Wednesday, December 19, 2012
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give. --Winston Churchill
As we grow spiritually, we naturally become more generous. It's a quality of a well-developed person. Rather than being anxious over whether we will have enough - and rather than hungrily seeking more and more - we become more openhearted. We feel more abundant within ourselves and find that our spirit of generosity even adds to our own abundant feelings. Where we see a need, we help out.
A generous person doesn't need to shower others with material gifts. The most precious gifts are things such as paying attention to others, respecting them for who they are, and giving our time. Often a material gift is a symbol of the good feelings in a relationship. In our generosity, we also learn to receive others' gifts to us with humility and respect.
Today I take pleasure in my spirit of generosity.
From the book Wisdom to Know by Anonymous
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Walk In Dry Places
The Fear Of Loneliness
The fear of being alone brings strange results. It may cause us to cling to arrangements and relationships that are unsatisfactory or destructive. Some of us become enablers for loved ones who are still drinking and drugging; quite often this can involve putting up with abuse we shouldn't have to endure.
We endure such relationships because we fear we'll be alone and defenseless without them. We may even put up with friends who are manipulative or treacherous because we can't visualize having happier, healthier friendships.
When we recognize that we are holding on to unsatisfactory relationships for such reasons, we need to apply the program more diligently in our own lives. Usually, we need more self-esteem--a belief that we deserve satisfactory relationships. We do not have to be alone, but neither do we have to endure what amounts to abuse and rejection.
Action for the Day: Whether I'm with people or alone today, I'll know that all of my relationships should be satisfactory for everybody involved. I'll let my Higher Power guide me to the relationships that are right for me.
As I thus get down to my right size and stature,
my self-concern and importance become amusing.
The faith grows that I do have a place on this Highway to Humility;
that I can advance on it with deepening peace and confidence.
- The Language of the Heart, p. 259
Thought to Ponder . . .
Learning is the very essence of humility; the two walk hand in hand.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
O D A A T = One Day At A Time.
Love your way forward
Hurting someone else will never ease your own pain. Feeling sorry for yourself and sabotaging your own life won’t make anything better.
If you’re disappointed in yourself, or frustrated with others, the answer is not to find someone to take it out on. Retribution, whether against yourself or others or both, brings nothing of value into your life.
The way beyond the pain is not with sarcasm, intimidation, revenge or violence. The only real way beyond the pain is with love.
Forgive others, forgive yourself, forgive the past, and love your way forward. Love is never easy, yet it is easily the most powerful and positively enduring choice.
If you’re feeling pain, don’t make the choices that will make even more pain. Make the choice that will enable you and your world to move forward toward a more fulfilling life.
There is always something good you can do. Fill your heart with genuine love, and act in everyone’s best interest.
— Ralph Marston