There are as many ways to live and grow as there are people. Our own ways are the only ways that should matter to us. —Evelyn Mandel
Wanting to control other people, to make them live as we'd have them live, makes the attainment of serenity impossible. And serenity is the goal we are seeking in this recovery program, in this life.
We are each powerless over others, which relieves us of a great burden. Controlling our own behavior is a big enough job. Learning to behave responsibly takes practice. Most of us in this recovery program have behaved irresponsibly for much of our lives. Emotional immaturity is slow to depart, but every responsible action we take gives us the courage for another - and then another. Our own fulfillment is the by-product of the accumulation of our own responsible actions. Others' actions need not concern us.
Today, I will weigh my behavior carefully. Responsible behavior builds gladness of heart.
From Each Day a New Beginning: Daily Meditations for Women by Karen Casey
Erasing Old Tapes___Living Today
The human brain works like a tape recorder. With great fidelity, this built-in recorder stores up old memories that are recalled at surprising times. There are two kinds of these "old tapes" that are dangerous to the recovering alcoholic/addict.
If we examine every disturbance we have, great or small,
we will find at the root of it some unhealthy dependency
and its consequent unhealthy demand. Let us, with God's help,
continually surrender these hobbling demands.
Then we can be set free to live and love. . .
Of course I haven't offered you a really new idea -- only a gimmick
that has started to unhook several of my own "hexes" at depth.
- The Language of the Heart, p. 238
Thought to Ponder . . .
We surrender to win.
AA-related 'Alconym' . . .
K I S S = Keep It Simple, Surrender.