Owning your power means speaking your truth, honoring your sensitivity, and believing in yourself. Your life experience, education, personal relationships, and curiosity make you wise. Always believe in yourself and protect your personal power. By Shann Vander Leek
Don't you see? We do not have to be so victimized by life, by people, by situations, by work, by our friends, by our love relationships, by our family, by our feelings, our thoughts, our circumstances, and ourselves.
We are not victims. We do not have to be victims. That is the whole point!
Yes, admitting and accepting powerlessness is important. But that is the first step, an introduction to this business of recovery. Later, comes owning our power. Changing what we can. This is as important as admitting and accepting powerlessness. And there is so much we can change.
We can own our power, wherever we are, wherever we go, whomever we are with. We do not have to stand there with our hands tied, groveling helplessly, submitting to whatever comes along. There are things we can do. We can speak up. Solve the problem. Use the problem to motivate ourselves to do something good for ourselves.
We can make ourselves feel good. We can walk away. We can come back on our terms. We can stand up for ourselves. We can refuse to let others control and manipulate us.
We can do what we need to do to take care of our selves. That is the beauty, the reward, the crown of victory we are given in this process called recovery. It is what it is all about!
If we can't do anything about the circumstance, we can change our attitude. We can do the work within: courageously face our issues so we are not victimized. We have been given a miraculous key to life.
We are victims no more unless we want to be.
Freedom and joy are ours for the taking, for the feeling, for the hard work we have done.
Today, I will remind myself as often as necessary that I am not a victim, and I do not need to be victimized by whatever comes my way. I will work hard to remove myself as a victim, whether that means setting and enforcing a boundary, walking away, dealing with my feelings, or giving myself what I need. Higher Power, help me let go of my need to feel victimized.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©
If the spirit within us withers (dies), so to will all the world we build around us.---Theodore Roszab
This is what happened during our illness---our spirits were dying. Our relationships were dying. this is because addiction is death. And recovery is life! The Steps breathe like into us. Our groups breathe life into us. We start to heal because we once again feel hope. We're less afraid of what tomorrow may bring. As our hope grows, others feel it too.
We find that our old attitudes toward our instincts
need to undergo drastic revisions. . . We have learned
that the satisfaction of instincts cannot be the sole end and aim of our lives.
If we place instincts first, we have got the cart before the horse;
we shall be pulled backward into disillusionment.
- Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, p. 114
Thought to Ponder . . .
Once we understand ourselves, the rest of living falls in line.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A A = Altered Attitudes.
Instead of constantly seeking acceptance from others, give acceptance to yourself. Accept who you are, wholly and without reservation.
Accept your own brilliant, unique value. Then add immensely to that value by graciously and gratefully accepting the special value of the other people in your life.
Each person is delightfully different, and so are you. Accept and embrace that diversity.
You are inherently worthy, whether anyone explicitly tells you that or not. Give acceptance, to yourself and others, and you will have no need to seek it.
Give acceptance, and you will have no worries about not getting it. Do what you do, not because of how it will appear, but for the real difference it will make.
Accept the goodness that you know is in your authentic nature. Accept yourself, and all that is, and be free to live the abundance without hesitation.
— Ralph Marston