Daily Motivation 5-13-11

Friday, May 13, 2011

Today's Gift

Having boundaries doesn't complicate life; boundaries simplify life. --Beyond Codependency
There is a positive aspect to boundary setting. We learn to listen to ourselves and identify what hurt us and what we don't like. But we also learn to identify what feels good.
When we are willing to take some risks and begin actively doing so, we will enhance the quality of our life.
What do we like? What feels good? What brings us pleasure? Whose company do we enjoy? What helps us to feel good in the morning? What's a real treat in our life? What are the small, daily activities that make us feel nurtured and cared for?

We have deprived ourselves too long. There is no need to do that anymore, no need. If it feels good, and the consequences are self-loving and not self-defeating, do it!

Today, I will do for myself those little things that make life more pleasurable. I will not deny myself healthy treats.

You are reading from the book:

The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie

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Twenty-Four Hours A Day

Walk in Dry Places

Personal responsibility.

Who's to blame?

Unless we're unusual, we've probably accepted the widespread practice of blaming certain individuals and groups when trouble occurs. Most likely, we'll also have people whom we blame for our own difficulties: unloving parents, careless teachers, unfair bosses, and others on an endless list.

However accurate it may be, such blame-placing does nothing constructive. It really serves only to reinforce our bitterness and resentment, thus assuring that more of the same "injustices" will come to us.

The real truth is that we have no complete explanation for the world's individual and social wrongs. While certain individuals are admittedly guilty of wrongdoing, it often turns out that they've also been victims of cruelty or neglect. Our goal, as people committed to a spiritual way of life, is to reise above all blame placing while striving for improvement in our own treatment of others.

Action for the Day: Though I may read and hear much to the contrary, I'll resist the notion that certain people or groups must be held accountable for the world's problems. I'll focus my attention, this day, on improvement in my own life.

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One Day At A Time

ThinkI can't afford resentments against anyone,
because they are a build-up of another drunk. I must live and let live.
And 'think' -- that one important word means so much to me.
My life was always act and react. I never stopped to think.
I just didn't give a whoop about myself or anyone else.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 293
Thought to Ponder . . .The Seven T's -- Take Time To Think The Thing Through.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T H I N K = Thank Heavens I Now Know.

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Daily Motivation

Whatever results

 

To achieve, you must care enough to make the effort but not so much that you’re afraid to fail. The most valuable results are reached by focusing intensely on what you’re doing without attaching your sense of self worth to what you get from it.

Of course you would like to get the results you intended. But it’s not the end of the world if you don’t.

In fact, it is a powerful step in the right direction. No matter what results you get, you are still capable, you are more experienced than ever, and you are eminently worthy.

Imagine what you could do if you could do without worry. In fact, you can.

Think of how effective you could be if you didn’t have to obsess over how effective you were being. Those who accomplish much, do so by being unconcerned that they might accomplish little.

You are uniquely beautiful and worthy no matter what results you get. Keep that in your mind and in your attitude, and you’ll surely get truly great results.

— Ralph Marston