My father didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.
—Clarence Budinton Kelland
We learn much of what we need to know about being men from models we have in other men. Some of us have fond memories of being next to our fathers and imitating their ways. Many of us also have the feeling of a gap in our models. Perhaps our fathers weren't around enough, or we may have rejected some of their habits and values, creating an uncertainty about masculine roles. We may feel unsure of ourselves, or we may berate ourselves for what we don't know.
It is well to remember how much we have already learned in our adult years. It is never too late. No man ever reaches adulthood having learned everything from his father that he will need to know about masculinity. We can look around us for more models in the men we know. For a man to be our model, we first choose someone we admire and then get to know him well. In this way, we carry on the human tradition of one man learning from another.
I am continuing to grow, and I can learn from the men I know now.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men ©
The confession of evil works is the first beginning of good works.---St. Augustine.
We started recovering the minute we admitted we were powerless over our illness. We crossed over from dishonesty to honesty. Often, we don't see what power honestly has. Maybe we still aren't sure that being honest is best for us. It is! This is why the authors of the Big Book ask us to be totally honest from the start.
We know that AA must continue to live,
or else many of our fellow alcoholics throughout the world
will surely resume the hopeless journey into oblivion. That must never be.
. . . we have thus far avoided serious controversies.
Save minor and healthy growing pains, we are at peace among ourselves.
And because we have thus far adhered to our sole aim,
the whole world regards us favorably.
May God grant us the wisdom and fortitude ever to sustain
an unbreakable unity. - Bill W., September 1948
- The Language of the Heart, p. 90
Thought to Ponder . . .
There is no strength without unity.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
U S = United Spirits.
Do you feel sadness and disappointment for what you have failed to do? Then you have some powerful energy for moving yourself forward.