Tuesday, October 9, 2012
Nothing worse could happen to one than to be completely understood.—Carl Jung
We so often long to be understood. We imagine it would cure our loneliness and empty feelings. We think of it as a kind of intimacy. Yet, we may be longing for a false goal. We are each a unique person on an incomplete journey. We don't yet fully understand ourselves. There is still much mystery beneath the surface of our being. If our partners or friends completely understood us, where would we go from there? We would no longer belong to ourselves.
Perhaps we are completely understood by our Higher Power but not by another person. It is a fact of life that we continue to grow and to reveal deeper layers of ourselves. We have relationships in which we can share the mysteries as they unfold. We can talk and be understood. In communication we find our closeness and intimacy.
Today, I will remember that at the deepest level no one can fully understand me. I will communicate with others to deal with my loneliness.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men©
How much should we trust other people? This is an important question, because many of us have erred in both directions: we've trusted people too much or not enough.
It is only where "boy meets girl on AA campus," and love follows at first sight,
that difficulties may develop.
The prospective partners need to be solid AA's and long enough acquainted
to know that their compatibility at spiritual, mental, and emotional levels
is a fact and not wishful thinking.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 119
Thought to Ponder . . .
Don't believe everything you think.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
T R U S T = Try Relying Upon Steps and Traditions.
Go ahead and be
When you fear failure you also fear success. To the degree that you fear, you do not function.
Go ahead, get beyond the fear, and be. It’s not really that difficult.
Go ahead and be. It’s natural and honest and true.
There is no pain in being. The pain comes from holding yourself back, and from fighting against what was or what might be.
Stop fighting, and live the beauty and possibility of what is. Be here, now, and live each experience as it comes.
Let go of the fear, let go of the doubt, and live the moment. Instead of striving to get it this way or that, allow yourself to sincerely be.
— Ralph Marston