I have learned this: it is not what one does that is wrong, but what one becomes as a consequence of it. —Oscar Wilde
There are countless ways to take shortcuts in life or to grab for pleasures. We could cheat on our income taxes, excuse a food binge, or lie to a loved one about where we've been. We say, "It won't hurt anyone!" "I wouldn't do it if it weren't for the other guy." Or, "Everyone does it." But if we are to like and respect ourselves, we need to live by the rules we believe in. Whether we get caught or not isn't the point. We cannot hold values and then repeatedly justify breaking them.
What does it do to us if we constantly fudge on our values? It undermines our self-esteem and damages the faith we have in ourselves. We do not expect to be perfect, but we must be accountable. If we are honest with ourselves, we admit our wrongs and reestablish our self-respect.
Today, I will take care to make choices that match my values.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Going to Any Length
If you have decided you want what we have
and are willing to go to any length to get it --
then you are ready to take certain steps. At some of these we balked.
We thought we could find an easier, softer way. But we could not.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 58
Thought to Ponder . . .
The distance is nothing; it is only the first step toward it that is difficult.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H O W = Honesty, Open-mindedness, Willingness.