Now, as adults, we may see asking for help as a sign of weakness and feel shame around it. “If I ask for help they will figure out I’m a fake”, “I’m not the right person for the job”, “I’m losing control”, “I screwed up again”, etc. In fact, the total opposite is true; asking for help will show courage, willingness, humility and strength. Believe me, I’ll be the first to tell you that asking for help is not as easy as one may think. I still struggle around asking for help at times. I’m sure my supervisor will attest to that. Actually she has been a great source of encouragement and support for me in being ok with myself to ask for help. Thank you Judy.
When we are deep in our addiction, or way overwhelmed with the drama we create because we didn’t ask for help, we still won’t ask for help. We have to be neck deep in shit before we even think of asking for help. This has to change. If you want to continue to grow within, you must understand that you can’t do it alone.
Give yourself permission to ask for help.
Today, challenge yourself to overcome your feelings of vulnerability and ask someone for help. If you’re especially uncomfortable with this idea, start small. Maybe ask someone for feedback on a project. Or borrow a book from a friend. There are lots of ways to maintain some control while still getting support from others.
Ask for what you need knowing you may not get it.
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“Every time you don't follow your inner guidance, you feel a loss of energy, loss of power, a sense of spiritual deadness." -- Shakti Gawain