It takes practice to see what's right.
Many of us have lived around negativity for years. We've become skilled at labeling what's wrong with other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, our conduct, and ourselves.
We want to be realistic, and our goal is to identify and accept reality. However, this is often not our intent when we practice negativity. The purpose of negativity is usually annihilation.
Negative thinking empowers the problem. It takes us out of harmony. Negative energy sabotages and destroys. It has a powerful life of its own.
So does positive energy. Each day, we can ask what's right, what's good - about other people, our life, our work, our day, our relationships, our conduct, and ourselves.
Positive energy heals, conducts love, and transforms. Choose positive energy.
Today, Higher Power help me let go of negativity. Transform my beliefs and thinking, at the core, from negative to positive. Put me in harmony with the good.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Walk in Dry Places
Anger…. A dangerous weapon
One reason some of us have trouble overcoming anger is that we've used it too often as an offensive weapon. It can be employed as an excuse to leave the house, it can bring an argument to an explosive end, and it can make others fearful and defensive. In the past this brought results of a sort, and helped reinforce the idea that anger works.
The trouble with anger, though, is that it's destructive. Once angry, we hurt ourselves and we hurt others. Terrible things said in anger leave wounds that never heal, creating problems that lead to more anger.
There is virtually no justification for acting out in anger, under any and all circumstances. If we sense it coming on, we have the choice of taking charge of our feelings. If we're angry over another's behavior, we can remember that anger might be a way of reacting, but it's not necessary in our lives.
Action for the Day: I'll make it through this day without a trace of anger. I'll frequently remind myself that anger is destructive and that my real purpose is to build a better life.
Isolation sneaks up on us.
We can mask it with familiar props that are not in themselves bad.
We can isolate ourselves in an attempt to clean up our apartments
(and then not do the cleaning);
we can isolate ourselves in churches or in sleep; we can use family,
sweethearts, compulsive working, television. The list is long.
The nicest way to end it is the way you and I do: together.
Reach out -- people can't read your mind.
Say ouch! Someone hears. Always.
- The Best of the Grapevine [Vol .1], pp. 84-5
Thought to Ponder . . .
An alcoholic/addict is someone who wants to be held while isolating.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
Y A N A = You Are Not Alone.
Responsible and confident
Responsibility and confidence go hand in hand. Only when you are willing to be fully responsible for your life can you be truly confident in your efforts.
Without responsibility, you might be able to project some degree of self assurance through arrogance. Yet it will lack the power of true confidence.
When you’re unwilling to take full responsibility for your own life, think of the message that sends. In effect, you’re telling yourself you’re not good enough, and that’s devastating for your confidence.
You are indeed good enough, and capable of rock solid confidence. The way to connect with and strengthen that confidence is through responsibility.
Don’t blame your bad fortune on others, or expect others to supply you with good fortune. Enthusiastically embrace complete responsibility for the quality of your life.
Embrace responsibility and your confidence will soar. Embrace responsibility and confidently live life on your own very best terms.
— Ralph Marston