"We focus on the negatives, losing ourselves in the ‘problem.’ We point to our unhappy circumstances to rationalize our negative feelings. This is the easy way out. It takes, after all, very little effort to feel victimized." -- Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
Nothing and no one can make us a victim. We do it to ourselves when we allow external circumstances to hold power over us.
Although we have no control over what happens to us, we ALWAYS have a choice in how we respond. We hold our power when we accept complete responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and actions.
"A man may fall many times but he won't be a failure until he says someone pushed him." -- Elmer G. Letterman
"The most potent weapon in the hands of the oppressor is the mind of the oppressed." -- Steven Biko
Know Yourself – An adventure in self discovery! Become aware of your subconscious limitations, your character strengths, weaknesses and potentials, your life challenges, gifts, talents, and your deepest desires and aspirations.
Walk in Dry Places
Facing a vexing or even threatening problem, we sometimes feel a sense of hopefulness or futility. "How will I ever get through this situation?" we think. The truth is we have probably worked our way through many situations much like today's problem. It is a wonder, for example, that most of us survived the crises brought on by our compulsion. We will certainly be able to work through or around today's problem.
The Twelve step program is a plan for mastering the problems of life. As we apply its principles in all of our affairs, we find improvements beginning to appear. We also can find the confidence and fortitude that we've always needed.
Action for the Day: Knowing that my Higher power is in the midst of the situation, I'll face today's problem with the assurance of an outcome that will be for my highest good.
Either we were shy, and dared not draw near others,
or we were apt to be noisy good fellows craving attention and companionship,
but never getting it . . . There was always that mysterious barrier . . .
It was if we were actors on a stage, suddenly realizing that we did not know
a single line of our parts. That's one reason we loved alcohol too well. . .
But even Bacchus boomeranged on us;
we were finally struck down and left in terrified loneliness.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 57
Thought to Ponder . . .
Drugs and alcohol gave me wings to fly, then it took away the sky.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
Y A N A = You Are Not Alone.
When you are prepared to find fault, you will. When you are prepared to find goodness and value, you will.