A person who is looking for something doesn't travel very fast. —E. B. White
What do men really want? What are we seeking? Many of us have felt driven and still feel restless or compulsive at times. We frantically followed our impulses to self-destructive extremes. Even those painful actions of our past were motivated, at the bottom line, by a spiritual search. What did we really seek in the bottle, or in the passionate bed, or in our work? Slowing down enough every day to let ourselves know what we are looking for gives us a much better chance of finding it.
Today we can slow down by taking twenty minutes for solitude and quiet, for meditation or prayer. We can call a friend simply for a moment of contact. We might read something to give ourselves some ideas to ponder, or we can listen to music, which will transport us to another world. Perhaps we can simply walk more slowly from our cars or the bus stop to our homes. Often it is not the events in our lives that bring change but the space between events.
Today, I will try to remember that slowing down may help me find what I am seeking.
From Touchstones: A Book of Daily Meditations for Men©
It is enough that I am of value to somebody today.---Hugh Prather
Even in recovery, we addicts often feel we are not enough. Maybe it's leftover shame from our using days. But we are enough. We are of great value. We all need each other to stay sober. Each of us needs other recovering people to help us remember the hell of addiction. We can forget how bad it was, but telling our stories makes us remember. When you feel you don't want to stay sober for yourself, then stay sober for your brothers and sisters in the program. They need you. You're their recovery, as they're yours. There may be days you don't feel glad to be sober. But your friends in this fellowship are glad you're sober. They thank-you for your sobriety.
Strange as may seem to those who do not understand --
once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed,
who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them,
suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol or drugs,
the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.
- Alcoholics Anonymous, p. xxix
Learn to change, change to learn.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
A B C = Acceptance, Belief, Change.
How you see yourself
The more time you spend feeling sorry for yourself, the more things you’ll have to be sorry about. If you insist on seeing yourself as a victim, you’ll end up experiencing your life as a victim.
It doesn’t have to be that way. Because you can choose right now, and every day, to see yourself in a positive, empowering light.
The way you see yourself is up to you. It doesn’t have anything to do with the circumstances you happen to be facing.
See yourself as the unique, beautiful, creative and effective person you know you are. See yourself as a bundle of positive, inspiring and meaningful possibilities that are well on their way to being fulfilled.
See that you are able to successfully handle whatever life sends your way. See that you are able to thrive and grow and make positive meaning out of the world in which you live.
See yourself as constantly moving forward through it all, with love and joy and purpose. And what you see, you will be.
— Ralph Marston