There was a time in my life when I felt so afraid of and overwhelmed by the very act of living that I actually wanted to make out a schedule for each day of my life for the next five years. I wanted to include all the chores I had to do, when I would do them, even when I would schedule relaxation. I wanted to get some order into what felt overwhelming. I wanted to feel like I was in control. —Anonymous
Controlling Versus Trust
Controlling is a direct response to our fear, panic, and sense of helplessness. It is a direct response to feeling overwhelmed, and to distrust.
We may not trust ourselves, our Higher Power, the Plan, the Universe, or the process of life. Instead of trusting, we revert to control.
We can approach this need to control by dealing with our fear. We deal with fear by trusting - ourselves, our Higher Power, the love and support of the Universe, the Plan, and this process we call life and recovery.
We can trust that when things don't work out the way we want, our Higher Power has something better planned.
We can trust ourselves to get where we need to go, say what we need to say, do what we need to do, know what we need to know, be who we need to be, and become all we can become, when we are intended to do that, when we are ready, and when the time is right.
We can trust our Higher Power and the Universe to give us all the direction we need.
We can trust ourselves to listen, and respond, accordingly.
We can trust that all we need on this journey shall come to us. We will not get all we need for the entire journey today. We shall receive today's supplies today, and tomorrow's supplies tomorrow. We were never intended to carry supplies for the entire journey. The burden would be too heavy, and the way was intended to be light.
Trust in yourself. We do not have to plan, control, and schedule all things. The schedule and plan have been written. All we need to do is show up.
The way will become clear and the supplies will be amply and clearly provided, one day at a time.
Trust, my friend, in today.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Walk In Dry Places
What is true sharing?
Though it comes without a price, the sharing we undertake in the AA program has value without limits. When we share our experience, strength, and hope with others, we become both teachers and friends.
Sometimes we are led to believe that we should share our material goods with others, but all we learn is that this often fails to help anyone. Such sharing is not wrong, but it can be misused and misdirected.
In the form of sharing we practice, there can be only gain for all involved in the exchange. Our sharing of personal experience may be just what another person needs at the time. What also matters is that we need it and can benefit from it.
True sharing of this kid is one of the great secrets of AA's success. If our program isn't working well, perhaps we should do more of this sharing.
Action for the Day: I'll seek to share my true feelings with others today, in the hope that this will help all of us.
An Open Door
Growth and understanding came slowly, but they came steadily.
And finally, I could feel gratitude for my sobriety -- for the saving grace of my Higher Power.
Now I feel totally free, because I know the truth about myself.
I learned about people in AA, and this brought to me an understanding of myself.
I now know that spiritual growth is a great, wide, beautiful thing
and that I have only stepped up to the open door.
- Came To Believe . . ., p. 94
Thought to Ponder . . .
Get it -- Give it -- Grow in it.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G R A C E = Gently Releasing All Conscious Expectations.
Don’t feel guilty about what you’ve failed to accomplish. Feel energized about what you now can achieve.
Stop feeling remorseful about the time you’ve wasted. Start feeling enthusiastic about the time that’s now available to you.
When the setbacks come, you won’t do yourself any favor by feeling sorry for yourself. What will help is to direct your feelings into being more determined than ever before.
There’s nothing to be gained by feeling envious of what others have accomplished. Choose instead to feel inspired by their examples.
It doesn’t help anyone for you to feel bad about those who are less fortunate than you. Instead, make meaningful use of your own good fortune so that it has a positive and powerful impact on many other lives.
For every reason to feel negative, there’s an even better reason to feel positive. And from those positive feelings come positive and valuable results.
— Ralph Marston