Asking for What We Need Knowing You May Not Get It
Decide what it is you want and need, and then go to the person you need it from and ask for it.
Sometimes, it takes hard work and much energy to get what we want and need. We have to go through the pains of identifying what we want, then struggle to believe that we deserve it. Then, we may have to experience the disappointment of asking someone, having the person refuse us, and figuring out what to do next.
Sometimes in life, getting what we want and need is not so difficult. Sometimes, all we need to do is ask.
We can go to another person, or our Higher Power, and ask for what we need.
But because of how difficult it can be, at times, to get what we want and need, we may get trapped in the mind set of believing it will always be that difficult. Sometimes, not wanting to go through the hassle, dreading the struggle, or out of fear, we may make getting what we want and need much more difficult than it needs to be.
We may get angry before we ask, deciding that we'll never get what we want, or anticipating the "fight" we'll have to endure. By the time we talk to someone about what we want, we may be so angry that we're demanding, not asking; thus our anger triggers a power play that didn't exist except in our mind.
Or we may get so worked up that we don't ask--or we waste far more energy than necessary fighting with ourselves, only to find out that the other person, or our Higher Power, is happy to give us what we want.
Sometimes, we have to fight and work and wait for what we want and need. Sometimes, we can get it just by asking or stating that this is what we want. Ask. If the answer is no, or not what we want, then we can decide what to do next.
Today, I will not set up a difficult situation that doesn't exist with other people, or my Higher Power, about getting what I want and need. If there is something I need from someone, I will ask first, before I struggle.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
If there is no wind, row.---Latin proverb
At times, staying sober will be easy; at other times, it will be hard. But we must do what is needed to stay sober. Having a hard week? Go to extra meetings. Feeling alone? Call a friend and ask if you can get together. Feel like drinking? Go to a safe place until the urge passes.
We have no choice. We must row when there's no wind. If not, we'll fall back into our addiction.
If we work hard, we'll stay sober. Plus we'll grow as spiritual people. Hard times test us and make better people. But this will only happen if we keep our Higher Power and our program close to our heart.
It is the first drink which triggers, immediately or some time later,
the compulsion to drink more and more until we are in trouble again.
Many of us have come to believe
that our alcoholism is an addiction to the drug alcohol;
like addicts of any sort who want to maintain recovery,
we have to keep away from the first dose of the drug we have become addicted to.
- Living Sober, p. 5
Thought to Ponder . . .
If I don't drink today, I have the hope of a tomorrow.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Absolute Abstinence.
Make yourself useful
If you want to feel more positive, more empowered, more confident and encouraged, be useful. Making a difference for others makes a big difference for you.
What’s a powerful way to maintain an authentic positive outlook? It’s by getting busy and making a positive difference in life.
When you feel useful, everything feels better. When your awareness is wrapped around making a difference, there’s no room for frustration, anxiety or resentment.
Being genuinely useful brings out the best in you. Making a positive contribution gives you a more positive perspective.
Many of your most powerful desires stem from a deep, underlying desire to know that your life matters. Being truly useful is a great way to satisfy that fundamental desire.
Make yourself useful. And make your world a more fulfilling place.
— Ralph Marston