Thursday, May 17, 2012
The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect and beginning the work of becoming yourself. --Anna Quindlen
Letting Go of Old Beliefs - Try harder. Do better. Be perfect.
These messages are tricks that people have played on us. No matter how hard we try, we think we have to do better. Perfection always eludes us and keeps us unhappy with the good we've done.
Messages of perfectionism are tricks because we can never achieve their goal. We cannot feel good about ourselves or what we have done while these messages are driving us. We will never be good enough until we change the messages and tell ourselves we are good enough now.
We can start approving of and accepting ourselves. Who we are is good enough. Our best yesterday was good enough; our best today is plenty good too.
We can be who we are, and do it the way we do it - today. That is the essence of avoiding perfection.
Higher Power, help me let go of the messages that drive me into the crazies. I will give myself permission to be who I am and let that be good enough.
From the book The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie
Twenty-Four Hours a Day
Walk in Dry Places
Imagination is undeniably a human faculty that accounts for much progress. Compulsive people, however, can use imagination in a most destructive way.
One destructive practice is that of rehearsing i our minds the outcome of some treat or problem, usually expecting the worst. While we should not avoid facing real problems, it's wrong to assume that the worst will always happen. This tendency to anticipate the worst possible outcome can actually produce the very outcome we'd like to avoid, thus making it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
We can deal with such pessimistic thinking by reminding ourselves that our Higher Power is in charge and will bring our good to pass in just the right way.If we're going to rehearse anything, let it be an outcome that includes the best for everybody, including ourselves.
Action for the Day: I'll expect the best today, knowing that all outcomes and results are in my Higher Power's hands.
A Great Fact
The great fact is just this, and nothing less:
That we have had deep and effective spiritual experiences
which have revolutionized our whole attitude toward life,
toward our fellows and toward Higher Power's universe.
The central fact of our lives today is the absolute certainty that our Creator
has entered into our hearts and lives in a way which is indeed miraculous.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 25
Thought to Ponder . . .
A spiritual awakening is our greatest gift.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
K I S S = Keeping It Simple, Spiritually.
The gift of today
You have a wonderful, beautiful, valuable gift with which you can literally transform your life. That gift is this day you’re now living.
This very day is overflowing with rich and meaningful possibilities. The value of this day is here and now, right in front of you.
Life’s great abundance is here on this day for you to put to good use. Today you can choose, you can learn, you can act, and you can make real progress.
Today has limitless potential. Yet for that potential to be transformed into value, you must make use of the opportunity of today while it is here.
Today is much too valuable to waste. Its magnificent possibilities are already here, so step quickly forward and make the most of them.
Today is a priceless gift that’s yours to live right now. Joyously fill it with your own unique flavor of life and achievement.
— Ralph Marston