Tuesday, December 8, 2015
If you don't go after what you want, you'll never have it. If you don't ask, the answer is always no. If you don't step forward, you're always in the same place. ― Nora Roberts
Valuing Our Needs
When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves. We deserve better.
Maybe others taught us it wasn't polite or appropriate to speak up for ourselves. The truth is, if we don't, our unmet wants and needs may ultimately come back to haunt our relationships. We may end up feeling angry or resentful, or we may begin to punish someone else for not guessing what we need. We may end the relationship because it doesn't meet our needs.
Intimacy and closeness are only possible in a relationship when both people can say what they want and need. Sustained intimacy demands this.
Sometimes, we may even have to demand what we want. That's called setting a boundary. We do this not to control another person, but to gain control of our life.
Our attitude toward our needs is important too. We must value them and take them seriously if we expect others to take us seriously. When we begin to place value and importance on our needs we'll see a remarkable change. Our wants and needs will begin to get met.
Today, I will respect the wants and needs of others and myself. I will tell others, my Higher Power, and myself what I want and need. I will listen to what they want and need too.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
If you must love your neighbor as yourself, it is at least as fair to love yourself as your neighbor. --Nicholas De Chamfort
We sometimes find it difficult to accept a compliment. We may feel we don't deserve such attention, and point out reasons why the compliment is untrue. When we act this way, we show a lack of love for ourselves.
Our Higher Power teaches us to love our neighbors as ourselves. Yet, before we can love anyone, we must believe we are worthy of the same love. No creature is undeserving of love, Our Higher Power reminds us of that. We can stop hiding behind feelings of unworthiness. There's nothing stopping us but ourselves. Sometimes it takes courage to say thank you when we get a compliment. Let's exercise that courage, and each time we do, we'll find our self-love growing.
Action for the Day: When I thank people today, I will have the courage to smile, too.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support Forums
Daily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
One Day At A Time
Pass It On
". . . I'll never forget the first time I met Bill Wilson. I was a couple of months sober,
and so excited, so thrilled to actually meet the co-founder that I gushed all over him with what my sobriety meant to me and my un-dying gratitude for his starting AA.
When I ran down, he took my hand in his and said simply, 'Pass it on.' "
- 'Pass It On", Foreword
Thought to Ponder . . .
A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
H E L P = Hope, Encouragement, Love, Patience.
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
It is yours
by Ralph Marston
Go ahead and think of the most wonderful thing you can visualize, the most fulfilling achievement you can imagine. Whatever it is, you can begin to truly enjoy and benefit from it this very moment, or any time you are ready to do so.
Because no matter what it is, its real value will come from the effort and commitment you put into achieving it. And no matter how ambitious it may be, or how distant its accomplishment may seem, you can begin to put effort into it right now.
What is it you truly desire? The instant you begin working your way there, the best of your desire, the true value of it, the authentic experience of it, begins to be yours. The real value of any achievement is not in the attainment, but in the attaining. Because whatever you do to arrive at that achievement, is what creates the value it holds for you.
Whatever you sincerely desire begins to be yours the moment you begin to reach for it. The value starts to build and accumulate as soon as you make the commitment and begin the process to get it done.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/