Friday, December 25, 2015
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. Wishing you happiness. --Helen Keller
Sometimes, the holidays are filled with the joy we associate with that time of year. The season flows. Magic is in the air.
Sometimes, the holidays can be difficult and lonely.
Here are some ideas I've learned through personal experience, and practice, to help us get through difficult holidays:
Deal with feelings, but try not to dwell unduly on them. Put the holidays in perspective: A holiday is one day out of 365. We can get through any 24-hour period.
Get through the day, but be aware that there may be a post-holiday backlash. Sometimes, if we use our survival behaviors to get through the day, the feelings will catch up to us the next day. Deal with them too. Get back on track as quickly as possible.
Find and cherish the love that's available, even if it's not exactly what we want. Is there someone we can give love to and receive love from? Close friends? Is there a family who would enjoy sharing their holiday with us? Don't be a martyr - go. There may be those who would appreciate our offer to share our day with them.
We are not in the minority if we find ourselves experiencing a less than ideal holiday. How easy, but untrue, to tell ourselves the rest of the world is experiencing the perfect holiday, and we're alone in conflict.
We can create our own holiday agenda. Buy yourself a present. Find someone to whom you can give. Unleash your loving, nurturing self and give in to the holiday spirit.
Maybe past holidays haven't been terrific. Maybe this year wasn't terrific. But next year can be better, and the next a little better. Work toward a better life - one that meets your needs. Before long, you'll have it.
Higher Power, help me enjoy and cherish this holiday. If my situation is less than ideal, help me take what's good and let go of the rest.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
From: Hazelden Betty Ford Foundation - Thought for the Day http://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/recovery/thought-for-the-day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Not that we're getting well. We feel the need for love more than ever. We tried to avoid love by using chemicals to feel good. But it didn't work. Addiction cut us off even more from people. How do we fill our needs for love? We can think about this fact: People give us love all the time. Only we just haven't seen it. Every time someone comes to a meeting to get well with us, that is love. Love isn't all-or-nothing.
Little gems of love are all over. Watch them. Enjoy them. Give them to others.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, love comes from You. Help me see it, and give it.
Action for the Day: I'll look three persons in the eye today and send them love in my smile.
From: Bluidkiti's Alcohol and Drug Addictions Recovery Help/Support ForumsDaily Recovery Readings - http://www.bluidkiti.com/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=2
One Day At A Time
If a strong inner core of peace, patience, and contentment
looks at all desirable to you, it can be had.
Remind yourself once in a while
that maybe "Easy Does It" is this day's ideal speed.
The change can start right now, remember?
- Living Sober, p. 46
Thought to Ponder . . .
Happiness and peace of mind are always here,
open and free to anyone.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
P A U S E = Patience And Understandiing Succeed Every time.
From: AA Thought for the Day (courtesy AA-Alive.net)
Excerpt of The Daily Motivator
by Ralph Marston
To live at your highest level is to give of yourself. To live fully is to make a difference in the lives of others.
Look away from your problems, complaints, and dissatisfactions. Look toward ways you can be of service.
Life at its richest is life at its most helpful. There is always much you can do.
Seek only to take, and you will have nothing of value. Seek to give of yourself, and you can have everything that matters.
The joy of Christmas is the joy of a gift given in grace and pure love. Such joy has no logical reason, yet it fills countless lives.
Let your life be enriched by the joy of giving, today and every day. Give, and discover, in giving of yourself, all that you do best.
From The Daily Motivator website at http://greatday.com/