hard. This is why we have to be very careful when we decide to burn bridges. When we decide to make changes, we act carefully. We don't want to make decisions out of anger or envy. Instead , we can think about what we want and how our program can help us make wise decisions.
Most of us have been unwilling to admit we were real alcoholics/addicts.
No person likes to think he is bodily and mentally different from his fellows.
Therefore, it is not surprising that our drinking/drugging careers have been characterized
by countless vain attempts to prove we could drink like other people.
The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking/drugging
is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker/user.
The persistence of this illusion is astonishing.
Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30
Thought to Ponder . . .
When we try to control our drinking/drugging, we have already lost control.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
WISDOM = When Into Self, Discover Our Motives
What you’re able to do is not a function of what other people think of you or allow you to do. What you’re able to do depends on what you expect of yourself and on what you choose to do with your time.
If you allow others to define you, then you enable them to control you. Choose instead to take full responsibility for your own life, and to do whatever is necessary to bring real fulfillment.
The world will throw all sorts of assumptions your way about what is possible and what is not possible. Look beyond the presumptions and limitations that others imagine, and connect with your own highest vision of how life can be.
The fact is, you can achieve what you set your mind and your efforts to achieve, with honor, integrity and joy. Life is an open-ended experience, and the results you achieve come from what you expect to achieve and what you work to achieve.
Certainly, you can be fruitfully guided by the past experiences in your own life and in the lives of others. Yet nothing about what has already been has to stand in the way of the best you can now be.
Focus less on what others think of you, and more on bringing your own unique beauty more fully to life. Make the commitment to live each moment with richness and authentic purpose, and show all of life how very much goodness you’re able to give.
— Ralph Marston