Wednesday, March 28, 2012
There is nothing stronger in the world than gentleness. —Han Suyin
It may take a while to learn to be gentle with ourselves. We have long standing patterns of abusing and shaming ourselves. Maybe we became this way because we were victims. Now it's easier to attack ourselves for mistakes we've made than to be accountable and make amends. We think we deserve to be rejected if we let our friends know our deepest secrets. In the midst of stress we fly to self-doubt and self-abusing thoughts. We withdraw emotionally, we pout, we expect rejection rather than gentleness.
For today, let us pledge to be gentle with ourselves. Gentleness isn't dishonest; it isn't arrogant or self-centered. It is taking reality - with whatever pain that includes - and treating ourselves as worthwhile men and women. We will be stronger and less self-centered when we accept this gentleness. We will be as loyal to ourselves as we are to our best friends. Each day with this new attitude will build strength of character and wisdom.
Today, may I treat myself with gentleness and learn the strength it has to teach me.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men©
On bad days I come home and just stew. My sponsor has told me
all the things to do to stay sober at such times, but I keep forgetting a few.
Then I remembered a trick from my college days -- using a memory aid.
So CARDS has become my recipe for sobriety: Call your sponsor,
Ask for help from your Higher Power, Read the Big Book,
Do the Twelve Steps, Stay active in your group.
- Thank You For Sharing, p. 194
Thought to Ponder . . .
I hear and I forget; I see and I remember; I do and I understand.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
C A R D S =
Call your sponsor,
Ask for help from your Higher Power,
Read the Big Book,
Do the Twelve Steps,
Stay active in your group.
Take a step back
Step back from the loud and pressing concerns of the moment. Step back, get some perspective, and remind yourself of how good life can be.
Many of the things you see as problems would have been considered to be blessings by people in an earlier era. Think of how good you have it, and of how you can make good and fulfilling use of what you do have.
You are able to make a difference, and that ability can literally take you anywhere you wish to go. Though your efforts may be difficult and challenging, those efforts give you some extremely valuable options.
Don’t take those options for granted by letting them sit idle and unused. Instead, take them to heart and consider how you can make life richer and more beautiful by making use of what you have.
Take a step back, and look objectively at where you are. What you will see is the great and wonderful opportunity that is your life.
Now, while you have it, seize that opportunity. Life is always good, because you can always make it better.
— Ralph Marston