It is healthier to see the good points of others than to analyze our own bad ones. —Francoise Sagan
Looking for the good in others is good for one's soul. Self-respect, self-love grows each time we openly acknowledge another's admirable qualities. Comparisons we make of ourselves with others, focusing on how we fail to measure up (another woman is prettier, thinner, more intelligent, has a better sense of humor, attracts people, and on and on) is a common experience. And we come away from the comparison feeling generally inadequate and unloving toward the other woman.
It is a spiritual truth that our love for and praise of others will improve our own self-image. It will rub off on us, so-to-speak. An improved self-image diminishes whatever bad qualities one has imagined.
Praise softens. Criticism hardens. We can become all that we want to become. We can draw the love of others to us as we more willingly offer love and praise. We have an opportunity to help one another as we help ourselves grow in the self-love that is so necessary to the successful living of each day.
I will see the good points in others today. And I will give praise.
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey ©
Ousting the Green Demon___Victory over Jealousy.
We hear of successful people who drop their old friends after moving up the ladder. Maybe, however, it wasn't their choice. Maybe they were driven to do so because their friend's jealousy made the friendship unworkable. We have little trouble accepting a stranger's good fortune; it's a different feeling, however, when friends and co-workers move ahead of us.
If the green demon of jealousy strikes during the day, we can come to terms with it in several ways. First, accept no guilt that it happens, because jealousy is part of the human condition. Next, depersonalize it by remembering that good fortune comes to all people in various ways. Then check your own gratitude level to make sure that it hasn't been sinking. This serves as a reminder that there's no shortage of the things that really make for happiness and personal well-being in life.
A friend of mine told me about going to see the Statue of Liberty
on a field trip with his grammar school class.
He said that as they walked up the long spiral staircase,
they all held hands in a line.
He couldn't see the person at the beginning or the end of the line, but he felt safe.
He knew he was connected to the rest of his schoolmates.
That's the way it is in AA. We can't see the people at the beginning of the line
or the end of the line.
But we know they're there -- and we know we're safe.
- Thanks For Sharing, p. 194
Thought to Ponder . . .
Take the first step in faith.
You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Adventurers Anonymous.