Wants and Needs
Part of taking responsibility for us means taking responsibility for what we want and need, and knowing that's okay to do.
Learning to tune in to us, learning to listen to ourselves, is an art. It takes practice. We can use our ability to guess what others want and need and apply that skill to ourselves.
What does it sound like we might want and need? What would we guess would help us feel better? What are our feelings telling us? Our body? Our mind? Our intuition?
If we ask, then listen closely; we'll hear the answer.
We are wiser than we think, and we can be trusted.
What we want and need counts. It's important, and it's valid. It's okay to learn to participate in meeting our own needs.
We can learn to identify what we want and need and be patient with ourselves while we're learning.
Today, I will pay attention to what I want and need. I will not discount myself.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
No Humiliation in Humility____ Self-understanding.
With few exceptions, every alcoholic eventually meets humiliation and defeat. This is especially painful in a world that places high value on winning and on having the approval and admiration of others. We feel diminished by these defeats. Nobody likes to be humbled, to be made to appear less than other people.
I can watch my serenity level rise when I discard my expectations.
I have to discard my "rights" as well as my expectations,
by asking myself, How important is it, really? . . .
I must keep my magic magnifying mind on my acceptance
and off my expectations, for my serenity is directly proportional
to my level of acceptance. When I remember this,
I can see I've never had it so good. Thank God for AA!
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 420
Thought to Ponder . . .
Expectations are premeditated resentments.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
G R A C E = Gently Releasing All Conscious Expectations.