Learn what and who you are and be such.—Pindar
The most precious gift we can give those closest to us is honesty. Yet we often hide our true selves from friends, fearing we won't be accepted or loved if we let them see the real us. Often, we show parts of ourselves that hide who we really are. We have often heard ourselves or others say, "My parents would just die if . . . ," or, "don't argue in front of the children."
If we hide too much behind false images, we run the risk of losing track of what is real and what is false. We become actors instead of real people, trying to please our parents, our family, our partenrs, our children, or our friends.
When we conquer our fear of letting others in, we are able to see ourselves honestly. When we discover that others accept us as we are, we can accept and love ourselves. To know oneself is to know a person of value.
What part of me have I been hiding?
From Today's Gift: Daily Meditations for Families ©
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Keep It Simple
Many people are living in an emotional jail without recognizing it. --Virginia Satir
Each of us is blessed with an internal guide, a source able to direct our actions if we
but acknowledge it. Never are we in doubt for long about what path to take. The
courage to take it might not be immediately forthcoming; however, it, too, is one
of the gifts with which we've been blessed. Courage is ours for the asking. Right
direction is ours for the taking.
Trusting our inner selves takes practice, followed by attention to the results of our risks.
Before recovery, many of us passively waited for others to orchestrate our behavior,
our feelings, and our attitudes. Stepping forward as the leading lady, with our own script
in hand is quite a change, but one we are being coached, daily, to make.
The Steps help us to know who we are. More importantly, they help us become the person
we long to be. But most important, they offer us the spiritual strength to risk listening to
the message within and the strength to go forth as directed.
Action for the Day: Right results, again and again, are elicited by right action. And my knowledge of the right action is always, and forever, as close as myself.
The decision as to whether I lead a life of repeated wrong steps
and steady declination of reputation and character,
or a life whereby I gain respect from others
and consequently regain my own self-respect,
boils down to the one choice: whether or not I take that first drink.
- Thank You For Sharing, p. 63
Thought to Ponder . . .
It is the highest form of self-respect to admit mistakes
and to make amends for them.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
S W A T = Surrender, Willingness, Action, Trust.
When you don’t feel like making the effort, that’s when making the effort will make the biggest difference for you. Instead of giving in to negative momentum, interrupt it.
The best way to feel like doing it, is to do it. Step beyond your negative feelings and reward yourself with some positive action.
Feeling sorry for yourself will just give you more reasons to feel sorry for yourself. Ignore the temptation for self pity and embrace the opportunities for immediate self improvement.
Your attitude is not somebody else’s fault. Your attitude is yours to choose, so choose an attitude that will empower and propel you.
The way to feel better is to do better. The way to do better is with positive, effective action.
Pay attention to your feelings, but don’t use them as excuses. Be effective, get it done, and see how great you feel.
— Ralph Marston